primitives hate Father's Day

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023028695

Oh my.

Faygo Kid (20,245 posts)    Sun Jun 16, 2013, 03:17 PM

I hate Father's Day, although I think I've been a good Dad.

Here's why: Mom finally threw him out when I was about 10. He was an engineer/draftsman for General Motors when they first opened the Tech Center in Warren, MI in the early '50s. Brilliant man, but they had to let him go when he wouldn't show up for work. Earliest memories of are cowering behind the couch as a little guy with my little brother when he came home drunk and beat up Mom and having the cops come to the house because the neighbors heard the screams.
 
Didn't see him from age 10 to 22 (no child support all that time, of course), when out of the blue he called and my brother and I went to see him in his flophouse. Six months later, he was dead of a heart attack, and I was called to ID him at the Wayne County Morgue. He was 50.
 
I think I did much better by my daughter, and appreciate her best wishes today, but every Father's Day reminds me of my own. Don't get me wrong - I've done well, had my ups and downs, but am basically happy as I approach retirement. But I don't like the reminder of what might have been.

Ugly butts in:

Warpy (69,618 posts)    Sun Jun 16, 2013, 03:24 PM

1. My dad was a gent and I miss him greatly although we butted heads for many years.

I do have some memories like yours of one of my drunken uncles, of having my cousin shove me under a bed and whisper to stay there until we knew his Dad was sober. I must have been about four, that's when we lived near the same town.
 
We don't get any sort of guarantee coming into this life. Some of us are bought up, some are dragged up, and some just grow the best we can with the least amount of care or attention.
 
One good thing about growing up with really bad examples, they tell us what not to do if we remember how awful it made us feel when we were kids.

Ernesto (4,814 posts)    Sun Jun 16, 2013, 03:38 PM

2. Never met my dad.........

he died in the navy at the end of WWII before I was hatched.

Skeeter Barnes (154 posts)     Sun Jun 16, 2013, 03:50 PM

3. My dad was killed on the job.

He was an electrical maintenance worker for Occidental Chemical. He was working on some kind of electrical panel near a furnace when the accident happened. He had third degree burns on over 75% of his body. He lasted almost two weeks before he died. He was a tough guy, but always good to my mother and sister. The kind of guy that never missed work and never turned down overtime. He wired houses on the weekend for extra money for us. I learned from him how to play baseball, how vital Unions are for the working class and to never cross a picket line.
 
He never drank but he did hit me too much. There were times that I was afraid he wouldn't stop until I had to go to the hospital. I used to wish the police would arrest him and take him away. I got to the point where I resented him but I forgive that now though. He had a very hard upbringing and I think that was part of the problem. I wish he was here now. We would have talked it over and let it go by now. This was 25 years ago.

PDJane (8,910 posts)    Sun Jun 16, 2013, 03:54 PM

4. Father's day is one of those days I try to have my head elsewhere.

Why? Because he was a really awful man. Bi-polar, which he wouldn't treat....the rest of the world was crazy. Misogynist, and I really despised his attitude. He hit me, he verbally abused me, he was convinced I needed to be in a mental institution, and tried to put me there. He wanted my son....which would happen over my dead body.
 
When he died, they didn't have a funeral; I think they were afraid of the number of people who would create a traffic jam, trying to see if he was really in the coffin.
 
So now, I spend the day with the women who did and do double duty, as both father and mother......

LWolf (36,258 posts)    Sun Jun 16, 2013, 04:09 PM

5. I think many of us who have painful memories connected to abuse or neglect of a father feel the same. I do.

<<<must've come from a dysfunctional two-parent family; my father was great, the best possible father one could ever have.  And the same for the maternal ancestress, as a mother.

<<<suspects the primitives are exaggerating their paternal woes.  As usual.

[DefiantSix]

My life is the validation of the old Samuel Clemens saw:

"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years."

Nowadays, whenever someone makes a comparison between my father and me, I take it as a high compliment, no matter how they mean it.

I wonder if this - and the standard DUmmy loathing of their own progenitors - is validation of the research that is showing that smoking pot freezes the mental and emotional maturation process.

[Skul]

I'm surprised any of the DUmmies know who their father was. 

[GOBUCKS]

Those tales are from the lucky DUmmies.

Most 0bamaites have no idea who their father was.

[jukin]

My guess is that the most confusing holiday in a primitive's life is Fathers Day.

[Bad Dog]

I love how they compete for who has the meanest drunkest father.  I'm sure the sexually abused will jump in and trump everybody.

[obumazombie]

I love how they compete for who has the meanest drunkest father.  I'm sure the sexually abused will jump in and trump everybody.

I'm surprised they haven't expanded on the word "Father" to springboard into Catholic bashing.

[miskie]

Why don't we ever see threads like this during one of the Eid holidays or Ramadan ?

[GOBUCKS]

My guess is that the most confusing holiday in a primitive's life is Fathers Day.

Even their mothers can only name some men that it could have been.

[Tucker]

And in typical DUmmy fashion, there are several campfires on the subject, with one DUmmy trying to outdo the other DUmmies.

[chitownchica]

Lots of violence in Democrat families I see.

[Chris_]

Holidays at DU are always the best.  They're all so sane and well-adjusted.

[Delmar]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023028695


<<<suspects the primitives are exaggerating their paternal woes.  As usual.

Either that, or they got what they had coming.

[thundley4]

I hate Father's Day, too.


















It's just another reminder of how much I miss him.

[Tucker]

I hate Father's Day, too.


















It's just another reminder of how much I miss him.

Every day.

[I_B_Perky]

I hate Father's Day, too.

It's just another reminder of how much I miss him.

Me too. Miss the original Perky. He wasn't perfect, far from it, but damn I miss him. RIP Dad.

[thundley4]

Every day.

Pretty much.

[obumazombie]

You CCers who have bid bon voyage to your Dad upon his journey to his eternal home, I hope for you that you get to meet up with them again. But no time soon. To an extent I know how you feel, and I empathize.

[Revolution]

I hate Father's Day, too.


















It's just another reminder of how much I miss him.

Me too, buddy. Tough to keep my head about me today, but it's over in an hour or so.

The thing about us is we come from good stock. The primitives come from shit, and will die in shit. Too bad for the poor, unfortunate, misguided, mean bastards.

[Wineslob]

I hate Father's Day, too.


















It's just another reminder of how much I miss him.

I celebrate what mine taught me, and miss the hell out of him. 

[Karin]

My dad was the absolute best, gone too soon 26 years ago.  If you put a gun to my head and demanded I tell you a character flaw of my father's, you'd just have to shoot me.  I still can't think of one. 

[JohnnyReb]

When will the liberals demand a national "Baby's Daddy Day"?

[dixierose]

My daddy is my hero. I cannot fathom having such hate for anyone in my family.

[diesel driver]

I'm surprised any of the DUmmies know who their father was.  

What few DUmmies that do claim to have a known father describe them as the biggest stinking piles of $hit that ever walked.  Seems every f'n one of them were molested or abused by their fathers.  

Me too. Miss the original Perky. He wasn't perfect, far from it, but damn I miss him. RIP Dad.

Same here, Perky.  Dad was my traveling buddy whenever I had a trip to Wisconsin to pick up a piece of farm equipment I'd sold.  I quit that business shortly after he died.  I miss him.

My dad was the absolute best, gone too soon 26 years ago.  If you put a gun to my head and demanded I tell you a character flaw of my father's, you'd just have to shoot me.  I still can't think of one.  

This is my 17th Father's Day without my Dad, and yes, gone too soon at 66.  He taught me a lot of what I know, I am the man I am today because of my Dad.  

THANKS, DAD!  You were the best, and you are greatly missed!  

When will the liberals demand a national "Baby's Daddy Day"?

Never.  According to the DUmbasses, all men are predators, remember.

The only "daddy" they want to know is a turkey baster.  (Good luck collecting THAT child support!)  

[Ballygrl]

David Burge @iowahawkblog

Happy Fathers Day to the US Government. #worldsbiggestBabyDaddy
4:46 PM - 16 Jun 2013