Tubby Tobin pens a note to perpetually erect stevenumbers in the nuthatch

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Mon Jun 6, 2016, 12:22 AM
Star Member Tobin S. (8,732 posts)

For steve2470 and anyone else suffering from being too sensitive.

I've been thinking about this subject for a while now. A thought occurred to me recently when I found myself in the throes of cringe-worthy memories from the past. I'm okay with the present now days and there's not much a stranger or an ordinary acquaintance can say that will bother me too much. Now days when someone tries to get under my skin, I simply kill them with kindness. I'm laid back and easy going. I don't ruffle anyone's feathers usually, either. If I do, it's not from conscious intent. It's simply a misunderstanding.

But, yeah, back to that thought that occurred to me. I found myself worrying about some shit that doesn't really matter anymore the other day and I was causing myself some anxiety. Then I thought, "You are doing this to yourself." And I let it go.

Let me preface my explanation by saying, yes, go to therapy, take your meds and take care of yourself. I take meds and my life would be hell without them. They put me in a better place where I can think clearly and logically, and productively work on myself.

I think that people tend to cause themselves a lot of the stress and anxiety that they feel. They can't let go of things. They have forgotten how to say "**** it" and forget about it. I'm not talking about big issues. I'm talking about trivial matters that eat us up inside even though they don't matter much in the big scheme of things. We do it to ourselves. I'm still working on this, but it seems to me to have great potential for developing a calmer state of mind.

I'm not talking about taking things laying down. Don't let people rumble over you. Stand up for yourself if someone is disrespecting you. The thing about sensitive people is that those who think they are tougher and who lack empathy will bully them. Don't take any shit. Hit back in the metaphorical sense. Most of the time all you have to do is stand up for yourself one time and they'll at least leave you alone. We're talking about reality here and not the realm of anonymous message boards where people really don't have to deal with the consequences of what they say. If you don't like to argue, just stick to the social forums. That's what I do and DU never stresses me out.

So the next time you find yourself stressed out and anxious, just stop and think, "Am I doing this to myself?" I bet that a lot of the time you will find that you are, and you will begin to let go of that obsessive thinking. Just stop the thought process. Take a look at your surroundings. Observe the moment. Maybe you will find relief. I know it works for me.

Mon Jun 6, 2016, 12:33 AM
Star Member CaliforniaPeggy (119,530 posts)
1. Those are very good thoughts, my dear Tobin!

Maybe I'm not too old to try and learn to do that.

I'm pretty sure you're too old for anything but dying anymore, Calpig.  If you're not going to write us anymore poems, crawl back into your crypt and go away.

Mon Jun 6, 2016, 12:37 AM
Star Member Tobin S. (8,732 posts)
2. Nah. The only thing that people get too old to do is physical stuff.

The mind is usually able no matter how old you are.

Wile E. Tobin, Genius, who has been blessed with the all the ignorance and mental capacity of an eight year old his whole life, expunges some wisdom.

Mon Jun 6, 2016, 01:37 AM
ErikJ (5,893 posts)
4. Yes its weird how your mind can get so

worked up in a lather about something that a few months later u have forgotten completely or trivialize like, what the hell was I thinking?
Its like a chemical takes over your brain and makes you crazy emotional.

Spring of 2015 I had a major one of those where I had to make a life changing decision and I started to have a mental breakdown which led to more minor mistakes and meltdowns. lol. But my obsessive delaying and troubles actually led to the perfect better outcome. A silver lining kind of. Now I am happy as could be about the whole thing a year later. Ha.

Drugs are bad, mkay?

[Big Dog]

"Meds".

Funny how that word just rolls off their tongues.

[SVPete]

Mon Jun 6, 2016, 12:37 AM
Star Member Tobin S. (8,732 posts)
2. Nah. The only thing that people get too old to do is physical stuff.

The mind is usually able no matter how old you are.

That was simply stupid and ignorant. The dude needs to spend some time in the Alzheimer's (and other dementia) unit in a skilled nursing facility. The doors are "locked", because the patients are not very aware of what they are doing, but are ambulatory enough to wander away.

My Dad's second wife (they married after my Mom died) died because of dementia. Physically she was healthy enough, but the dementia took her to the point where she stopped eating and drinking.

How Tobs could be older than age 25 or 30 and not be aware of such things is something I don't understand. I guess it's just another tiny example of how hollow Libs' and Progs' "caring" is when it comes to real life around them.