diabeticman (2,380 posts)
41. We could not have kids. I am going to risk further scandal here but I personally am not comfortable with kids. My wife and I use to babysits friends kids and stuff but they do get on my nerves. When we did have cats she had a way to channel that desire to mother something. She misses it. The other night she snapped at me "You got everything you wanted and I had to give up the only thing that made me whole."
So figure that one out.

Dude. You are ****ed.
But in case you forgot, it's all about ME for the DUmpmonkies..
mopinko (42,972 posts)
43. pets were an issue in my divorce.
i replaced a parrot that i had lost with a little fellow who found me.
i wasnt going to get another, as others in the house never liked any of the birds i kept, but especially her.
my husband thought i was replacing him in my heart w a parrot.
we (ok, i) also have several dogs, including 2 little terriers that he always hated.
but this was all superficial, and the real problems were insurmountable.
you have to decide if it is really just about the cats. for me, it was not just an issue, but an indicator. he pissed on my joy at having a new friend. again. like he always did, whatever small joy that was.
****. You people are miserable.
diabeticman (2,380 posts)
67. I wouldn't have minded a kid but as we have gone on in our married life I am more comfortable
the way it is. I am uncomfortable with the idea of adopting. My father felt uncomfortsble about my brothers and me. We never had a kid natural.. My grandmother would say it is not meant to be. Now accept it. that was how I was raised.
You just told us you didn't want kids, you didn't like kids, and that they made you uncomfortable...
KMOD (1,370 posts)
70. Look, you have been given a plenitude of advice.
And you don't seem to want to take any of it.
Have your wife see a doctor - can't
Sell you home - can't
sneak a cat in anyway - ignored
WTF? Why ask advise if you won't take any of it. Every suggestion to you is met with an excuse.
Look, I'm not trying to pick on you. I care. I care about everybody. But your reluctance to suggestions and helpful advice is mind-boggling.
Maybe because none of it is real...