mineral oil primitive being submissive

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022672745

Oh my.

The eminence grise, the wise old man, of Skins's island:

MineralMan (52,639 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:08 PM

Good Husbands are Submissive - MineralMan

Sometimes. Sometimes, everyone can be submissive to good effect. Winning every disagreement is not an essential part of any relationship. The give and take of marriages means that both partners sometimes allow the other to take the lead in some decisions.
 
In fact, submissiveness may be the secret to success in making a marriage a long-term relationship. It's not a matter of gender. It's a matter of partnership.
 
One guy's opinion.

MineralMan (52,639 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:19 PM

1. An example: I'm tired and frazzled from a tough session finishing the work for a current contract. My wife is frustrated with the bad weather and wants to go to a restaurant for dinner. I'd rather stay home, but we'll go to the restaurant, because that will make her feel better. It wouldn't be my choice, so I'm submitting to her desire for something different.

Oh now, this is nonsense.

The mineral oil primitive's just trying to show off what a nice guy he is.

bike man (142 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:30 PM

2. You went to the restaurant BECAUSE it made her feel better, not because you are submissive (docile, meek, yielding, humbly obedient, etc.)

MineralMan (52,639 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:33 PM

3. Nope. We have a difference of opinion. I'm submitting to her preference. It's none of the things you mentioned. Either we go or we do not. We're going, despite my preference not to. Another time, the decision will be different in some other situation.
 
Submission often has to do with a desire to please the other person, despite wanting to do something else. My wife and I often submit to each other's preference when we disagree about something. It works out about 50-50.

Bluenorthwest (23,631 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:40 PM

6. If its none of those things, submissive is not the right word,as that is a definition of submissive

sub•mis•sive (səbˈmɪs ɪv)

adj.
1. inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient.

MineralMan (52,639 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:44 PM

8. I am inclined or ready to submit in this case.

I'm not humbly obedient, but I'm not resisting, either. I am submitting to my wife's wishes in the matter. As usual, in these cases, the choice of restaurants is mine. Fortunately, we like the same list of restaurants.
 
It is submissive, according to the definition. You can argue the point, but that's my opinion, and I'm the one who is doing the submitting.

BainsBane (7,666 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:34 PM

4. You rock!

MineralMan (52,639 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:36 PM

5. I don't know about that, but I'm ordering fish and chips. I chose the restaurant. I'm betting my wife goes for the scampi.

And then Ugly butts in, but whether face-first or posterior-first, one can't tell:

Warpy (68,213 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:42 PM

7. And you'll both feel a lot better when you get home full of fish to a house that doesn't reek of it and without a pile of filthy dishes to contend with.
 
Restaurants are great, they cook for you and they clean up after you. I should use them more often, myself.
 
That's not submission so much as enlightened self interest.

MineralMan (52,639 posts)   Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:47 PM

10. Well, there are often benefits to letting the other person make the decision. Your description of the benefits in this particular situation is pretty much spot on. I'd still rather stay home, but I'm sure I'll enjoy the dinner.

Fearless (12,227 posts)    Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:47 PM

11. Sharing decisionmaking and not insisting on winning every fight is not submissive.

It's life.

<<<agrees with the fearless primitive 100%.

[JohnnyReb]

I think we have a cuckold on our hands.....how soon does he say, "Take my wife......please ."

[shadeaux]

Only in a DUmmy world is it okay to have a whipped I mean submissive husband.

GOD FORBID you use that word on a wife.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022672064

For the record, I would lick my husband's toes, bathe him, wait on him hand and foot PLUS kiss his booty if that's what he wanted.  Because I know he would do all that for me.

So yes you ugly witches, life in Stepford Wife land IS THE SHIT. 

[franksolich]

I think we have a cuckold on our hands.....how soon does he say, "Take my wife......please ."

I don't think so myself, although the mineral oil primitive has been married five times and admitted it.

He's 66, 67, years old now, and was trying to emulate Tommy Manville, but it looks as if he's been settled down for a while now.

I also think the fearless primitive is right.

Now, while there's too much of this husband-dominating-wife sort of thing, way too much, the opposite sorts of cases are more interesting.  You got two prime examples on Skins's island, the magisterial one and the truemud primitive.  And they're quite different.

The magisterial one's wife uses leather, handcuffs, whips, dog-collars, and leashes on him.

The truemud primitive's submission involves him wearing a diaper and bonnet, and sucking on a baby's plastic rattle, to please her.

It's really grotesque.

[shadeaux]

These people are NOT, I repeat NOT, submissive.

[thundley4]

I don't think so myself, although the mineral oil primitive has been married five times and admitted it.

He's 66, 67, years old now, and was trying to emulate Tommy Manville, but it looks as if he's been settled down for a while now.

I also think the fearless primitive is right.

Now, while there's too much of this husband-dominating-wife sort of thing, way too much, the opposite sorts of cases are more interesting.  You got two prime examples on Skins's island, the magisterial one and the truemud primitive.  And they're quite different.

The magisterial one's wife uses leather, handcuffs, whips, dog-collars, and leashes on him.

The truemud primitive's submission involves him wearing a diaper and bonnet, and sucking on a baby's plastic rattle, to please her.

It's really grotesque.

You're forgetting the clownish oaf who submits to using the catbox in the basement.

[franksolich]

You're forgetting the clownish oaf who submits to using the catbox in the basement.

I don't think the trophy wife has to use tools, though, to keep the adroit sparkling old dude in line.

It's his own abysmal lack of self-worth--an old guy trying desperately to hang on to a younger woman--that keeps him trying to please her.