Ok, a couple of things
Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Mon Oct-26-09 06:49 PM
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9. I think it's great
It's also nice to have somewhere to go to get away from those who think anyone over a size 4 is subhuman.
Too bad we can't have a "Club Bounce" here, huh?
Always the extreme right? Most women are not a size 4. I'd venture and say with great confidence that average for women is not a size 4. I'm an 8/10...more 10 and most people would say my build at this point is average. Heavier women always go to extremes like this. I know, I was one. The venture from a sz 20 to a sz 14 isn't so hard as the one from sz 14 to sz 4 and most people would consider you pretty well average or just a little chunky at 14 so no, one does not have to go to extremes. I do notice people treat you differently, but you don't have to get to a size 4 for that to happen. Just get more proportionate should be enough and take enough fat off the face so people can actually discern your features.
Le Taz Hot (1000+ posts) Tue Oct-27-09 09:56 AM
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31. Huh?
Or it could be that there are LOTS of men out there who don't appreciate bony stick figures. Oh, and news flash! A good portion of men go to clubs to get laid, regardless of "theme." Your comments apply to all people, not just those who are overweight.
Don't fool yourself sister. There are plenty of guys who much like the scumbags that go after teenagers, go after chunkies because they are indeed easier targets. I have found that men do appreciate a good figure that isn't bony, but that doesn't generally mean a size 20...it means a woman of average size with a nice figure who takes care of herself. As I said, I'm a size 8/10 and far from bony. I think this is more what men mean when they say they don't like bony...they prefer average or a little teeny bit more then average. If a man appreciates you a whole lot heavier, it's probably because he loves you for other things, but that's a developed relationship over time and it isn't going to happen in a bar anymore then it would for a smaller woman who is only being appreciated for the goods she has on display.
And being overweight...THAT overweight is NOT healthy! May not have caught up with the girls at the bar yet because they are 23, but it isn't healthy. One could not focus on losing weight if they were so proud and start picking up healthy habits and they would still lose weight so what does that stay about their lifestyle? They aren't living a healthy one no matter what they say. Hell I battle some mild thyroid issues, perimenopause, and a slower metabolism and I still managed to drop a lot of weight and reshape my body. It can be done. This lip service is just wasting these gals time and opening them up for users to swoop in and take advantage of their low self-esteem(and propping your boobs up in a bustier does not mean you have high self-esteem ladies).
ETA I have nothing wrong with this idea for a club though--this is what the free market system is all about and there is a market for it, but much like ddclue(and I've disagreed with that asshat before) I do think they shouldn't cloak making themselves feel better in a dishonest position of being grossly overweight as being healthy.
