Gay marriage is legal in Utah of all places. On December 20th, Utah's Amendment 3, which defined marriage to be between one man and one woman and was added to the Utah constitution by 66 percent of the voters, was struck down by Federal judge Robert Shelby who also refused to stay his decision pending appeal.
Unprincipled politicians, who change their position based on where the votes and money are, have done an about face from supporting traditional marriage to supporting gay marriage. Those who have recently switched include Joe Biden, Hillary Clinton, and Barack Obama. From what I read, the favorite soundbite reason for now supporting gay marriage is "It does not hurt my marriage if two men or two women want to get married." If you think about it, what this is really saying is, "If you like your marriage, you can keep it." Sound familiar? Just like Obama Care ending up giving us something we did not plan on, gay marriage will also bring with it societal changes that will surprise uninformed supporters.
Support for gay marriage is based on feelings with little thought to what it will mean to society, and especially children. To gain support for gay marriage, supporters share stories of women or men who have been together for decades. What they don't focus on is that gay marriage is not a goal for the majority of gays, and that even when their is a marriage, gay values are accepting of infidelity during marriage, which is not acceptable in traditional marriages. Nevertheless, they have a goal of labeling anyone who does not support gay marriage as bigots.
Supporters of traditional family values are not bigots. Rather, they are supporting a position of a family structure of what is best for children.
Supporters of gay marriage would like us to believe that gay couples are equal to straight couples in parenting. They use self-selected, unrepresentative studies to support their claims. These studies lack objectivity and scientific rigor. With society's experiment of gay marriage so new, it is difficult to find good data on it's impact. Perhaps the best resource we have at this time is Canadian census data. Same sex marriage has been legal since 2005 in Canada, so we have a large pool of census data we can look at to see what happens when gay marriage is legal. Among the finds so far: Only 45% of girls being raised by two men and only 15% of girls being raised by two women finish high school. That's right, the high school drop out rate for girls with two mommies is 85%. Ouch! (
http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/does_same_sex_parenting_really_make_no_differenceSee study here.)
Other studies have found other disturbing results of gay parenting. For example the Family Research Council reported results from a study by sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin. Here is what he found about children (who are now adults) raised by gay parents (men and women couples).
* Are much more likely to have received welfare
* Have lower educational attainment
* Report less safety and security in their family of origin
* Report more ongoing "negative impact" from their family of origin
* Are more likely to suffer from depression
* Have been arrested more often
* If they are female, have had more sexual partners--both male and female
There was additional data for children (now adults) being raised by two women and this showed their children:
* Are more likely to be currently cohabiting
* Are almost 4 times more likely to be currently on public assistance
* Are less likely to be currently employed full-time
* Are more than 3 times more likely to be unemployed
* Are nearly 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual
* Are 3 times as likely to have had an affair while married or cohabiting
* Are an astonishing 10 times more likely to have been "touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver."
* Are nearly 4 times as likely to have been "physically forced" to have sex against their will
* Are more likely to have "attachment" problems related to the ability to depend on others
* Use marijuana more frequently
* Smoke more frequently
* Watch TV for long periods more frequently
* Have more often pled guilty to a non-minor offense
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http://www.frc.org/issuebrief/new-study-on-homosexual-parents-tops-all-previous-research)
As you can see, there is strong evidence that same-sex relationships are not as positive as traditional marriage. If the citizens of a state want to make the mistake of legalizing same-sex marriage, they should be able to make such a dumb move. However, if citizens of another state see the wisdom of marriage being for one man and one woman, they should also have the right to make this a state law. To force a state to allow gay marriage against the will of its citizens when the potential for harm to society is so great is folly.
People who thought it would be great to support Obama Care are now seeing what a nightmare it really is. The same thing will happen with support for gay marriage.
