« Reply #25 on: December 30, 2010, 01:48:06 PM »
Don't you think she already went totally postal?
Maybe I do have too much pity for her. I don't have empathy or sympathy for her actions....but I do pity her because her child died. I don't know what I would do if I lost one of my children....particularly if it was under circumstances that I may have been able to prevent.
My grandmother was never the same after my mother was killed in a car accident. No, she did not go crazy, just became very very sad, because my mother was her only daughter. Could my grandmother have prevented it, no. It was not a "preventable" circumstance, except maybe by me.
My ex mother-in-law and father-in-law were considerably different after their youngest died of a drug overdose....in jail. The MIL was already an unreasonable woman and became much worse, including her use of alcohol and Rx drugs. FIL had his own issues. They had a lot of guilt. If they had bailed him out, maybe he wouldn't have ended up dead. If they had done a lot of things differently....it may all have been prevented.
My ex sister-in-law lost a 5wk old daughter to SIDS. I didn't know her when it happened, but maybe she would have treated her next child, another girl, differently/better if she hadn't lost the first or if the next child had been a boy. Was it preventable? No. I never even liked the woman, but I still felt sorry for her that she had lost a child.
Think of all the mothers who have lost their children due to war. I don't know any personally, but that doesn't stop me from feeling sorry for them.
Children aren't supposed to die before their parents....
You seem to be a very compassionate person debk and I totally understand what you are feeling. But no, snapping and trying to kill your husband 2x by torching him comes from some evil inside this woman, IMO.

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