Terrible Experience

[The Village Idiot]

 I like your style.  Maybe you could buy a cheap one, for the pattern and then get one made that looks American.  I wouldn't suggest using the Flag, but maybe like some kind of chintzy apple pie, or piggies, or hotdogs, or elephants, or something?  I can't imagine what you must have been, and still are going through, but I surely do appreciate your tenacity. 

NFL Burkha's!! Get your Dallas Cowboys Burkha's while they last!

[IassaFTots]

NFL Burkha's!! Get your Dallas Cowboys Burkha's while they last!

Well, I am not a Cowboy's fan, but yeah, something like that.  Exactly like that. 

[The Village Idiot]

Well, I am not a Cowboy's fan, but yeah, something like that.  Exactly like that. 

NASCAR Team Color Burkha's!!!
NBA Burkha's!!
ABC-TV Burkha's!!
Mylie Cyrus designer Burkha!

[IassaFTots]

NASCAR Team Color Burkha's!!!
NBA Burkha's!!
ABC-TV Burkha's!!
Mylie Cyrus designer Burkha!

Now you're talkin!

[thundley4]

Burkhas should be mandatory for liberal wymen.

[BEG]

   Hubby was allowed to watch as the doctor chopped up my face in 3 cancer operations. They asked me if I myself wanted to see what they had done before sewing my face back on. Like an idiot I was curious and he handed me a mirror, unbelievable, really shook me up.  Doc told Hubby it would take 18 months to get back to looking like I had before,

Some doctors do odd things, I still have problems even looking in the mirror as I look nothing like I did last year.  However, Hubby now has an understanding why I tend to stay home way too much and don't socialise as in the past.  People I have know for 20 years have a hard time recognizing me when I run into them.  Meeting strangers is no problem, it is running into family that does a double take.

No Woman Doctor would ever have allowed any of that to happen, I to this day think that Doctor was [sniffing white out ] to even have allowed Hubby to be there in the first place.   Then to allow me to see the chunks taken from my face before sewing me up with black thread so I looked like Frankenstein is out rage's.

I cannot blame the doctor however, he as a man most likely was use to males that could grow a beard to cover damage.  

Some of these male doctors do go nuts you know, they deal every day with female vanity that is more important then living.  A 2 centermeter scar will cause terror to them.  

Who knows why he did this but some good has come of it.  While I wait 18 months for complete healing and I know I will never look the same, this weird experience ignited the dark humor in me and convinced me I should have held out for a Female doctor.

All is not lost, there are quite a few Muslims moving into the area. They have shops to buy half burkas, just head and face covering.  There has to be humor in all situations to survive and this is my biggest challenge yet in life.  

I'm sorry to hear about your cancer Vesta. I hope you heal well and can gain your confidence back.

When I got pregnant with my third child I was told to abort her by my rheumatologist. I was taking methotrexate (a huge no no when you are pregnant). I wasn't suppose to get pregnant ever again for fear of having another stroke. Add on top of that the methotrexate and the chance of serious birth defects and you can see my doctors concern.  I was horrified and refused. Went to my neurologist and pleaded with him to tell me it was ok, that I could have my baby. He sat me down and said the no one, let alone a man, can make that decision for a woman.

I went back to my rheumatologist and told him I still refused to abort. He gave me the name of a high risk OB and a genetics counselor. After she was born I talked to him about the whole deal again. His wife had just been diagnosed with cancer when I told him I was pregnant and he was afraid he was going to lose her.  He said it played a part in his suggesting abortion, that his number one priority is his patient and he thought there was a real chance of me having another stroke or dying.  I bought her with me that day. He picked her up and held her and smiled. He said how glad he was that I was smarter than him that day.

I think doctors sometimes don't think past the "clinical" and forget the emotional.  Almost all of my doctors have been men and I wouldn't trade any of them (except for one rheumatologist, not the one I was talking about in this post).  Sometimes I think they have to be a little detactched or they can't make the really tough decisions.     

[AllosaursRus]

I'm sorry to hear about your cancer Vesta. I hope you heal well and can gain your confidence back.

When I got pregnant with my third child I was told to abort her by my rheumatologist. I was taking methotrexate (a huge no no when you are pregnant). I wasn't suppose to get pregnant ever again for fear of having another stroke. Add on top of that the methotrexate and the chance of serious birth defects and you can see my doctors concern.  I was horrified and refused. Went to my neurologist and pleaded with him to tell me it was ok, that I could have my baby. He sat me down and said the no one, let alone a man, can make that decision for a woman.

I went back to my rheumatologist and told him I still refused to abort. He gave me the name of a high risk OB and a genetics counselor. After she was born I talked to him about the whole deal again. His wife had just been diagnosed with cancer when I told him I was pregnant and he was afraid he was going to lose her.  He said it played a part in his suggesting abortion, that his number one priority is his patient and he thought there was a real chance of me having another stroke or dying.  I bought her with me that day. He picked her up and held her and smiled. He said how glad he was that I was smarter than him that day.

I think doctors sometimes don't think past the "clinical" and forget the emotional.  Almost all of my doctors have been men and I wouldn't trade any of them (except for one rheumatologist, not the one I was talking about in this post).  Sometimes I think they have to be a little detactched or they can't make the really tough decisions.     

Think the left has anything close to the heroins we have here????????? Your bravery makes us "big boys" look like puppies!

[BEG]

Think the left has anything close to the heroins we have here????????? Your bravery makes us "big boys" look like puppies!

Thanks for the complement but I don't look at it that way. It just wasn't in me to do it. I just knew it was going to be ok. I did have a few nights that I laid awake worrying that my baby was going to be ok but something told me I would be just fine. Maybe it was just stupidity rather than devine.     

[DumbAss Tanker]

WilmywoodNCparalegal  (1000+ posts)        Mon Jan-18-10 01:22 PM

Original message

Terrible Experience with OB/GYN Basically Pushing Surgery to Make Me Sterile

You poor foolish thing, you have thrown away the irretrievable gift of youth in a vain pursuit of fleeting possessions and entanglements that made bearing children 'Never just quite the right time, right now.'  You, and only you, narrowed your vast array of choices down to this point, and at this very late date.  Accept the responsibility for that instead of blaming everything else in the world.  You are in the same boat as a 40-year-old man who wishes he had become a Ranger or a Marine instead of going off to college and becoming an accountant (Or never finishing college, in the case of most DUmmies). 

[BlueStateSaint]

You poor foolish thing, you have thrown away the irretrievable gift of youth in a vain pursuit of fleeting possessions and entanglements that made bearing children 'Never just quite the right time, right now.'  You, and only you, narrowed your vast array of choices down to this point, and at this very late date.  Accept the responsibility for that instead of blaming everything else in the world.  You are in the same boat as a 40-year-old man who wishes he had become a Ranger or a Marine instead of going off to college and becoming an accountant (Or never finishing college, in the case of most DUmmies). 

How much you wanna bet that the OB/GYN knows that she's a DUmb****, and doesn't want her to reproduce?

[DumbAss Tanker]

BSS, I can't say the eugenic aspect of this particular situation never crossed my mind.  At the same time, I know professional women who made equally bad choices and lived in regret who were not moonbats at all, though being non-moonbats, they bore the consequences of their choices with dignity and understanding of how it had come to pass, if a belated understanding.

The entire problem is symptomatic of a weakness in our popular culture that -- thanks to the efforts of militant feminists and media mavens -- has taught for 30 years that motherhood and homemaking are not valid and honored choices for able, intelligent, adaptive women (Who, biologically speaking, are exactly who should be bearing and raising children).   

[vesta111]

 


I like your style.  Maybe you could buy a cheap one, for the pattern and then get one made that looks American.  I wouldn't suggest using the Flag, but maybe like some kind of chintzy apple pie, or piggies, or hotdogs, or elephants, or something?  I can't imagine what you must have been, and still are going through, but I surely do appreciate your tenacity. 

Thank you, I love the idea of little piggies, that would cause enough confusion to everyone.

Actually, I tend to the Moroccan style, you know the head gear the belly dancers wear.  The face covering is usually sheer mesh with lots of bobbles and beads.