convenience store primitive has busy day off

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018462857

Oh my.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,729 posts)    Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:36 PM

My first day off is tommorow, but it is filled with work!

Sis# 2 says that since I am working a full time job, I need to work harder for her on my days off. She wants me to clean her house. She says I need to earn my place around here. She was the one that keep telling me to just relax, don't go looking so fast. Mainly she wants a house keeper.
 
Now I don't mind helping out, but this place of hers is a disaster. And since I have been here she has just set in her chair telling what to clean. She has not been doing much of anything. Now that I have been working, one week mind you, what progress I have made is gone. So she is upset that I have been on the job and not doing as much. Hard to do all of what needs to be done when you need to work 8 hours and sleep at least eight. Not to mention that I do have other stuff to do to get back on my feet.
 
I can't understand how she could let the place go like she has. It will take way more work than I have time for. And I can't clean the whole thing up and keep it that way if she does not do here part. She needs to clean up after herself more. It is her house after all!
 
And I just got the Food Stamp Card today,19 days after it was suppose to come in. Now she is mad that I don't just go out and spend it all on stocking the freezer. I need to call and check that since I have a job before it came in., That I won't have any penalties or anything. I really don't trust the Missouri Division of Family Services. They seem to really not have all their T's crossed.
 
But she is trying to tell me it is OK, bit at the Career Center they said DON'T touch it till I get clearance. And I think I will go with the Center.

elleng (41,983 posts)    Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:52 PM

1. Sorry she's putting you through all that, glad to hear you get a day off, and go with your thoughts: 'Go with the Center,' and await clearance.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,729 posts)    Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:58 PM

2. That is what I am going to do.

I don't want to pay fines.

And I really don't understand her, then again her way of doing things is part of the reasons we had a parting of ways.

CaliforniaPeggy (105,459 posts)    Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:41 AM

4. Tell your sister you don't happen to feel like being her cleaning lady, esp. when she is so sloppy!

Save your money and get out of there.

au contraire, dear CalPig.

She needs to stay under the close watch and guardianship of her family, who know what's best for her, until she grows up.

[jukin]

the freeloading DUchebag is really being put upon. Why it almost sounds like it is being asked to live like a decent and civilized human being. It would be a lot easier if she could just hang out on her sister's couch, smoke pot, eat Cheetos, and watch TV all day, everyday. As to the food stamps, anybody want to bet that it already traded them for some pot and made up the story to its sister?

Me thinks there is another parting of the ways coming very soon.

[USA4ME]

Life is hard. Especially for welfare moochers.

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[Bad Dog]

She's bitching about her sisters housekeeping when she said that was one of the reasons she was dumped by the guy in AZ.

[vesta111]

She's bitching about her sisters housekeeping when she said that was one of the reasons she was dumped by the guy in AZ.

This happens when a grown child moves back home.   They go from independent back of dependent again.  I doesn't matter if the family are parents or siblings.

Hard lessons are not just a one time thing, often means one has to repeat mistakes a few times over.

Grand daughter moved in for a 2 month stay so she could work at my place of employment.   We charged her no rent, just asked for her to have dinner ready when we got home, walk our dog and unload the dishwasher.

All went well for a few weeks, she went to work, came home and on weekends spent it with her friends.    After a few weeks she managed to get fired from work, but insisted she was going to go back to school on my PC. us believed her and soon found she was just doing nothing, no dinner, dog was crapping on the floor and the dishes were piling up in the sink.

I put the hammer down, shape up or ship out, she was 25 years old after all.   We came home a couple days later to find she had moved out, taking our stuff with her, thank God I had my family jewelry locked in the Gun Safe.

A week later a couple parole Officers came by to see why she had not checked in, I had no idea she was out on parole.   Then 6 months later the police arrested my computer as someone using it had defrauded allot of people out of money.   I told them the only one other then myself to use my PC was my grand daughter.   When they returned my PC they told me this woman had 3 warrants out for her arrest.  --I like to have had a heart attack at that point.

I immediately got on the phone with MY daughter, her mother to bitch her out for not telling me any of this.     Her answer was that if I had known about her past I would not have taken her in and she was afraid if I didn't  take her in, her daughter would insist on living with her.

So much for modern family values.   

[GOBUCKS]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018462857
au contraire, dear CalPig.

I think you mean au cntrainere.

I got that from a trained historian and journo.

[obumazombie]

She's bitching about her sisters housekeeping when she said that was one of the reasons she was dumped by the guy in AZ.

The irony is as thick as pea soup. And be careful how you say that. Too bad libs are genetically incapable of sensing irony.

[Karin]

I'm just honestly shocked that she lasted through the week on the job. 

[Tucker]

    Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:36 PM

My first day off is tommorow, but it is filled with work!

Sis# 2 says that since I am working a full time job, I need to work harder for her on my days off. She wants me to clean her house. She says I need to earn my place around here. She was the one that keep telling me to just relax, don't go looking so fast. Mainly she wants a house keeper.
 
Now I don't mind helping out, but this place of hers is a disaster. And since I have been here she has just set in her chair telling what to clean. She has not been doing much of anything. Now that I have been working, one week mind you, what progress I have made is gone. So she is upset that I have been on the job and not doing as much. Hard to do all of what needs to be done when you need to work 8 hours and sleep at least eight. Not to mention that I do have other stuff to do to get back on my feet.
 
I can't understand how she could let the place go like she has. It will take way more work than I have time for. And I can't clean the whole thing up and keep it that way if she does not do here part. She needs to clean up after herself more. It is her house after all!
 
And I just got the Food Stamp Card today,19 days after it was suppose to come in. Now she is mad that I don't just go out and spend it all on stocking the freezer. I need to call and check that since I have a job before it came in., That I won't have any penalties or anything. I really don't trust the Missouri Division of Family Services. They seem to really not have all their T's crossed.
 
But she is trying to tell me it is OK, bit at the Career Center they said DON'T touch it till I get clearance. And I think I will go with the Center.

Read this post again and imagine that Jeanette, the Las Vegas Leviathan's wife, is the author and referring to Systematic Chaos.

[franksolich]

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SammyWinstonJack (35,386 posts)    Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:12 AM

5. A job and a roof over your head.

Helping out doesn't seem too much to ask.

I wonder what your sister's side of the story is?

loli phabay (3,497 posts)    Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:51 AM

6. always two sides, thats the problem with the internet you only ever get one

Unless the sister joins du as well.

Phentex (8,348 posts)   Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:56 AM

7. She can live how she wants in her house...

even if it means she's a pig. But you don't have to be her maid, either.

I would try a little compromise. Take a few minutes, maybe 15 or so, to straighten up one area or do a load of laundry. You could also see if you can get her to do something with you like clean the kitchen together.
 
You are in a tough spot. I hope it's just temporary!

loli phabay (3,497 posts)    Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:37 PM

9. its the old when you live under someone elses roof then its their rules

Even if its dumb rules, other option is to leave.

Lady Freedom Returns (5,732 posts)    Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:43 PM

10. That is just it...

She is the mailing address. I stay with some old school friends and the other sister. But to use her for mail, I am a cleaning lady I guess.
 
ADD: Both sis's live one block from each other. I use sis 1 for a mailing address and while I was job hunting for wi-fi.

But due to her dogs, I stay with either sis 2 or friends. I think I have stayed with sis #1 4 times.

[Celtic Rose]

Oh no, she has to do housework on her day off    News Flash here, other fully employed adults also frequently have to do housework on their days off.  In fact, we often do house work on the days we work as well. 

[Bad Dog]

Oh no, she has to do housework on her day off    News Flash here, other fully employed adults also frequently have to do housework on their days off.  In fact, we often do house work on the days we work as well. 

According to her tale of woe a few weeks ago, she had all days off (not working) and the love of her life kicked her out due to her shitty housekeeping skills. 

[I_B_Perky]

So guess she finally made it to whatever state it was she was going to. Last I heard she was going to be, or was, homeless in some other state and didn't have the money to get to her kin down south.

So now she made it there and surprise, surprise!!! She is expected to help out and is bitching about that. Maybe if she helped out at her boyfriends place he would not have kicked her to the curb.

What a loser.

[Tucker]

So guess she finally made it to whatever state it was she was going to. Last I heard she was going to be, or was, homeless in some other state and didn't have the money to get to her kin down south.

So now she made it there and surprise, surprise!!! She is expected to help out and is bitching about that. Maybe if she helped out at her boyfriends place he would not have kicked her to the curb.

What a loser.

I don't think so. She start out in MO, left for Washington state and got as far as Kansas. Next was  a trek to AZ. Again an aborted trip. I believe that they nearly froze to death sleeping in a field or some place. That is where she was stranded and needing help to get home.

[I_B_Perky]

I don't think so. She start out in MO, left for Washington state and got as far as Kansas. Next was  a trek to AZ. Again an aborted trip. I believe that they nearly froze to death sleeping in a field or some place. That is where she was stranded and needing help to get home.

Thanks Tuck! Keeping track of the dummies is darn near a full time job!!!   

[Tucker]

Thanks Tuck! Keeping track of the dummies is darn near a full time job!!!   

I could have some minor details wrong but for the most part, that's her tale.

[RobJohnson]

This happens when a grown child moves back home.   They go from independent back of dependent again.  I doesn't matter if the family are parents or siblings.

Hard lessons are not just a one time thing, often means one has to repeat mistakes a few times over.

Grand daughter moved in for a 2 month stay so she could work at my place of employment.   We charged her no rent, just asked for her to have dinner ready when we got home, walk our dog and unload the dishwasher.

All went well for a few weeks, she went to work, came home and on weekends spent it with her friends.    After a few weeks she managed to get fired from work, but insisted she was going to go back to school on my PC. us believed her and soon found she was just doing nothing, no dinner, dog was crapping on the floor and the dishes were piling up in the sink.

I put the hammer down, shape up or ship out, she was 25 years old after all.   We came home a couple days later to find she had moved out, taking our stuff with her, thank God I had my family jewelry locked in the Gun Safe.

A week later a couple parole Officers came by to see why she had not checked in, I had no idea she was out on parole.   Then 6 months later the police arrested my computer as someone using it had defrauded allot of people out of money.   I told them the only one other then myself to use my PC was my grand daughter.   When they returned my PC they told me this woman had 3 warrants out for her arrest.  --I like to have had a heart attack at that point.

I immediately got on the phone with MY daughter, her mother to bitch her out for not telling me any of this.     Her answer was that if I had known about her past I would not have taken her in and she was afraid if I didn't  take her in, her daughter would insist on living with her.

So much for modern family values.   

WOW. Sorry you were taken advantage of like that. I can't imagine the stress and worry it caused.

[RobJohnson]

I really don't trust the Missouri Division of Family Services. They seem to really not have all their T's crossed.

They give you free shit and you don't trust them? Under Obama you only have to check in once a year now with your caseworker.

We all know she is not waiting for shit and the freezer is not stocked because the cabinets are full of Cheetos!

[vesta111]

WOW. Sorry you were taken advantage of like that. I can't imagine the stress and worry it caused.

How interesting in family dynamics when everything goes to hell and a semi normal family now becomes dysfunctional as all get out.

Just takes one out of a large family to wreck havoc where ever they go. At times the actions can cause stress to not just their own family but to the in laws and their family's also.

I guess we are lucky as of this minute none of us are in jail or the hospital, I do not know about an hour or so from now but I will not hold my breath.

Stress is a necessary part of life, last thing we need in life is the middle of the night phone call, BUT,
as they say no news is good news.   

How do YOU handle stress, me, I rearrange my home, move things about, paint the kitchen, give my surroundings a whole new look.   For some reason a drastic change in my environment from where it was when the stress happened to something different is like taking a vacation from my worries.

To me keeping everything the same in my home is to remind me that nothing ever changes, so I rearrange the furniture, change the curtains, and get a feeling that all the past is just the past, I can change some things as I wish.  Yes the stress is still there but under a new outlook,   perhaps not as bad as I first thought.