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Offline Tess Anderson

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"I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« on: December 07, 2010, 04:35:33 PM »
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Well, in the offchance "lighteningand show" may be reading this, I think you're better off without "the community" and this "queer":

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lightningandsnow  (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 04:27 PM
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I have been harmed by someone in the activist community.
   
My ex-girlfriend, a queer, politically active woman of color who listed her political views on facebook as "anti-oppression warrior", was emotionally abusive to me.

I was having mental health issues at the time, and she would constantly berate me for it. She would tell me things like "You have no right to be depressed; you're a privileged white girl." She would often be angry with me and not tell me why; I walked on eggshells with her. When we broke up, she yelled at me for ten straight minutes about how I was a horrible person with no redeeming qualities. Months after we broke up, she wrote several blog posts about me, calling me the girlfriend from hell and telling everyone what a psycho I was.

She completely and utterly destroyed my self-esteem. She cut me off from a lot of my friends and the "community". When I tried to tell my friends what had happened to me, they'd say things like:

"Clearly, you hurt her and she hurt you. Hopefully you'll be able to work through it some day."

"I don't believe you. She would never say anything like that."

"I can't talk to you about this; I don't want to get involved in drama."

"You brought this on yourself."

They believed that someone with awesome radical politics could never cause harm to someone else. However, the harm my ex-girlfriend caused me was very real, and only amplified by the indifference I got from my community.

All the threads about Assange hit very close to home for me. I appreciate the work of WikiLeaks, and, quite frankly, I can't say one way or another whether the allegations are true. However, I know what it's like to not be believed when someone has harmed you because that person is respected as an activist. Things like sexual assault, partner abuse, and all kinds of violence not only happen to our communities, but within them. And sometimes the reality of it isn't politically convenient
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2010, 04:38:12 PM »
Emotionally abusive? :ohnoes:

Grow a ****ing pair. :whatever:
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2010, 04:39:04 PM »
You know, a vocabularial analysis shows that use of the word "frank" or "frankly" on Skins's island has increased substantially the past few months.  It used to be a rare word there; now it's getting more and more common.

One wonders what's up with that.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2010, 05:00:26 PM »
I wouldn't want to listen to incessant whining from a hot straight girl. I doubt seriously that I could tolerate it for more than a minute or two from a butt-ugly dyke.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #4 on: December 07, 2010, 05:12:18 PM »
Quote from: Tantal on December 07, 2010, 05:00:26 PM
I wouldn't want to listen to incessant whining from a hot straight girl. I doubt seriously that I could tolerate it for more than a minute or two from a butt-ugly dyke.


What's that old saying?

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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #5 on: December 07, 2010, 05:13:28 PM »
I'd say soap and water and an occasional douche is key to keeping a lesbian relationship agreeable. Try it next time DUmmie.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #6 on: December 07, 2010, 05:17:37 PM »
It sounds like this poor damaged girl is the 'victim' half of an abusive relationship, looking for a place to happen.  It's become her identity to the exclusion of self-sufficiency or independence.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #7 on: December 07, 2010, 06:02:10 PM »
I thought homo-sex-u-als had a idyllic relationship that never had the explosiveness of heterosexual relationships.

Hey lightningandsnow. How'd you make out in the divorce settlement?
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #8 on: December 07, 2010, 07:00:00 PM »
Quote from: JohnnyReb on December 07, 2010, 05:13:28 PM
I'd say soap and water and an occasional douche is key to keeping a lesbian relationship agreeable. Try it next time DUmmie.
:cheersmate: H5 brother.
The post almost seems like a bouncy. Anyone else feel that way?
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #9 on: December 07, 2010, 07:06:17 PM »
Sorry to hear that this person mighthave been abused by what appeaers to be some crazy gay woman but with every post like this I keep thinking of the GEICO commercail with R. Lee Ermey.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #10 on: December 07, 2010, 07:07:13 PM »
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My ex-girlfriend, a queer, politically active woman...


Virtually every democrat in the DUmp has a story that begins this way.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #11 on: December 07, 2010, 07:19:17 PM »
Quote from: GOBUCKS on December 07, 2010, 07:07:13 PM


Virtually every democrat in the DUmp has a story that begins this way.

Especially the males.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #12 on: December 07, 2010, 07:25:59 PM »
I'm pretty sure that every American has been harmed by the activist community. Minorities, women, and children hurt the most.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #13 on: December 07, 2010, 07:34:20 PM »
Now, if only those inconvenient CDC reports weren't so politically incorrect.

This DUmmie is a victim of her own self righteous stupidity as much as anything someone else did to her.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #14 on: December 07, 2010, 08:20:45 PM »
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lightningandsnow  (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 04:27 PM
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My (1) ex-(2) girlfriend, a (3)queer, (4)politically active (5)woman of color who listed her political views on facebook as "anti-oppression warrior", was emotionally abusive to me.

wow, 5 labels in one sentence.  I guess this DUmmy can't just see a person as a person. 
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #15 on: December 07, 2010, 08:36:49 PM »
Quote from: DLR Pyro on December 07, 2010, 08:20:45 PM
wow, 5 labels in one sentence.  I guess this DUmmy can't just see a person as a person. 

Six labels.  "of color"
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #16 on: December 07, 2010, 09:04:08 PM »

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My (1) ex-(2) girlfriend, a (3)queer, (4)politically active (5)woman of color who listed her political views on facebook as "anti-oppression warrior", was emotionally abusive to me.



Wow.  I didn't know Xultar was a lesbian.  Not that it surprises me, but still.   :whatever:
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #17 on: December 07, 2010, 10:47:00 PM »
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wow, 5 labels in one sentence.  I guess this DUmmy can't just see a person as a person. 
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« Reply #18 on: December 08, 2010, 07:11:00 AM »
And you just KNOW neither of them will EVER look anywhere near this good:

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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #19 on: December 08, 2010, 07:21:27 AM »
Birdsmacker had a deep thought:

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Redstone  (1000+ posts)      Tue Dec-07-10 04:54 PM
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10. Remember one thing: Nobody can make you feel bad unless you let them do so.

Bumper sticker psychiatry.  Easier said than done, douchebag.  It's not even true.  Anyway, can you believe I found a glimmer of truth at the DUmp?:

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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 06:21 PM
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14. It AMAZES me that people think progressive politics = good person by default
 I know from very similar personal experience that that is most emphatically NOT the case.
Wow!

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Moondog  (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 06:31 PM
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15. Charlie Manson was a leftie. Never confuse activism with sanity.

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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #20 on: December 08, 2010, 08:17:37 AM »
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lightningandsnow  (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 04:27 PM
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I have been harmed by someone in the activist community.
   
My ex-girlfriend, a queer, politically active woman of color who listed her political views on facebook as "anti-oppression warrior", was emotionally abusive to me.

She completely and utterly destroyed my self-esteem.

I think Kat Williams says it best:

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You’ve done got with a ***** and now you talking about, “You ****ed up my self esteem.” Bitch, it’s called self esteem! How the **** can I **** up how you feel about you, simple bitch?

Grow up, DUmmie, and quit hanging around brain damaged queers.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #21 on: December 08, 2010, 08:19:12 AM »
Quote from: wasp69 on December 08, 2010, 08:17:37 AM
I think Kat Williams says it best:

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You’ve done got with a ***** and now you talking about, “You ****ed up my self esteem.” Bitch, it’s called self esteem! How the **** can I **** up how you feel about you, simple bitch?

Grow up, DUmmie, and quit hanging around brain damaged queers.

Katt Williams cracks me up.   :cheersmate:  Hi5 for a laugh so early in the day.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #22 on: December 08, 2010, 09:46:33 AM »
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15. Charlie Manson was a leftie. Never confuse activism with sanity.

Never do.  I treat it as great indicator of insanity or criminality and have an 85/15 record on being proven correct.
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Re: "I have been harmed by someone in the activist community."
« Reply #23 on: December 08, 2010, 09:58:01 AM »
Quote from: IassaFTots on December 08, 2010, 08:19:12 AM
Grow up, DUmmie, and quit hanging around brain damaged queers.


Katt Williams cracks me up.   :cheersmate:  Hi5 for a laugh so early in the day.

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« Reply #24 on: December 08, 2010, 10:01:46 AM »
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Moondog  (1000+ posts)        Tue Dec-07-10 06:31 PM
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15. Charlie Manson was a leftie. Never confuse activism with sanity.

So were the Phelps; you know those church going folk from Kansas who like to protest military funerals. Hell. They even held a fund raiser for Al Gore, where Gore made a personal appearance.
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