My sexual harassment story:

[Splashdown]

How the **** would these people face REAL harassment?

Further proof that when life gets too easy, you have to invent shit to make it seem harder.

So amazingly true, that it should be the motto of DU.

[Karin]

If she was 98 lbs I doubt she had anything to "twist." 

[BEG]

I wasn't sexually harassed at any of my previous employers.  If anyone would have been sexually harassed it would have been me.    

I was stalked by a customer when I worked at a grocery store when I was in high school though, can I join the club anyway?

[jtyangel]

I'm not sure the definition of "sexual harassment" here; apparently I'm not jiving with the definition of it as perceived by decent and civilized people, and the quite different (and undoubtedly wrong) definition of as perceived by the primitives.

I consider "sexual harassment" to be anything involving having to spend time and energy warding off unsought and unwelcomed sexual advances; in other words, it can happen in casual social informal situations as well as in the formal workplace.

Am I near anybody's common ground on this, or way out in left field?

I'm with you on this one, frank. Even after reading through her 'harassment' on the first go through, I kept thinking, how is this anything other then some drunken guy at the bar pushing the envelope(like drunk men in bars will do) and then getting his ass handed to himself for it by the girl's boyfriend? To me sexual harassment denotes a working relationship, usually where the person harassing is in a position to influence the person's job in some way. There is no working relationship in this story; she was not harassed. If I were her, I would have slapped him, my guy would have kicked his ass, and he would have been thrown out the bar. She goes as far as to press charges? Seriously? This is nothing more then a bar patron with a few drinks(she probably served) in him who got cheeky and brave because of those few drinks(she likely served him). Kicking him out of the bar would have sufficed.

As for me, i give people the one chance rule. Everyone makes mistakes and steps in it sometimes. People are human--I'm not talking groping type of stuff, but comments that are inappropriate. When you realize it's unwelcome and you comply, we are square. I will never understand women who would scream harassment over ONE or TWO offhanded comments, an overheard joke, or because a guy they didn't like had the cajones to take the chance and ask them out. That woman deserves to never have intimacy with a man ever again, assuming they care to of course.

[thundley4]

I'm with you on this one, frank. Even after reading through her 'harassment' on the first go through, I kept thinking, how is this anything other then some drunken guy at the bar pushing the envelope(like drunk men in bars will do) and then getting his ass handed to himself for it by the girl's boyfriend? To me sexual harassment denotes a working relationship, usually where the person harassing is in a position to influence the person's job in some way. There is no working relationship in this story; she was not harassed. If I were her, I would have slapped him, my guy would have kicked his ass, and he would have been thrown out the bar. She goes as far as to press charges? Seriously? This is nothing more then a bar patron with a few drinks(she probably served) in him who got cheeky and brave because of those few drinks(she likely served him). Kicking him out of the bar would have sufficed.

As for me, i give people the one chance rule. Everyone makes mistakes and steps in it sometimes. People are human--I'm not talking groping type of stuff, but comments that are inappropriate. When you realize it's unwelcome and you comply, we are square. I will never understand women who would scream harassment over ONE or TWO offhanded comments, an overheard joke, or because a guy they didn't like had the cajones to take the chance and ask them out. That woman deserves to never have intimacy with a man ever again, assuming they care to of course.

And many a waitress will lead guys on or flirt with them  for bigger tips.

[diesel driver]

A more likely story would be:


 

You forgot the last sentence.  It should read:

proud2BlibKansan  (1000+ posts)        Mon Nov-07-11 07:56 PM

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My sexual harassment story:

I was working in a (topless) bar. I was 22 years old.

It was empty, as it always was whenever I was working.

     

[NHSparky]

I really don't know what I would think if I walked into a strip club and saw Anne "dancing" (for lack of a better word) there.

I mean, witnessing that 300 pounds of sad hanging off the pole, I wouldn't know whether to scream in terror or laugh my ass off, but in the end, I'd probably have to bite my tongue because hey, her kids might be watching.

[Celtic Rose]

In our sexual harassment training, they talked about how calling a female employee "sweetie" or "dear" could be construed as sexual harassment.  One of my supervisors called me pet names like that on a regular basis, she was a female and it never bothered me in the least.  She asked me after the training if she had ever offended me by calling me sweetheart, I told her no, and she said she was glad, but that she had better stop saying it anyways to make sure she didn't get in trouble. 

At my first high school job one of the male employees was dancing near me once and he ground himself into my rear a bit.  I told him I needed to go work somewhere else, and that was it.  No mental scarring here.