« previous next »
Pages: [1]   Go Down

Author Topic: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy  (Read 1917 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline CC27

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 6162
  • Reputation: +1754/-29
The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« on: August 15, 2016, 04:49:08 PM »
Quote
left-of-center2012 (3,548 posts)

The cost of being a loner


After a divorce 25 years ago; after three different friends over time borrowed several hundred dollars and none of them attempted to repay me; I just withdrew into myself.

Thinking I’m going to end up getting hurt or used, so why extend the effort to form friendships, relationships.
And I became a recluse, hermit, loner.

I live in a one bedroom apartment, in the city. I pretty much stay home except to go grocery shopping; and increasingly to the doctors and pharmacies.
I’m 70 now. Disabled. Walk short distances with a cane. Use Uber to get about.

Haven’t needed, wanted friends. No one close.

And now my doctor wants me to have a medical exam where I’ll be sedated for about three hours.
I must have someone drive me to the exam; wait for me; and drive me home.

I have no one who(m) I can ask to drive me and wait.

I can’t arrive in a cab, or Uber, or bus. The doc insists on me having someone drive me, and who will wait. Fo insurance reasons, they can’t risk me trying to get home alone in a cab, etc and possibly falling, etc as I’ll be recovering from the anesthesia.

I’ve asked a couple people I don’t really know if they would do it for money;
and hopefully one will do it for $50.

The cost of being a ‘loner’.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10028098271

What a weird story.
Logged

Offline Carl

  • Global Moderator
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 19839
  • Reputation: +1618/-100
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2016, 05:33:52 PM »
The cost of being a miserable asshole is the reality of the situation.
Logged

Offline 98ZJUSMC

  • The Most Deplorable
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 8424
  • Reputation: +436/-76
  • Now, with 99% less yellow!
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2016, 11:23:53 PM »
B-b-b-b-but, cities are the epicenter of all the joy on earf. 

Logged
              

Liberal thinking is a two-legged stool and magical thinking is one of the legs, the other is a combination of self-loating and misanthropy.  To understand it, you would have to be able to sit on that stool while juggling two elephants, an anvil and a fragmentation grenade, sans pin.

"Accuse others of what you do." - Karl Marx

Offline Karin

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 17752
  • Reputation: +1895/-81
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2016, 07:10:38 AM »
Quote


Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)

Sun Aug 14, 2016, 08:36 PM

mrmpa (3,417 posts)

8. ...
If there is a church or synagogue you attend give them a call, someone might be available to volunteer

Once again, after bashing Christianity ad nauseum, they turn to a church when it's convenient. 

Then there's this:

Quote



Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)

Mon Aug 15, 2016, 06:47 AM

jcboon (179 posts)

62. Churches and religious organizations
 
Pick one that doesn't seem obnoxious an attend regularly.
Once a month will do.
You can get to know people in a comfortably distant way.
Our church people will give rides and leave you alone when you want them to.
You don't have to be a believer to use the services.

Logged

Offline SVPete

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 29489
  • Reputation: +3265/-248
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #4 on: August 16, 2016, 08:08:04 AM »
Yeah, Simon & Garfunkel didn't know what they were talking about:

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKlSVNxLB-A[/youtube]

Or maybe satiric. My Dad reached that lonely stage, but for a different reason. He was in his late 80s, and almost all of the people with whom he had grown up had predeceased him (and the very few who had not were unable to get around).

I wonder whether l-o-c2012 may have, partly, been trying to gently warn other DU-folk against cutting off family and friends too lightly.

And, yeah, Karin, that is one of the strange yet consistent paradoxes of DU. They trash Christians, yet when some sort of personal trouble comes, guess who they advise each other to turn to. Even secular (not religious or irreligious) food banks here in Silicon Valley partner with churches either as independent but cooperative food banks or as distribution points. It takes a special kind of willful blindness not to see the direct and indirect ties between humanitarian charities in Western culture and Christianity.
Logged
If The Vaccine is deadly as anti-Covid-vaxxers claim, millions now living would have died.

Offline Big Dog

  • ^^Smokes cigars and knows things.
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 15581
  • Reputation: +1954/-213
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #5 on: August 16, 2016, 08:29:43 AM »
Quote
A primitive of no prominence

You don't have to be a believer to use the services.

And he does mean use.
Logged
Government is the negation of liberty.
  -Ludwig von Mises

CAVE FVROREM PATIENTIS.

Offline Carl

  • Global Moderator
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 19839
  • Reputation: +1618/-100
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #6 on: August 16, 2016, 08:51:10 AM »
Quote
Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)

Sun Aug 14, 2016, 08:39 PM

Star Member Skittles (108,197 posts)
9. hey

I hear you on being a loner - I very much keep to myself and have only a few close friends who aren't alwasy available (no family nearby)....but while I am comfortable being alone, you sound depressed and would probably benefit from some counseling

someone is always here on DU for you, left-of-center201

That is just what they need,a legion of you dark,ugly souls all wailing about how you can`t get on with others.
Logged

Offline Big Dog

  • ^^Smokes cigars and knows things.
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 15581
  • Reputation: +1954/-213
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #7 on: August 16, 2016, 09:56:02 AM »
Quote from: Carl on August 16, 2016, 08:51:10 AM
That is just what they need,a legion of you dark,ugly souls all wailing about how you can`t get on with others.

AKA 'The Near-Suicide Squad'.
Logged
Government is the negation of liberty.
  -Ludwig von Mises

CAVE FVROREM PATIENTIS.

Offline Carl

  • Global Moderator
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 19839
  • Reputation: +1618/-100
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #8 on: August 16, 2016, 11:23:55 AM »
Quote from: Big Dog on August 16, 2016, 09:56:02 AM
AKA 'The Near-Suicide Squad'.

They need to forget about the "near" part.  :-)
Logged

Offline jukin

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 16245
  • Reputation: +2124/-170
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #9 on: August 16, 2016, 11:31:16 AM »
I'm a compassionate soul so for a mere five dollars I will send the DUche two single edged razor blades and instructions to go down the lane.
Logged
When you are the beneficiary of someone’s kindness and generosity, it produces a sense of gratitude and community.

When you are the beneficiary of a policy that steals from someone and gives it to you in return for your vote, it produces a sense of entitlement and dependency.

Offline I_B_Perky

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 7532
  • Reputation: +721/-329
Re: The cost of being a loner. Bouncy
« Reply #10 on: August 16, 2016, 06:20:06 PM »
Quote from: jukin on August 16, 2016, 11:31:16 AM
I'm a compassionate soul so for a mere five dollars I will send the DUche two single edged razor blades and instructions to go down the lane.

I'll pay you the five bucks.   :hyper:
Logged
Living in the Dummies minds rent free since 2009!

Montani Semper Liberi
Pages: [1]   Go Up
« previous next »