knitting primitive tied up in knots about end of marriage

[franksolich]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8263015

Is this the primitive whose husband is allegedly a physician?

Or am I thinking of some other primitive?

knitter4democracy  (1000+ posts)      Sat Nov-22-08 08:30 PM
Original message
 
There may be hope in America, but my marriage is over.

My soon-to-be-ex told me last night that, even though he'd been in therapy with me and had promised me that he was working on himself and us and wanted to stay married, he's been back with his mistress and that he's leaving me for her.

Apparently, he doesn't want to be married to me anymore and thinks I'm the source of all his unhappiness. Whatever.

It just feels awful. I didn't work on the Obama campaign because I was working through health crap and this, and now that Obama's won, it feels almost like someone poured salt in the wound. Everyone's so happy and excited, and I'm crying and trying to protect myself and my kids.

I could really use some vibes, prayers, good thoughts, shouts at the sky, whatever right now.

skygazer  (1000+ posts)        Sat Nov-22-08 08:32 PM
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1. I'm so sorry

Do whatever you have to in order to protect you and your kids and know that we've got your back.

knitter4democracy  (1000+ posts)      Sat Nov-22-08 08:33 PM
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2. Thank you.

He's staying here tonight to help the kids with the transition, and all I want to do is scream at him and kick him out of the house. With the way the kids are needing him, though, I just can't do that. As bad as he's been to me, he's still their dad.

Chief Bellowing Bull speaks:

Redstone  (1000+ posts)      Sat Nov-22-08 09:06 PM
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12. That's a damn shame. Divorce is rarely easy, but I hope you get through the process with a minimum amount of pain and suffering.

Just remember, it DOES get better, with time. I'd not have believed that when I was going through my own hideous divorce, but it's true.

NanceGreggs  (1000+ posts)        Sat Nov-22-08 09:14 PM
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15. I am so sorry you are in this situation, K4D ...

As a survivor of two failed marriages, I know rest of comment deleted so as to eliminate irrelevancies

Believe it or not, this bonfire turns into a knitting discussion.

I've never learned so much about wool, as at this primitive bonfire.

[mamacags]

I would rather be a widow than a divorce'.  I tell my hubby that all of the time.  Works very well.

[Duchess]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8263015

Is this the primitive whose husband is allegedly a physician?

Or am I thinking of some other primitive?

Chief Bellowing Bull speaks:

Believe it or not, this bonfire turns into a knitting discussion.

I've never learned so much about wool, as at this primitive bonfire.

I wonder why people often say meaningless things like "We've got your back", when they don't have any intention of doing anything actually concrete in the way of help? In what way do the DUmmies "have her back"? They'll be there for her to pizz and moan to, and to offer their usually demented advice? They already do that, don't they?

[Chris_]

ADBOT COMES THROUGH AGAIN!!!!!

[Carl]

This is a lady that is hurting so regardless of politics the guy in me wishes that they could fix it or make it better.


Still though that she would view this in light and context of politics makes me wonder.

[Chris_]

This is a lady that is hurting so regardless of politics the guy in me wishes that they could fix it or make it better.


Still though that she would view this in light and context of politics makes me wonder.

All of the female posters at the DUmp are shrews.  No wonder the hubbie took a woman.  Hell, those ball-busters would make a man take a boyfriend over them.

[Ralph Wiggum]

skygazer  (1000+ posts)        Sat Nov-22-08 08:32 PM
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1. I'm so sorry

Do whatever you have to in order to protect you and your kids and know that we've got your back.

With what, healing white light?

[Traveshamockery]

Evoman  Donating Member  (1000+ posts) 
Sat Nov-22-08 11:59 PM
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24. For ten bucks and a smile, you can hire me to pound the crap out of him.
   
Trust me, it will make you feel a hell of a lot better and I'll be able to afford a Booster Juice.

Just kidding...sort of.

Hang in there, lady. I'm not a big believer in vibes, as you well know, but I'll send them to you anyways.

What is Booster Juice?  Wait, maybe I don't want to know.  But he will beat up her husband for $10.  Now that's the big time.  No vibes - he'll just beat up her husband for her.   

   

[whiffleball]

Yes, she says her husband is a physician. 

She's posted in the past about breast cancer and I do feel for her regardless of politics. 

[Strider]

I wonder why people often say meaningless things like "We've got your back", when they don't have any intention of doing anything actually concrete in the way of help? In what way do the DUmmies "have her back"? They'll be there for her to pizz and moan to, and to offer their usually demented advice? They already do that, don't they?

Yeah...
I was thinking the same thing....leave it to the naive Utopian liberals to say shit like this....
yeah....I am sure they would have her back.....She better not bend over ...

[DumbAss Tanker]

Hard to believe that someone with a typical DU dark outlook and socialist 'egalitarianism' wouldn't be the light of her husband-the-doctor's life, illuminating all his days making every evening homecoming an anticipated joy.  Yep, real hard.  Can't imagine a guy ever getting a gut full of that good stuff.

 

[jukin]

If my wife posted on the DUmp there would be no way I could have that type of personality near me.

[delilahmused]

I feel most sorry for the kids. Besides, who knows what the real story is. What struck me is how everything is the husband's fault...HE's having an affair, HE needs to work on himself while she's just the poor long-suffering wife. Maybe she did pick a real cad. I have a good friend who is really smart about every part of her life, except her taste in men. She's currently working on marriage number three. Anyway, it was pretty easy to see the train wreck before she got on board. If she were still young and stupid I could understand, but by middle age, two kids, three husbands, and zero self-reflection (yes, she's a flaming lib but we've been good friends almost our whole lives) she only has herself to blame.

Then again, perhaps if this moonbat spent a little more time knitting and a little less time bitching, her husband wouldn't be seeking more pleasant company elsewhere. I really believe most marriages end because of selfishness on the part of one or both people. Besides, husbands aren't all that complicated. Appreciate them, don't bitch and complain all the time. Get up in the morning and take the time to make yourself look good. It's not the few extra pounds and wrinkles that bother them so much as the lack of care you take in yourself (often that spills over into the care one takes about life in general). A clean (not perfect) house, a recliner and remote, a very specific Christmas list (my husband, bless his heart, couldn't take a hint if it was wrapped around a brand new shotgun), and a wife who is a lady in public and a whore in bed. Still, you could be the kinkiest woman on the planet and if you're also a raving lunatic moonbat harpy most normal men would be scared to death to sleep with you (perhaps said mistress is a necessity), so there is that.

Cindie

[Eupher]

I feel most sorry for the kids. Besides, who knows what the real story is. What struck me is how everything is the husband's fault...HE's having an affair, HE needs to work on himself while she's just the poor long-suffering wife. Maybe she did pick a real cad. I have a good friend who is really smart about every part of her life, except her taste in men. She's currently working on marriage number three. Anyway, it was pretty easy to see the train wreck before she got on board. If she were still young and stupid I could understand, but by middle age, two kids, three husbands, and zero self-reflection (yes, she's a flaming lib but we've been good friends almost our whole lives) she only has herself to blame.

Then again, perhaps if this moonbat spent a little more time knitting and a little less time bitching, her husband wouldn't be seeking more pleasant company elsewhere. I really believe most marriages end because of selfishness on the part of one or both people. Besides, husbands aren't all that complicated. Appreciate them, don't bitch and complain all the time. Get up in the morning and take the time to make yourself look good. It's not the few extra pounds and wrinkles that bother them so much as the lack of care you take in yourself (often that spills over into the care one takes about life in general). A clean (not perfect) house, a recliner and remote, a very specific Christmas list (my husband, bless his heart, couldn't take a hint if it was wrapped around a brand new shotgun), and a wife who is a lady in public and a whore in bed. Still, you could be the kinkiest woman on the planet and if you're also a raving lunatic moonbat harpy most normal men would be scared to death to sleep with you (perhaps said mistress is a necessity), so there is that.

Cindie

Bravo, Cindie. H5.

[BlueStateSaint]

I feel most sorry for the kids. Besides, who knows what the real story is. What struck me is how everything is the husband's fault...HE's having an affair, HE needs to work on himself while she's just the poor long-suffering wife. Maybe she did pick a real cad. I have a good friend who is really smart about every part of her life, except her taste in men. She's currently working on marriage number three. Anyway, it was pretty easy to see the train wreck before she got on board. If she were still young and stupid I could understand, but by middle age, two kids, three husbands, and zero self-reflection (yes, she's a flaming lib but we've been good friends almost our whole lives) she only has herself to blame.

Then again, perhaps if this moonbat spent a little more time knitting and a little less time bitching, her husband wouldn't be seeking more pleasant company elsewhere. I really believe most marriages end because of selfishness on the part of one or both people. Besides, husbands aren't all that complicated. Appreciate them, don't bitch and complain all the time. Get up in the morning and take the time to make yourself look good. It's not the few extra pounds and wrinkles that bother them so much as the lack of care you take in yourself (often that spills over into the care one takes about life in general). A clean (not perfect) house, a recliner and remote, a very specific Christmas list (my husband, bless his heart, couldn't take a hint if it was wrapped around a brand new shotgun), and a wife who is a lady in public and a whore in bed. Still, you could be the kinkiest woman on the planet and if you're also a raving lunatic moonbat harpy most normal men would be scared to death to sleep with you (perhaps said mistress is a necessity), so there is that.

Cindie

Ditto on the H5.  My wife and I are best friends before anything.  Sure, our daughter takes up a lot of time and energy, but there's moments.  She's not a "raving lunatic moonbat harpy" by any stretch.  Hell, she wants me to go deer hunting (I've got a feeling that she secretly likes venison).  She encouraged me to join my Catholic Church's choir, around this time last year.  She said that I needed the "release" from our daughter (then a newborn). 

Like a lot of guys, I married up.

[Chris_]

I feel most sorry for the kids. Besides, who knows what the real story is. What struck me is how everything is the husband's fault...HE's having an affair, HE needs to work on himself while she's just the poor long-suffering wife. Maybe she did pick a real cad. I have a good friend who is really smart about every part of her life, except her taste in men. She's currently working on marriage number three. Anyway, it was pretty easy to see the train wreck before she got on board. If she were still young and stupid I could understand, but by middle age, two kids, three husbands, and zero self-reflection (yes, she's a flaming lib but we've been good friends almost our whole lives) she only has herself to blame.

Then again, perhaps if this moonbat spent a little more time knitting and a little less time bitching, her husband wouldn't be seeking more pleasant company elsewhere. I really believe most marriages end because of selfishness on the part of one or both people. Besides, husbands aren't all that complicated. Appreciate them, don't bitch and complain all the time. Get up in the morning and take the time to make yourself look good. It's not the few extra pounds and wrinkles that bother them so much as the lack of care you take in yourself (often that spills over into the care one takes about life in general). A clean (not perfect) house, a recliner and remote, a very specific Christmas list (my husband, bless his heart, couldn't take a hint if it was wrapped around a brand new shotgun), and a wife who is a lady in public and a whore in bed. Still, you could be the kinkiest woman on the planet and if you're also a raving lunatic moonbat harpy most normal men would be scared to death to sleep with you (perhaps said mistress is a necessity), so there is that.

Cindie

h5 -- Beautifully stated.

[Duke Nukum]

this is a lesson to men, never get married without a mistress clause in the pre-nup.

And ladies, don't sign the pre-nup unless there is a clause that he only gets his mistress(es) based on how financially successful he is and the ability to be able to afford a nice big outdoor pool.

[formerlurker]

I would rather be a widow than a divorce'.  I tell my hubby that all of the time.  Works very well.

 

H5