Lounge Primitives pass out parental advice and spin a Hair Dresser Bouncy...

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hedgehog  (1000+ posts)      Wed Oct-08-08 02:33 PM
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Why do adults do this to kids? I was sitting in a crowded waiting room 
at a doctor's office yesterday. Over to my left, there was a woman there with a young boy, about 6 or 8, and she was berating him for the entire 10 or 15 minutes I was waiting. She kept demanding why he had forgotten this or that paper, and noting that he'd forgotten stuff the last three days, and that it was 4 weeks into the school year and he'd been late 12 times etc. etc. etc. It was the worst kind of emotional child abuse. Instead of looking for ways to help the kid get better organized, she blamed him for all his incapacities. I would have interfered if I'd thought I would make things better rather than worse. Bad enough to torture the kid with unanswerable questions, but to add to the the torture with public humiliation?

tismyself  (234 posts)        Wed Oct-08-08 02:51 PM
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3. she likes the sound of her own voice
 She wasn't communicating anything or even expecting answers - she was putting on a production, probably for your benefit. One day, that kid will loose it and snap.

I'm also willing to bet no one has ever talked to her like that in her life. I'm not being sarcastic either, with that kind of abuse, more often than not, it seems to come out of the personality alone and not the environmental background.

 

FloridaJudy  (1000+ posts)        Wed Oct-08-08 03:31 PM
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10. I witnessed something similar
 At the hairdresser's the other day. Dad came in with two young sons, sat down and opened some magazine devoted to Civil War artifacts. He'd brought nothing to keep the boys (ages about 4 and 6 by my estimation) occupied. No books, no toys, no Game boy: nothing, though he'd made sure he wouldn't be bored. Every once in a while one of the boys would start to fidget - no yelling or running around, just wiggling in their seats because it was a long wait - and he'd snap "Patton! Sherman! Sit still!", and then return to drooling over the pictures of guns. I wanted to say something, but restrained myself, because I feared anything I said might be taken out on the boys later.

After he had both boys' hair cut to his specifications (think Boot Camp Buzz, unsurprisingly). The younger burst into tears when he saw himself in the mirror. The hairdresser nervously noted "I'm afraid he doesn't like it". Papa sneered and announced "His opinion doesn't count. I'm the one that's paying". And he tipped the hairdresser $1 for the two haircuts.

I don't even know where to begin commenting on his Major Douchebaggery. One dollar tip? "Patton"? "Sherman"? I guess we know what he values most. Most annoying thing is he probably thinks of himself as a good father - he's not raising his boys to be sissies, by God! And he makes sure they behave in public!

I foresee a grim future of those boys plotting to blow up the ROTC building. Or becoming mercenaries.

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tismyself  (234 posts)        Wed Oct-08-08 02:51 PM
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3. she likes the sound of her own voice
 She wasn't communicating anything or even expecting answers - she was putting on a production, probably for your benefit. One day, that kid will loose it and snap. He'll be living in her basement his entire life and posting here on DU.

I'm also willing to bet no one has ever talked to her like that in her life. I'm not being sarcastic either, with that kind of abuse, more often than not, it seems to come out of the personality alone and not the environmental background.

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[formerlurker]

H5 for the bouncy scale..

[asdf2231]

H5 for the bouncy scale..

Hat Tip to the Duhland Adventure Project.

[Ree]

Why would a Dad who wants his boys to have buzz cuts, take them to a "hairdresser'? Wouldn't he take them to the barber shop?

[Chris_]

Why would a Dad who wants his boys to have buzz cuts, take them to a "hairdresser'? Wouldn't he take them to the barber shop?

Unless you get your jollies watching the queers get all kerfluffled by those "militaristic" hair styles.  They start prancing around with a look on their faces like somebody left a dead gerbil up their ass or something.

[Chris_]

While the haircut bouncy was very lame I did appreciate the creativity of fabricating the kids' names as Sherman and Patton.

[Ree]

While the haircut bouncy was very lame I did appreciate the creativity of fabricating the kids' names as Sherman and Patton.

But if he was really a Civil War buff, why would he choose Patton? Seems like the wrong war...

[JohnnyReb]

"think Boot Camp Buzz"....what my son got for his first haircut and been wearing it ever since. He wouldn't have it any other way.

He is 13 and starting to look at the girls.....sooooo.....that might change a little but not much as long as he stays here.

[GOBUCKS]

While the haircut bouncy was very lame I did appreciate the creativity of fabricating the kids' names as Sherman and Patton.

But if he was really a Civil War buff, why would he choose Patton? Seems like the wrong war...

Come on, you guys, cut DUmmy FloridaJudy some slack. She was spinning a secondary bouncy. She saw DUmmy hedgehog getting attention for a very poorly written lie, and wanted some of that for herself. So she posted a secondary bouncy.

She had no time to make up a more believable story because she needed to get her bouncy posted ASAP, before DUmmy hedgehog's OP sank out of sight.

So her bouncy is even lamer than the OP. This is a common problem with secondary bouncies. She should have worked on it longer.