Big Mo hanging by her toenails

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235292

Oh my.

And this was just before Mother's Day last week, too.

mopinko (43,933 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 11:56 AM

i'm just tired. sick and tired.
 
stbex is dragging his feet on disclosures, and running up the tab w atty fees. not that thrilled w counsel. she is thorough, but seems to be looking for a trial.

broke down and hired a forensic accountant. hoping they are worth the money, dollar-wise. peace of mind-wise, i expect they will be worth it.

but every nasty email from him puts a cloud over another day.

please god just lets get this thing done before the next court date. july 9. 

The husband-hating elleng primitive has to butt in.

elleng (55,343 posts)   Fri May 8, 2015, 12:26 PM

1. Damn!

and very sorry atty fees are part of the issue. I had a retainer for mine, and only 'extras' were court fees, which were minimal. And avoided a trial, which both my attorney and the judge wanted to avoid. I might have done somewhat better, cash-wise, with a trial (according to ME, anyway,) but am OK with my pension + 2 survivor pensions.

Never heard of a forensic accountant. Sounds interesting, for a 'mystery' tv series, anyway.

I understand that e.mails, or regular mail, puts clouds over a day, esp when depression looms, which I was able to shake off after my atty said to me "He's a sociopath." Had a BIG AHA moment, and let go of anti-depression meds that week, 'cold turkey.'

I just found a couple mail messages, in cleaning up my stuff, and ALMOST laughed at them.

2 year anniversary of his death is in 1 week, so expect to hear 'cries' from daughters, but surely not from me.

Life continues, mop. 

mopinko (43,933 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 12:34 PM

2. yes it does.
 
might be hanging by my toenails, but i am hanging. 

Demeter (79,935 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 12:40 PM

3. Been there, done that
 
Can you get him on the hook for your atty. fees?

Hope you haven't any children in play....bastard ex kidnapped ours, took me 4 weeks, a lawyer from the internet, and a trip cross country...he hasn't communicated with them since he spent a night in jail for not paying support for 6 years (that was after the kidnapping failed so utterly)....he was a tight bastard, if the money wasn't spent on him.

mopinko (43,933 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 12:58 PM

6. well there is only one pot of money here.
 
he left me with enough money that i cant get atty's fees until i spend it all. which i sorta refuse to do. so in the end, i pay half.

kids are all grown, but the youngest is disabled and lives in a rental property that we own. it is integral to the farm, so natch he is fighting for it. no equity in it, just spite.

he wants to sell it which will likely force/allow her to move. and take the disputed dog with her. i have released my claim on him so that she can have him, but he is not cut out for life in an apartment. he needs the farm to roam. right now we have a "joint custody agreement" and she can take him when she can prove that she can care for and handle him and keep him fulfilled. she is working on that, but it is hard for her.

she would like to move closer to her snaky bf's job. i really dont want to lose her from my life. she is the only one of my 5 kids i have a decent relationship with.

yeah, spite. 

Wow.

Big Mo had five kids?  I knew she had a couple, but not five.

Having that many kids should've mellowed her, not made her angry and bitter.

Demeter (79,935 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 01:03 PM

8. Funny, I have a disabled daughter, too
 
He wanted to institutionalize her, and put her sister in boarding school...

Ignore the total lack of appropriate institutions!

mopinko (43,933 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 01:21 PM

10. jeebus.
 
this kid is on the road to handling it all, but we recently found out that her lifelong, varied health problems mostly stem from a childhood brain injury.

her seizures are mostly under control, but the developmental problems that it caused are here for good.

unbelievably, she recently was fired from a job she loved and was very good at when the company found out she was epileptic. yeah, lawsuit should be a slam dunk. but now every time she applies for a job she has to explain out the gate about it to explain the reason she lost the last job. she is going to have one hell of a time finding another.

she only needs very simple accommodations, like no shift changes and a safety plan. but a steady shift is getting harder and harder to find.

sigh.

she will need help for a long time.

SheilaT (17,738 posts)    Sat May 16, 2015, 11:19 AM

11. A forensic accountant ought to be well worth the money.
 
A while back, when I was a paralegal, my first attorney had me go over the ledgers of a small company, because his client thought they were somehow hiding money. I am not an accountant, nor even a bookkeeper, but it was very interesting. It became clear after a while that the bookkeeper in this small company was incredibly ethical and honest.

In your case, he probably isn't all that ethical and honest, so someone with a lot greater knowledge than I have needs to be looking at things.

<<<familiar with forensic accounting, for professional reasons.

mopinko (43,933 posts)   Sat May 16, 2015, 11:29 AM

12. yeah, just hired one.
 
really like him, too. experienced in divorce work, and open to finding ways to keep everything together.

it's not so much that i think he is stashing money as that he is cashing out and spending assets that he should be splitting.

if he can claw back even half of that, he will pay for himself.

subpoenas about to fly, tho.

accountant is more open to answering money questions than my lawyer, too. she is focused on the split, but i am focused on the fact that this deal has to see me through the next 30 years.

i think he can put together a better deal than the attorney.

(he is cute, too.)

[thundley4]

i really dont want to lose her from my life. she is the only one of my 5 kids i have a decent relationship with.

If you have 5 children and the only one you have a somewhat "decent" relationship with, is suffering from some sort of brain damage, then maybe you are the problem.

[Mr Mannn]

Hey MO! Better get used to sights like this...

[GOBUCKS]

he needs the farm to roam.

It must be heaven for a dog to roam over 1/8th of an acre, choked with weeds and junk, in the middle of Chicago.

[Carl]

Before fall arrives Mo,my guess is that you will be restrained and taken away.

[franksolich]

Before fall arrives Mo,my guess is that you will be restrained and taken away.

I cannot believe what a mess Big Mo's made out of her life.

She grew up in a loving, caring, supportive family.

She married a man who loved her to bits, gave her everything she wanted.....and who was loaded too.

Gifted with five kids to bring her joy and purpose fulfilment in life.

Damn.  What more could a woman possibly want?

[Carl]

I cannot believe what a mess Big Mo's made out of her life.

She grew up in a loving, caring, supportive family.

She married a man who loved her to bits, gave her everything she wanted.....and who was loaded too.

Gifted with five kids to bring her joy and purpose fulfilment in life.

Damn.  What more could a woman possibly want?

In her case,like all leftists,there is always something more out there that they obsess over the notion that they deserve it.
Eventually the futility of that growing rage renders them too insane to be left on their own.

Alas chicken witch,you will soon be staring at white walls and Chicago will soon be bulldozing your junk yard of chicken shit and your filthy tenement to dust.

[obumazombie]

Demeter (79,935 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 12:40 PM

3. Been there, done that
 
Can you get him on the hook for your atty. fees?

Hope you haven't any children in play....bastard ex kidnapped ours, took me 4 weeks, a lawyer from the internet, and a trip cross country...he hasn't communicated with them since he spent a night in jail for not paying support for 6 years (that was after the kidnapping failed so utterly)....he was a tight bastard, if the money wasn't spent on him.

Demeter (79,935 posts)    Fri May 8, 2015, 01:03 PM

8. Funny, I have a disabled daughter, too
 
He wanted to institutionalize her, and put her sister in boarding school...

Ignore the total lack of appropriate institutions!

I don't know how they do it.
They manage to ignore the trauma their fellow libs are going through, then make it all about themselves.

[Aristotelian]

she is the only one of my 5 kids i have a decent relationship with

Well that just plain shocks me - I can't imagine for a moment why the other children wouldn't want to have anything to do with her.

[dane]

There are a couple of references to "the farm".  Is "the farm" that vacant lot full of trash and debris that she posts photos of from time to time?

If so, that is certainly not my mental image of "farm".

[Mr Mannn]

There are a couple of references to "the farm".  Is "the farm" that vacant lot full of trash and debris that she posts photos of from time to time?

If so, that is certainly not my mental image of "farm".

Why yes it is.
It also breeds...rats. Lots and lots of them.
A sane person would not be proud of a lot like hers...but Mo is not sane.

Mo...if you are reading this...JAIL TIME.

[SVPete]

"Real" farmers do tend to have a bit of a pack rat instinct. My Dad had a pile of scrap metal, maybe 20' x 10', just outside his work building. It was the scrap metal he used to do repairs and jury rig useful contrivances for use in his farming. But his pack-ratting was never hoarding or otherwise out of control; that 20' x 10' was tiny in the context of the 200-300 (more?) acres he farmed and on which we lived.

[GOBUCKS]

she is the only one of my 5 kids i have a decent relationship with

The one who tolerates her is a "fur baby".