Some women just called me and claimed to be my 2nd cousin that I have never heard of before. She wants to come meet me this weekend.
Beg now you got me curious, a 1st cousin is the off spring from your father or mothers siblings {child of aunt or uncle.}
Their children would be a 1st. cousin, once removed.-----I believe ??? Or would they be call a second cousin??
This problem with relationship causes any number of arguments at my family reunions. Then some of the relatives that were late baby's and 20 years difference in siblings for reasons of respect are called aunt or uncle. Not cousin. More family confusion.
Not to forget that with Sir names one will at times run into someone whose mother never married and they have the maternal last name.
Would a second cousin be the child of the child of a grandmother.??
Darn it all BEG, now I am going to have to ask my Mom who my 2nd cousin is. I know all my 1st cousins and I believed that my 3rd. cousins and I shared the same Great grandfather.
Interesting that this Cousin calls you out of the blue. Most folk looking for family write, call or use Email to introduce themselves for a few months before a face to face.
I have been in your situation and those looking for family move very slow, one does not just pop up like this claiming family ties to complete strangers.
I would beg off this time, suggest meeting another time, Please remember all the crimes against homeowners by people that claim they saw an ad on EBay , go to the house and rob them.
First, corespond for a few months, ask, how did you find me. ? Get as much in writing from them as you can. One never knows when a Scam Artists may know someone related to you or even been a friend of your family and know about your family. If someone in the family claims to know her, ask when they last saw her.
If family gave her your phone number ask if the person got it from phone conversations or in person.
Please be carefull, have them send you some documention, they found you, it is up to them to PROVE who they are. You in turn need not give them ANY imformation whats so ever--not even your birth date.
So just surpose this is on the level and the relitive gets huffy and goes away----Since you have never had them in your life before, don't worry about that, until you got the call you never heard or knew about her. No problem, a cousin this far from the family, you will not miss if you never meet them.
PLEASE DON'T EVEN THINK OF MEETING UP WITH THIS WOMAN, Think about it, if the caller were a man telling you he was you great uncle, would you go to meet him.????
I was trying to post when I saw that it was Mom and Grandma that gave the woman your address and phone no. You say she is coming to your home soon, WOW, this may turn out to be one of the best things you have ever done, or the worse..
I do hope this has a happy ending for you, Good Luck and God Speed.
