loony bin primitives check in with yet another campfire on family problems

[BattleHymn]

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Sun Dec 14, 2014, 07:50 PM
Star Member Tobin S. (7,008 posts)

****ing family issues during the holidays

I have a sister who is twelve years younger than me. Our parents made huge mistakes with us when we were growing up. I've made my peace with it, but my sister has not.

There was an issue with her and my dad this evening while we were having an early Christmas celebration. It pretty much ruined the whole deal. Many tears are being shed this evening.

My sister needs a talk therapist in the worst way. She cannot afford one. Her insurance does not adequately cover it. I wish there was something I could do. I had a conversation with her about it this evening and I've never felt so helpless.

Sun Dec 14, 2014, 08:28 PM
Star Member CaliforniaPeggy (112,777 posts)
2. I'm so sorry, my dear Tobin...

The holidays are supposed to be happy times, and sometimes the pressure of "supposed to" can make things worse.

I remember a long time ago when I needed such a therapist, and a friend told me about a mental health clinic where people who were becoming marriage and family therapists did talk therapy. But the cool thing was the fees were on a sliding scale. You paid what you could afford to pay. This was because the therapists were students nearing the end of their training, and were working under the supervision of licensed therapists. It was a great setup.

There might be such a place near your sister. I don't know how you go about finding such a place, I'm sorry to say.

I hope she can get some help.

Calpig suggests the primitive treat his sister's mental health like those that visit a dentistry school intern. 

Mon Dec 15, 2014, 12:12 AM
Star Member mopinko (42,721 posts)
5. ugh. gonna be a tough one around here, too.

i almost have the nerve to go to my sister's for an early xmas. havent been in a while, but with so much going on, and after a ****ing lonely thanksgiving, i really want to go. got to see one of the nephews a while ago, and it's the kids i miss. my sisters can go.....

i dread who i will run into, i sure hope my middle daughter was not planning on coming. tho i doubt she will if i do.
havent spoken to her since the divorce thing started, and not looking forward to it. she is really seeing the whole thing through a lens of unacknowledged malfunction. so sucked into the drama.
only really talking to one of the 4 kids.

best of luck w your sister. does she want to see someone? do you talk to her often? is her life ok?

i just want to hibernate. pretend it isnt happening.
so many shake ups.

i know one thing about the holidays, tho. i am gonna be soooooooooooooo glad to see a new year.

Big Mo and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Year

Tue Dec 16, 2014, 12:42 PM
olddots (4,919 posts)
6. every year I wonder how we all pull thru this

It seems to get worse not better but somehow the holiday festivities of fake joy and warmth go away .
We were so hyped about the TV holidays all fuzzy &warm and life isn't like that so reality seems surreally misserable .The father in law has a 3 minute memory and spews mean shit while our daughter melts down every 2 minutes .I just want to die or be a million miles away in my own TV dream world or find some substance to make it all go away but **** it because it will happen again and again

Tue Dec 16, 2014, 12:54 PM
Star Member steve2470 (25,119 posts)
7. about a therapist....

Does your county have a mental health center ? It should.

http://aspirehealthpartners.com/program-details/?program=52

That's an example from my county. If you type into Google the words mental health services "my county" with the name of your county and state, you should find the closest mental health center. Worst case scenario, it might be the county next to yours.

Good luck, and I'll help you if you need more help.

stevenumbers, the serial masturbator, offers to, ahem, "help" the tobin primitive's sister. 

Tue Dec 16, 2014, 06:02 PM
Star Member hunter (20,585 posts)
8. I'm ready to abandon Christmas.

If I'm posting as a stinky homeless person from a public library next year, that may be one of the reasons.

I'm envying my parents today. They moved away to a remote tropical place where they can mostly ignore the holiday.

 

[zeitgeist]

"abandon hope all ye who post on this thread' read the sigh over Skin's, truants, vagrants, malcontents, and orphan's web portal door or something like that.

Yes, the truth is leftists are no less miserable any day of the year.  It is simply the way they are.  Happiness is a transcendental concept based on misery for them.  They are not happy unless they are miserable and if they can make someone else as miserable or more miserable then themselves then they become ecstatic (in a bizzaro world sort of way). I think it may many tokes and bong water to fully understand the concept.   

[BattleHymn]

"abandon hope all ye who post on this thread' read the sigh over Skin's, truants, vagrants, malcontents, and orphan's web portal door or something like that.

Yes, the truth is leftists are no less miserable any day of the year.  It is simply the way they are.  Happiness is a transcendental concept based on misery for them.  They are not happy unless they are miserable and if they can make someone else as miserable or more miserable then themselves then they become ecstatic

[freedumb2003b]

I am REALLY disappointed with the family bouncies this year (and related holiday depression threads) from the DUmmies.

It is almost as if they aren't even TRYING.  The depression isn't nearly close enough to suicide (my favorites) and we didn't even get the Thanksgiving "I made my rethug BIL storm out of the house"  (or I missed it).

All in all, the DUmmies just don't have the antiholiday spirit we have come to depend on.

Who put milk in  their Cheerios?

[tanstaafl]

Star Member CaliforniaPeggy (112,777 posts)
2. I'm so sorry, my dear Tobin...

The holidays are supposed to be happy times, and sometimes the pressure of "supposed to" can make things worse.

I remember a long time ago when I needed such a therapist, and a friend told me about a mental health clinic where people who were becoming marriage and family therapists did talk therapy. But the cool thing was the fees were on a sliding scale. You paid what you could afford to pay. This was because the therapists were students nearing the end of their training, and were working under the supervision of licensed therapists. It was a great setup.

There might be such a place near your sister. I don't know how you go about finding such a place, I'm sorry to say.

I hope she can get some help.

What?!? No poem? Calpiggy needs to bust loose with some rhymes, yo.

Y'know, the true mark of a DUmmie is that they just can't reconcile with the fact that, sometimes, an "I'm sorry." will clear up a lot of 'heat of the moment' type of intra-sibling and parental unit/offspring.

But, they're DUmmies. So, other than Calpig not giving up a haiku, or at least a limerick, what did you expect.

[GOBUCKS]

Tue Dec 16, 2014, 12:54 PM
Star Member steve2470 (25,119 posts)
7. about a therapist....

Does your county have a mental health center ? It should.

Good luck, and I'll help you if you need more help.

Steve wants a photo of that sister.