I do not want to die from covid-19

[dutch508]

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I do not want to die from covid-19

I'm a representative payee to a disblabled neighbor. His disability is not physical but mental, bipolar. He's easily frustrated but manages to somewhat control himself. He's had an ongoing feud with another neighbor with cops being called on a regular basis. He was finally forced to move as his property was bought by a real estate company. He owned his trailer but not the lot.

I digress. His mother died 3 years ago and she ruled him with an iron fist. When she became unable to drive to the bank to get his disablity checks and grocery shopping I volunteered to drive them. She insisted upon paying me and I would not accept the money. I spoke with friends (i'm a yankee from ny state) and my southern friends said that that's wat we southerners do. reluctantly I accepted the money. The family of 3 sisters and 2 sons fought over her car and her trailer. My disabled neighbor had a handwritten note from his mom that he would get the trailer and the car. This siblings threatened him saying they were going to admit him to a psych. ward. He prevailed. He then chose me over his siblings to be is representative payee.

So for several years now I have on the 3rd of the month drive him to his bank, he has no credit card and no debit card so he usually takes out 1,300.00 in cash a month to pay his bills etc. The reason he can't drive is 12 years ago he got a dui. In order to get his license back he has to pay a lot of money for classis etc.

On Tuesday July 7, 2020 I went to pick him up. When he got in I told him that he had to wear his face mask. He put it on and off we went. It's about a 25 minute drive. At one point he pushed his mask down to epose his nose saying he couldn't breath. Then he abandoned the whole thing so he could smoke. This is my failure to insist on his behavior in my car. I was furious as we continued on to home he had to stop here, then there then someplace else. I lost it and exploded as he tried to give me a 10.00 bill to make another stop. I gritted my teeth and waved away his 10.dollar bill saying "There are more thing important than money, Mike", drove him back home.

Some background to this story. He pays for sex. Despite his DUI he's been hanging out at a local bar that he rides his bicyle to. I had asked him, are they wearing masks inside? Nope. His go to prostitute has many guys she services. This is so tawdry and just ICK. So today worring about my own freaking health I called him up and said "hey mike, I think it would be best if you asked ''sister" to take you to you next psych. appointment.

I'm a senior in good health. I do not want to die. I'm careful wear my mask go out once in a while to shop, library etc. in off hours. I'm done with my former friend/neighbor.

Social Security's Representative Payment Program provides benefit payment management for our beneficiaries who are incapable of managing their Social Security or Supplemental Security Income (SSI) payments. We appoint a suitable representative payee (payee) who manages the payments on behalf of the beneficiaries.

What a whiny ficking bitch...

Star Member lettucebe (591 posts)

1. You did the right thing

Taking care of him was good and you did it as long as feasible but now it is just no longer feasible to put yourself in danger like that for a non-relative.

Star Member marble falls (31,700 posts)

7. There are plenty of authrities available to take control of this person, from his sisters to the ...

state. There is no reason for you to be handling this person by yourself. Whatever agency that recognizes you as his "representative payee" might be a good place to start if you think the sisters might act not in his interests.

This simple act of kindness has become more than you should handle. Get some help - your concerns are reasonable and rational.

You volunteered to help. I don't believe for a moment you weren't scamming money off the guy.

LisaL (34,374 posts)

12. Sounds like you've already done a lot more for this guy than most people would agree to do.

Since he has relatives, let one of them be his representative payee. This guy is of no relation to you. You shouldn't be worried about his bad behaviors and taking him around, when he won't even keep his mask on in your car.
Relatives with problems? Those you are stuck with. Your neighbor? Let his relatives deal with him.

Star Member MFM008 (18,046 posts)

15. Your life Is more important than his intransigence.
Im bipolar and can totally understand what wear a damn
Mask means. I do it in my friends car.
No excuses.

RobinA (7,596 posts)

17. If You Are his rep payée you do have certain obligations to him. Which understandably you now want to get out of. If I were you I would consult a lawyer who knows his/her way around social security. A lawyer could explain your options and help you get disentangled from this situation. Yes, this will cost some money. But you are in a situation that could cause you much grief, and that’s without the COVID part of the story. Good Luck!

 

[SVPete]

  Taking the at face value, LPC Noob probably faces greater risk in getting into his/her car than from this neighbor. But I doubt any DU-folk will tell Noob that, since stoking Covid Panic is Dem Party orthodoxy.

BTW, because I wear a mask a significant part of weekdays because my employer requires it, I can say that the -neighbor's complaint about breathing discomfort is realistic. I'm able to take breaks from the mask when I'm in my cube, so it's manageable. LPC Noob could have helped the neighbor by lowering the car windows, letting air flow through his/her car. But like I said ...

Stoking Covid Panic is Dem Party orthodoxy.

[Delmar]

Classy circle of friends.

[Zathras]

With an infection rate of less than 1% (3 million cases reported in a nation of 330 million people) I'm not worrying about catching the Wuhan Flu. I refuse to live my life like a scared little kitten because of it.

[landofconfusion80]

With an infection rate of less than 1% (3 million cases reported in a nation of 330 million people) I'm not worrying about catching the Wuhan Flu. I refuse to live my life like a scared little kitten because of it.

The cynicism is deep in our house. My 5 year old did air quotes while saying corona virus. 2 of them earned gadsden flag hats for essays they wrote last week

[Carl]

I lost track of what the DUmb fuk was bitching about.

[freedumb2003b]

I lost track of what the DUmb fuk was bitching about.

He is taking advantage of a feeble old woman for her money and does not like how not every one uses masks.