Landa Miles is using a great example of the either/or fallacy in logic. A person can feel sorry for both the perpetrator and the victim. I feel sorry for Jared that he was either born or made himself in to a pervert. I do not feel sorry for him for his crimes. I also feel sorry for the victims. Jared's failure to control his unnatural urges has damaged his life and the lifes of those he violated.
We all have our vices and to give in to them is to become enslaved to them. Jared became a slave to his deviant desires and gave them life. From that point of view he deserves pity. However, by acting upon them he deserves no sympathy what so ever. He knew his actions were wrong and that his why he hid them. That is a personal admission of guilt and wrong doing.
Feeling some sympathy for the man who became a monster however, does not preclude me for feeling for his victims. Jared is completely at fault and blame falls squarely on his shoulders.