Well, can't believe I am defending a DUmmie, but my husband's ex-wife left him after 32 yrs of marriage, for a total POS she met online. I keep looking for her on DU, because she fits right into the profile there: everything in her life is a disaster, someone always is trying to screw her over, she has no self-esteem, in her early 60's, overweight, etc., etc. She left my husband who bought her expensive jewelry 3 times a yr., fur coats, nice house in pretty exculsive area, on a golf course, (she used to golf a lot), new cars, trips all over the world, etc. She didn't have to lift a finger. She decided she was bored because he had to travel about 15 days of the month. The guy she left him for, is verbally abusive, I think more than that, myself, a drunk, been in jail for a bunch of DUIs, and he is nuts. Can't hold a job, and sponges off of her. She tried to break up with him once, and he called her at her job and said he had broke into her house and was in the bathtub slitting his wrists. Of course the cops got there in time, he really didn't intend to die, just bleed for attention. And yes, she keeps taking him back. At least in that case, there are no children. I know abuse, and it's effects on kids. The primative should take her to court and get custody if she is going to expose them to that crap. It actually sounds like he is the sane one. God help us all.