DUmmy Women Discuss Looking Like Dykes

[GOBUCKS]

In this thread, self-admitted bull dagger DUmmy Neecy is curious about whether her more normal sisters, the collection of terminally homely and weird females who inhabit the DUmp, experience the same insults she receives on a daily basis.

Neecy  (1000+ posts)        Sun Jul-19-09 07:54 PM
Original message
A question for heterosexual DU women
 
Have you ever been called an anti-gay slur because someone assumed you were gay? Were you ever threatened with violence for the same reason? Is it common for you to have coffee with a female friend and have some cretin assume you were partners, and threaten you?

I've had a few people in the last couple of days insist that this is common for straight women - for example, if you turn a guy down, or a group of lowlifes sitting in a truck - but in my experience, none of my straight friends have ever been targeted for anti-gay slurs or violence.

I'm just curious here, because I didn't think it was all that common. But I'm told that it is...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x6104133
The near unanimous report from DUmpettes is that men very frequently refer to them as lesbos or dykes. Now, for anyone who has scanned through DUmp picture threads, this is not surprising. But one must keep in mind that DUmmies lie, all the time. If you stop to consider, even with the abysmal hygiene and personal grooming of most DUmp women, it's unlikely they actually come into frequent contact with men so boorish as to point out these obvious shortcomings.

Tangerine LaBamba  (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:18 PM
Response to Reply #4
22. Take a number -
 the fragile little egos of some males just make some of us "must be dykes" just want to make love to them until they're dehydrated.

Right, ladies?

 
 

Tangerine LaBamba  (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:27 PM
Response to Reply #29
34. That's what I used to do!
My gay buddies - I was Queen Of The Fag Hags with those guys - and I used to go to some fabulous clubs in SW DC - they're all gone now, alas - the clubs and the guys.

I had the most wonderful times, just partied and whooped and enjoyed myself. And I've never felt so protected.

One evening, taking a break, sitting at a bar, a straight guy - yeah, there were some - starts hitting on me, but he was doing it because he thought I was a lesbian, and he was hoping to see some hot girl-on-girl action. He just needed to find two lesbians.

I told him that trying to find lesbians in a club that was all gay men wasn't a very good cover for him...............

Considering the age of DUmmy Tangerine LaBamba, she is recounting an imaginary episode at a queer speakeasy, during Prohibition.

Hello_Kitty  (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:02 PM
Response to Reply #1
11. I sometimes wonder why some guys' heads don't explode from the contradictions within 
 They'll call you an "ugly man-hating dyke" if you reject their advances or stand up to them. I'm always like, if I were a lesbian why would you think I'd be concerned about you finding me attractive? Hell, I'm NOT a lesbian and I don't care if some jerk doesn't want me. 

DUmmy Hello_Kitty is an ugly man-hating dyke.

fizzgig  (1000+ posts)        Sun Jul-19-09 07:59 PM
Response to Original message
3. i was in high school
and i suffered relentless harassment, but the school administrators did nothing to stop it.
eta: the abuse came from other girls.

Tuesday Afternoon  (1000+ posts)        Sun Jul-19-09 08:00 PM
Response to Original message
6. I used to drive a Subaru...I must have been gay.

CaliforniaPeggy  (1000+ posts)        Sun Jul-19-09 08:00 PM
Response to Original message
7. I've never had that happen... 
But I don't go out much...

There's no doubt that DUmmy CaliforniaPeggy doesn't go out much, except to football games. Based on the frequent photos she posts, we've discovered that she's on TV very often, better known under her real name, Coach Lou Holtz.

Jazzgirl  (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:44 PM
50. I have been shaving my head for the last 14 years.
I have no intention of letting it grow out. I did let it grow momentarily a couple of years ago but couldn't stand it. I have had people ask me if I was gay because of it. In fact, a cousin of mine "assumed" I was gay because of it and because he never heard I had been married once. I don't even try to convince anyone one way or the other. I really don't give a shit what people think. I do know who I am and that is what's important.

DUmmy Jazzgirl is every man's dream.

cbayer   (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:16 PM
Response to Original message
19. Most definitely.
 And if you are smart, self confident and in charge, this happens a lot.

I NEVER correct them.

noamnety (1000+ posts)        Sun Jul-19-09 08:18 PM
Response to Original message
21. From just today:
"shut up you ditchpig dyke."

joey5150 (6 posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:28 PM
Response to Original message
36. Grrrrr...
 Edited on Sun Jul-19-09 08:29 PM by joey5150
I lift. When my BF goes below 11% I get a sixpack and it looks like grdn hoses are under my biceps and forearms. my hips slim and my butt disappears. so i look a little "boyish". my cross to carry. Watcha gonna do. I like the iron. i generally ignore asshats who wanna bring me down.

DUmmy joenumbers is as attractive as DUmmy Jazzgirl

[Celtic Rose]

This must be a phenomenon that is unique to the DUmmie Wymyn. I've never been called a dyke.    Of course, that may have something to do with the fact that I try to look like a woman, not a man.

One of the biggest ironies of the feminist movement is that women started trying to look and act like men to gain their "respect."  Personally, I think it is a better goal to be able to act and look like woman and gain men's respect. 

[SSG Snuggle Bunny]

This must be a phenomenon that is unique to the DUmmie Wymyn. I've never been called a dyke.    Of course, that may have something to do with the fact that I try to look like a woman, not a man.

One of the biggest ironies of the feminist movement is that women started trying to look and act like men to gain their "respect."  Personally, I think it is a better goal to be able to act and look like woman and gain men's respect. 

What is with that any way?

They'll tell you the world is f'ed-up because men are war mongers but they want women in combat..in the infantry where you occassionally have to bayonet people no less. Men want free sex and no responsibility for their offspring, but women need elective abortion to be free. Women should be granted maternity leave and allowed to resume their careers uninterrupted, a benefit never given to men.

am are confused

[DumbAss Tanker]

Hello_Kitty  (1000+ posts)      Sun Jul-19-09 08:02 PM
Response to Reply #1
11. I sometimes wonder why some guys' heads don't explode from the contradictions within

Oh sweet Jesus, how do you get tunnel vision that bad without taping paper towel cores to your glasses? 

[crockspot]

California Peggy has never been called a dyke? Hell, if I didn't know she was married to a man, I would swear she was a lesbian. She has the look. And my gaydar is better than most people's.

[The Village Idiot]

I did meet a couple of nice looking gay girls in New Orleans in the 90's. They were students at UNT or something in Denton.

[vesta111]

Holding my sides laughing.

Was at a table with some girlfriends and some Jock came over and asked one of the girls to dance. When she refused he asked if anyone at the table wanted to dance. We said NO.

The dude turned back to his table and a couple of Buddy's and not 10 minutes later came swaggering over to ask if we were lesbians.   

One of my crazy friends asked him who his friend on the left at his table was, she then got up walked over and asked HIM to dance, meanwhile another friend got up and danced with the other dude.

We had a grand time, all night we danced with his Buddy's and totally IGNORED him.

We, after that tried to imagine the conversation and the put downs that one stupid Jerk had to take from his friends there after.  { The Jerk was much better looking then his Buddy's,  had he kept his mouth shut some of the girls would have been all over him}

[jtyangel]

Holding my sides laughing.

Was at a table with some girlfriends and some Jock came over and asked one of the girls to dance. When she refused he asked if anyone at the table wanted to dance. We said NO.

The dude turned back to his table and a couple of Buddy's and not 10 minutes later came swaggering over to ask if we were lesbians.   

One of my crazy friends asked him who his friend on the left at his table was, she then got up walked over and asked HIM to dance, meanwhile another friend got up and danced with the other dude.

We had a grand time, all night we danced with his Buddy's and totally IGNORED him.

We, after that tried to imagine the conversation and the put downs that one stupid Jerk had to take from his friends there after.  { The Jerk was much better looking then his Buddy's,  had he kept his mouth shut some of the girls would have been all over him}

and your table were the only females in the bar?



 




As an aside, I do know that (younger, more immature) men do tend to put women down at times when they've both been a) drinking and b) been turned down.

I've been on the receiving end of put downs when I've said I wasn't interested in the past. Some men aren't good with rejection so I think I know where some of the ladies are coming from on this.


PS I do not look like a dyke

[vesta111]

and your table were the only females in the bar?



 




As an aside, I do know that (younger, more immature) men do tend to put women down at times when they've both been a) drinking and b) been turned down.

I've been on the receiving end of put downs when I've said I wasn't interested in the past. Some men aren't good with rejection so I think I know where some of the ladies are coming from on this.


PS I do not look like a dyke

No the place was full of women, somehow a white paper place mat was taped in the ladies room over a mirror that had in big letters that the guy wearing such and such, color of eyes and hair, you know had -----Herpies---and was a well known a stalker to boot.

Not one woman in the place that had used the ladies room would even speak to him.

I do know how things are run today as it has been a few years since I went out with girls, but in my time this was a  HEADS UP for woman and really helped keep us out of trouble.

Not just from a bad egg  guy but warned us about the other woman who would belt you in a heart beat if they walked in and found you dancing with THEIR man.

Most establishments liked this idea as it was easier to take down the taped notes then repaint a grafifitti covered wall.

[BEG]

I have never been mistaken for Lesbanese. Not even when my Mom had my hair cut in a pixie back in third grade.

[jtyangel]

I have never been mistaken for Lesbanese. Not even when my Mom had my hair cut in a pixie back in third grade.

That I never have been mistaken for or called, but I have been called a bitch and stuck up bitch. 

[delilahmused]

Where do these women go that they're always being insulted and called dykes? I'd think they'd frequent bars with people like them, you know, liberals. And if they're so supportive of gay rights why should they care if they're mistaken for lesbians? Shouldn't they wear it as a badge of honor and sisterhood? Didn't they learn anything in wimmins studies? "Hey, hey! Ho, Ho! This penis party's got to go!

I'm a little worried about the Tangerine LaBamba primitive though. If she's not careful she'll end up sharing the same fate as poor Marie Prevost. Anyone know if she has a dachshund?

Cindie

[Celtic Rose]

That I never have been mistaken for or called, but I have been called a bitch and stuck up bitch. 

Now, that I have been called. Mind you, it was when I an RA and had just busted some underage guys with alcohol.   

One of them came and apologized to me later, I think he was pretty drunk when it happened.

[Airwolf]

Talk about needing a woobie. Geesh. The only way words can hurt you is if you let them.