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HockeyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Sun Nov-13-11 06:43 PMOriginal messageMy daughter's wedding and her Great-Grandma My daughter is getting engaged in December. She was waiting for marriage equality to pass in the state of NY to "pop the question". As she told me many times, she didn't want to go to Connecticut to get married as so many of her friends have. "I was born, raised, and LIVE in New York, so why should I have to go to Connecticut to marry?" Well, now she doesn't have to!I have promised to give her her Great-Grandma's rings. She is my first born and I have always felt SHE is my child who should have them. While the majority of the family is very accepting, there are a few who seem to be horrified, not only at her marriage and my acceptance of it, but that "Grandma would be rolling over her grave" giving her rings for a "fake" marriage.I would like to describe my Grandma. Nana was a second generation Italian/American, born in 1900, in Greenwich Village. She was a woman ahead of her times. She was VERY PROGRESSIVE. Grandma, as a teenager, marched for the right of women to vote. "Don't tell me I cannot do something just because I am a WOMAN." When Grandpa died, she refused to wear black as the rest of the women in her generation did.She lived in Greenwich Village; Christopher Street to be precise. My Aunt was a lesbian who married a man and had a son. Yet, she had a girlfriend who she saw the entire time of her marriage. Different times? I suppose she tried to cover up her orientation to society. Grandma had quite a few words for that. "End the CHARADE". We all KNOW you are a lesbian and have a female lover. So get a DIVORCE. Why live a lie and make everybody miserable including yourself? Aunt Jackie did just that. She divorced her husband, moved in with Terry, and they raised her son together, and were together until Terry passed away 25 years later. Yes, she did come out to the world back in the 60s and the family was generally very accepting of it, especially Grandma.I spent a lot of time with Nana from when I was a child to a young woman before she passed away. I am a child of the 60s and Nana supported me. I never once heard her say anything derogatory against the gay people where we lived. Nana treated gay couples as very matter of fact. Some women like men. Some women like women. As she said about Aunt Jackie and Terry. I KNOW she would not be upset over her Great-Grand-Daughter being a lesbian, getting married, and having her rings. Nana was NOT that kind of person. She passed down her views to my Mom, and of course, to me.I just wanted to share a bit of family history with my daughter's engagement. I am very happy that now BOTH my daughters can be married to the PEOPLE they love.
My daughter is getting engaged in December. She was waiting for marriage equality to pass in the state of NY to "pop the question".
I have promised to give her her Great-Grandma's rings. She is my first born and I have always felt SHE is my child who should have them. While the majority of the family is very accepting, there are a few who seem to be horrified, not only at her marriage and my acceptance of it, but that "Grandma would be rolling over her grave" giving her rings for a "fake" marriage.
I would like to describe my Grandma. Nana was a second generation Italian/American, born in 1900, in Greenwich Village. She was a woman ahead of her times. She was VERY PROGRESSIVE. Grandma, as a teenager, marched for the right of women to vote. "Don't tell me I cannot do something just because I am a WOMAN." When Grandpa died, she refused to wear black as the rest of the women in her generation did.
yardwork (1000+ posts) Sun Nov-13-11 07:49 PMResponse to Original message8. Sounds like you are a chip off the old block. Nana would be proud of YOU.
