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[Eupher]

That is awkward...

Vivismom, I think your answer is perfect.  Perfectly truthful, too. 

debk, you shocked me a little bit with that kid in the delivery room thing.  I guess I shouldn't be shocked, people do that?  Bring 4 year olds in?  Any kid in?  It isn't a birthday party.  I can't stand all the modern moonbatty trendy stuff people are doing surrounding childbirth. 

My mom never told us about any of this stuff.  I learned it at slumber parties.     Didn't believe it at first, either. 

Ah HA! There is a REASON for slumber parties! I knew it all along!    

[cmypay]

Kind of off topic....
We just had this discussion last night, as my daughter is thinking of having a 3rd child. She had both of hers by C-section, the dr asked her if she wanted him to cut in the same place as her first when she went in for the second delivery. She said of course. Her best friend has had 2 and has 2 separate incisions. Has your's asked yet? We couldn't figure out why it wouldn't be in the same place.

I had two of three via c-section.  With the second c-section my dr explained that he would do his best to go into the same scar, but if there is scar tissue overgrowth, they would have to make a second incision.  My dr was very nice a did a bit of a tummy tuck along with the c-section, since we made permanent arrangements for birth control at the same time.

[debk]

I had two of three via c-section.  With the second c-section my dr explained that he would do his best to go into the same scar, but if there is scar tissue overgrowth, they would have to make a second incision.  My dr was very nice a did a bit of a tummy tuck along with the c-section, since we made permanent arrangements for birth control at the same time.

Ah, I didn't think about the scar tissue.

I don't know what my daughter's doctor is doing when he does hers, but she looks fabulous, has a concave belly and even wears bikinis!! 

[Karin]

Oooo I don't think I'd care for a mirror either.  Even getting dental work done, I make them tip the mirror up.  Nope, too squeamish for medical things. 

My husband went to the hospital when his daughter was in labor, but when things got heavy-duty, his ex-wife shooed him out of the room..."you don't want to be in here."  "You're right."  Go pace and smoke outside like in the old days.  I'm hopelessly old-fashioned. 

[Max]

Oooo I don't think I'd care for a mirror either.  Even getting dental work done, I make them tip the mirror up.  Nope, too squeamish for medical things. 

My husband went to the hospital when his daughter was in labor, but when things got heavy-duty, his ex-wife shooed him out of the room..."you don't want to be in here."  "You're right."  Go pace and smoke outside like in the old days.  I'm hopelessly old-fashioned. 

No mirrors for me, I had my husband drape a sheet over it all three times.   Some things I didn't even want to see.

[Alpha Mare]

No mirrors for me, I had my husband drape a sheet over it all three times.   Some things I didn't even want to see.

I didn't watch any of mine either. I did see my 1st granddaughter born- won't do that again!

[debk]

I didn't watch any of mine either. I did see my 1st granddaughter born- won't do that again!

Seriously, just how many mothers really want to watch the child coming out?

By the time we get to that point - after 9 months of carrying the child in our bodies, the fear of wondering if it's going to be healthy - let alone whether or not it's going to "fit" in order to get out, several hours of anywhere from discomfort to intense pain of feeling like we are being ripped apart on The Rack, -  do we reaaallllllllllly want to watch the child come out?

We just want it OUT!!! 


Heard on a news brief earlier this afternoon....that some hospitals are banning fathers taking pictures of their babies being born... thought that was kind of interesting since it's part of this topic. We are just soooo au courant.    

[VivisMom]

If you are having a C-section, that makes the next question easy too! Mommy's going to the hospital and the doctor is going to take the baby out of her stomach. You will have the bandage on to show her if she asks.



Kind of off topic....
We just had this discussion last night, as my daughter is thinking of having a 3rd child. She had both of hers by C-section, the dr asked her if she wanted him to cut in the same place as her first when she went in for the second delivery. She said of course. Her best friend has had 2 and has 2 separate incisions. Has your's asked yet? We couldn't figure out why it wouldn't be in the same place.

Mine hasn't asked yet, but she knows I had one the last time so I am assuming that she will try pretty hard to get the incision in the same place.

With Vivi, I was actually in labor for 12 hours, and I had my parents and husband in the room with me. It was nice to have company, but it would have been nicer for my husband and father to let the woman birthing choose what was on the damn television. 

Since I'm scheduled this time, my dad is coming over to stay with Vivi while my husband and I go to the hospital, and my in-laws will be coming later that week (my MIL is currently a nurse in an OB/GYN office and was a mother/baby nurse for years.) 

This article is why I think the home birth/lets have the kids watch mommy have a baby people are effing insane.

[jtyangel]

That reminds me, when I was in college I worked in a 2nd grade classroom for a while as a teacher's assistant.  One time was helping two little girls with some work, and one asked "Miss --------, are you married" so I told her no, then she asked "Do you have any kids," and the other little girl interrupted to tell her that you had to be married to have kids.  They started arguing about it, then asked me if you had to be married to have kids.  Awkward...

LOL..yep and that's about 4 years older then her girl so that's a point to address it. But yeah, that would be difficult since I know you probably felt like this was 'parent territory'. Those or the things I feel for where teachers are concerned and I'm sure they get awkward questions that could step on parents toes all the time--especially elementary school teachers.

[jtyangel]

Yup, me too.  Just like braces!

That's not true? In my defense, I never wore braces. But my daughter is getting them soon.

[IassaFTots]

That's not true? In my defense, I never wore braces. But my daughter is getting them soon.

I dunno.  I never knew anyone that it happened to, and almost everyone I knew had braces, including myself.  I wouldn't be surprised to find out if that was an urban legend perpetuated by parents to keep their kids from smooching.