redqueen (100,580 posts)
10. Does not realizing that it's benevolent sexism make it any less an example of benevolent sexism?
I wonder just how many men even still think and act this way.
I'd think most men would hold the door open for other men, too. I haven't really paid much attention. I do notice the shocked looks when I open the door for men, though. And some men will even refuse to go through, and insist that I go first.
The way I see it, simply not knowing the context, or not knowing it's benevolent sexism doesn't make it any less sexist.
I do agree that people should stop being defensive and just learn. We've all done many stupid things out of ignorance. The important thing is to not be resistant to information simply because your fee fees are hurt or you feel all personally insulted. That ego-serving bullshit helps no one, least of all the person deciding to become knowledge-resistant because it helps assuage their ego.
So let me get this straight. Its sexist to be polite? How the hell is opening a door for someone ego-serving bullshit? All this B.S. is, is someone justifying their $100,000 in student loans from Wellesley in Gender Studies with this unmitigated tripe. Here's a hint for you DUche, not everything is sexism. And if you want to have a door slammed in your face, come to NC and act like an idiot. We will be more than happy to oblige.
Signed,
A Yankee transplant in North Carolina
P.S. Everyone is not the same, not everyone gets a trophy and no Redqueen, there is no Santa Claus for you.