Well I'm confused now. Gheys are telling it's OK to use the word "gay"? I work with a self admitted bull dyke and he/she gets pissed off anytime we use the phrase "that's gay" to describe something stupid. He/She says "that's gay" is offensive and that he/she prefers the term "that's lame" be used instead. When I asked him/her if the handicapped might find the term "that's lame" offensive, he/she merely repeated that "that's gay" is offensive and we shouldn't use it around him/her.
Relax DLR, you have run up against the old time thought that for Instance, I can tell a Polish joke because I am Polish but if you are Irish and tell the same joke, I take offence.
IIRC, the term " That's so Gay " began in the 1980's and was used exclusively among the Gay Comunity. As long as this remained with in the comunity, no problem. It was only when straights began to use the term that the gays became offended. How dare you corrupt our linguistics. This is offencive to me.
Same reason we get rilled up when the gays try to corrupt the meaning of marriage. However, as offensive to straights it is, for some reason the minority get laws passed that can silence the majority.
I can call my friend if I am black a [N] but if you are not black that is a hate word. Interesting way to separate cultures and prevent them from banding together for a better world.