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bijou · « **on:** July 22, 2008, 03:43:36 PM »

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MorningGlow (1000+ posts) Wed Jul-16-08 10:07 PM
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A (crystal) child that feels too much?
Advertisements [?]Oh dear, MG Jr. is only 4; I know we have many years of crises ahead of us...and yet, here's the first one, and of course it's worrying me no end.

He said yesterday that he had to tell me a secret that he'd been keeping for a long time ("the whole time I've been 4," he said). He said he feels sad all the time--even when he's happy, he still has a part of his mind that feels sad. He said he feels like crying when bad things happen to characters on TV shows, in books, etc. And sometimes he just feels like crying for no reason.

So we talked for a while about being an empath (dammit, he had to inherit THAT from me?) and what that means. I taught him how to bring up his shield. I told him about Kwan Yin and even put her statue, and the rest of the items I have for her altar, in his room. I said he could talk to Kwan Yin anytime, because she understands about compassion. And of course he should always talk to me. Each night, I've been asking him to tell me a few things that make him happy, so he doesn't focus too much on that sad feeling. And each night I've been asking Kwan Yin to watch over him.

I'm not sure what else to do. I know he'll be all right in the long run, because I was EXACTLY the same way at his age--I cried at the drop of a hat over just about anything that pushed my buttons (remember the commercial about pollution with the crying Indian? that would set me off for half an hour every time). I'm still that way, to an extent (don't show me a Hallmark commercial unless you've got stock in Kleenex!)

But...I don't want my kid to be sad! I don't want him to be so exposed to the world that he absorbs other people's emotions! (When he was really small--not even 2--he would get upset if he heard another child crying and couldn't differentiate between what he was feeling and what the other child was feeling.)

Oh my poor kid. Sigh. Just needed to get that off my chest, I guess.

It is always possible her little one is going through a phase (I don't have children so I couldn't say) but surely some children are more sensitive than others. However the Astro forum is really the last place to go for advice judging by the tsunami of responses which are too long and many to bring over.

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TheSarge · « **Reply #1 on:** July 22, 2008, 03:49:23 PM »

Kids will claim to be said even when their happy just because their newest Yu-gi-oh card pack didn't come with Blue-eyed White Dragon.

DUmmies shouldn't be allowed to hand out advice on raising Hamsters much less kids.

dutch508 · « **Reply #2 on:** July 22, 2008, 03:50:48 PM »

oh, my ****ing God. They wonder why the little kid is screwed up!?

So we talked for a while about being an empath (dammit, he had to inherit THAT from me?) and what that means. I taught him how to bring up his shield. I told him about Kwan Yin and even put her statue, and the rest of the items I have for her altar, in his room.

there is your problem, Mam. You are a fruitcake.

BlueStateSaint · « **Reply #3 on:** July 22, 2008, 03:57:43 PM »

My nine-month-old, who is a little (but growing rapidly) angel, would kick the ass of this "empath" in about five minutes. At nine months old.

DumbAss Tanker · « **Reply #4 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:11:52 PM »

I feel for the kid, though I suspect a lot of the current state is due to starting out with a psycho (excuse me, "Psychic") parent. Fortunately I have never been cursed with excessively empathic feelings about potential targets (Oh, excuse me again, "Other living things").

Zafod Beeblebrox · « **Reply #5 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:13:50 PM »

Quote from: dutch508 on July 22, 2008, 03:50:48 PM

oh, my ******* God. They wonder why the little kid is screwed up!?

So we talked for a while about being an empath (dammit, he had to inherit THAT from me?) and what that means. I taught him how to bring up his shield. I told him about Kwan Yin and even put her statue, and the rest of the items I have for her altar, in his room.

there is your problem, Mam. You are a fruitcake.

No shit.

My son is sad because I wont let him eat a whole box of graham crackers in one sitting.

I guess I need to channel the mystic spirit of the the great wanahockaloogee and request that he fill my son with white light......

Chris_ · « **Reply #6 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:16:44 PM »

Isn't that great spirit copyrighted? [/sarcasm]

Splashdown · « **Reply #7 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:17:26 PM »

There just are no words.

PatriotGame · « **Reply #8 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:38:59 PM »

Looks like MorningGlow is carrying on her parents traditions of continual bong sucking and acid dropping while conceiving, bearing, and raising children.
The kid will end up the same as his mother - psychologically stunted, socially engineered, and mentally deranged for life.
Looks like the village has another candidate for king.

Chris_ · « **Reply #9 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:45:30 PM »

Bounce, bounce. Four-year-olds aren't developed enough to talk or think in that way. Negative 200 bongs and two glasses of ice water, one to drink and one to douse the DUmmy with for this non sense.

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MorningGlow (1000+ posts) Sat Jul-19-08 06:22 PM
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56. It always seems to me that they're grasping at straws
They want so desperately to label everyone who isn't "dead average" with some sort of affliction and then medicate the hell out of them to bring them down to "dead average".

Common sense on DU? That won't last long. MorningGlow does have it right, but that's the entire point of socialism. She'll be TSed by evening.

miskie · « **Reply #10 on:** July 22, 2008, 04:47:37 PM »

retarded. All children that young are emotional rollercoasters. The part of the mind that regulates and controls emotional response isn't fully developed, which is why a young kid can go from laughing like a madman to angry or sad in a nanosecond. They also have poor impulse control, and that makes the emotional responses even worse.

Your kid will grow out of it - unless you manage to turn your child into some poor-lost-misunderstood-emokid.

Happy Fun Ball · « **Reply #11 on:** July 22, 2008, 05:07:30 PM »

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A (moonbat) child that feels too much?

Oh dear, MG Jr. is only 49; I know we have many years of crises ahead of us...and yet, here's the first one, and of course it's worrying me no end.

He said yesterday that he had to tell me a secret that he'd been keeping for a long time ("the whole time I've been 49," he said). He said he feels sad all the time--even when he's happy, he still has a part of his mind that feels sad. He said he feels like crying when bad things happen to characters on TV shows, in books, etc. And sometimes he just feels like crying for no reason.

So we talked for a while about his bad luck with his saving throws (dammit, he had to inherit THAT from me?) and what that means. I taught him how to bring up his +3 Shield of Bongs, gave him my Glowing Disco Spear of Incoherent Babbling, and told him to wear his Girdle of Opposite Gender that was once owned by a lumberjack. I told him about Moolor, the cow god and even put his statue, and the rest of the items I have for his altar, in his room. I said he could talk to Moolor anytime, because he understands about compassion and haggis. And of course he should always talk to me. Each night, I've been asking him to tell me a few things that make him happy, so he doesn't focus too much on that sad feeling. And each night I've been asking Moolor to watch over him and to please not eat him just yet.

I'm not sure what else to do. I know he'll be all right in the long run, because I was EXACTLY the same way at his age--I cried at the drop of a hat over just about anything that pushed my buttons (every time I see Bush or Cheney, for instance, or especially Reagan). I'm still that way, to an extent (don't show me a map of the 2004 election unless you've got stock in Kleenex!)

But...I don't want my kid to be sad! I don't want him to be exposed to the world so that he absorbs other people's emotions! I especially don't want him to meet any of those filthy right-wingers who will just pollute his mind with such nonsense as "responsibility", or worse, "religion"! BLECH! (When he was really small--not even 25--he would get upset if he heard another child crying and couldn't differentiate between what he was feeling and what the other child was feeling.)

Oh my poor kid. Sigh. Just needed to get that off my chest, I guess.

Fixed...

JohnnyReb · « **Reply #12 on:** July 22, 2008, 05:52:34 PM »

Unfortunately, it appears that Moonbattery can be inherited. ....and encouraged.

Chris_ · « **Reply #13 on:** July 22, 2008, 05:55:28 PM »

MG Jrs last art project:

dutch508 · « **Reply #14 on:** July 22, 2008, 06:16:12 PM »

Quote from: freedumb2003 on July 22, 2008, 05:55:28 PM

MG Jrs last art project:

THAT'S NOT A BRASS POLE!!!

bitchslapped for erronious eroticism...

asdf2231 · « **Reply #15 on:** July 22, 2008, 06:25:05 PM »

The ONLY parenting advice you ever need:

Vagabond · « **Reply #16 on:** July 22, 2008, 07:05:45 PM »

This kid ought to meet my kid. A boy that was four months older than her when she was three tried to bully her. She actually slapped him to the ground and jumped on him. His parents say that was the last incident they know of that he tried to bully another kid.

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Carl · « **Reply #17 on:** July 22, 2008, 08:31:44 PM »

Quote from: dutch508 on July 22, 2008, 03:50:48 PM

oh, my ******* God. They wonder why the little kid is screwed up!?

So we talked for a while about being an empath (dammit, he had to inherit THAT from me?) and what that means. I taught him how to bring up his shield. I told him about Kwan Yin and even put her statue, and the rest of the items I have for her altar, in his room.

there is your problem, Mam. You are a fruitcake.

I bet if she had reported that she told the boy about Gods love and care through Christs work for us on the cross and with that knowledge he doesn`t need to be sad the DUmmies would want to take the kid away from her.

DixieBelle · « **Reply #18 on:** July 23, 2008, 08:35:31 AM »

Oh my. Feeding the delusions there DU?

bijou · « **Reply #19 on:** July 23, 2008, 08:55:38 AM »

Quote from: DixieBelle on July 23, 2008, 08:35:31 AM

Oh my. Feeding the delusions there DU?

Yup, her and the 'support group'.

VivisMom · « **Reply #20 on:** July 23, 2008, 02:27:39 PM »

Holy. Shit. WTF is WITH these people?

Seriously? Some kids are just more sensitive than others. I was a sensitive kid-I cried for 30 minutes when they froze Han Solo in the carbonite. I was totally and utterly distraught. But my parents didn't sit me down and fill my head with this 'empath' mumbo-jumbo; they told me it was just a movie, and that Han Solo wasn't real, and to get over it.

This kid is going to get the shit kicked out of him in high school.

PatriotGame · « **Reply #21 on:** July 23, 2008, 06:51:51 PM »

Quote from: VivisMom on July 23, 2008, 02:27:39 PM

Holy. Shit. WTF is WITH these people?

Seriously? Some kids are just more sensitive than others. I was a sensitive kid-I cried for 30 minutes when they froze Han Solo in the carbonite. I was totally and utterly distraught.

Goodness - I would presume that a discussion over Bambi is out of the question then?

VivisMom · « **Reply #22 on:** July 23, 2008, 07:48:37 PM »

Quote from: PatriotGame on July 23, 2008, 06:51:51 PM

Quote from: VivisMom on July 23, 2008, 02:27:39 PM
Holy. Shit. WTF is WITH these people?

Seriously? Some kids are just more sensitive than others. I was a sensitive kid-I cried for 30 minutes when they froze Han Solo in the carbonite. I was totally and utterly distraught.
Goodness - I would presume that a discussion over Bambi is out of the question then?

What? Bambi and his mom live happily ever after in the forest...don't they?? :clueless:

Chris_ · « **Reply #23 on:** July 23, 2008, 08:01:49 PM »

Quote from: VivisMom on July 23, 2008, 02:27:39 PM

Seriously? Some kids are just more sensitive than others. I was a sensitive kid-I cried for 30 minutes when they froze Han Solo in the carbonite. I was totally and utterly distraught. But my parents didn't sit me down and fill my head with this 'empath' mumbo-jumbo; they told me it was just a movie, and that Han Solo wasn't real, and to get over it.

DixieBelle · « **Reply #24 on:** July 23, 2008, 08:10:09 PM »

LOL Chris. I had to stare at that for a minute to get it....cute!

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