Gravitycollapse (6,987 posts) http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025271613 (http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025271613)
Hugging a woman does not mean you have permission to touch her outside the bounds of the hug...
She is not your pleasure object. If she let's you hug her, it is a hug you give and nothing more unless she enthusiastically consents to something more.
Violating this unspoken agreement of personal autonomy is both a criminal act and gross breach of ethics. Do not do this, ever, under any circumstance.
Thank you.
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Mon Jul 21, 2014, 04:59 PM
Star Member cyberswede (16,851 posts)
3. Trolls - always posting in threads where nobody was talking to them.
Star Member Nye Bevan (16,286 posts)
4. There should be no hugs without strongly affirmed consent.
Preferably in writing.
Dreamer Tatum (8,421 posts)
7. What prompted this OP? nt
MineralMan (65,553 posts)
11. I never hug a woman or girl unless she initiates it.
I'd never dream of a hug being more than friendly thing.
Gravitycollapse (6,987 posts) http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025271613Criminalizing hugs ?
Hugging a woman does not mean you have permission to touch her outside the bounds of the hug...
She is not your pleasure object. If she let's you hug her, it is a hug you give and nothing more unless she enthusiastically consents to something more.
Violating this unspoken agreement of personal autonomy is both a criminal act and gross breach of ethics. Do not do this, ever, under any circumstance.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 05:01 PM
Star Member Nye Bevan (16,288 posts)
4. There should be no hugs without strongly affirmed consent.
Preferably in writing.
What drives me nuts is when when women, who find me "huggable"-appearing, take the liberty of doing so.
MineralMan
11. I never hug a woman or girl unless she initiates it.
Dreamer Tatum (8,428 posts)
38. Seems like a lot of stern advice is being provided lately as though everyone needs it. nt
Gravitycollapse (6,994 posts)
41. If you think this is stern advice, then it was written for you.
Dreamer Tatum (8,428 posts)
44. Oops, I meant self-justifying stern advice.
I mean, spare me and everyone else. Of COURSE you mean it to be stern. And OF COURSE I need it. Because anyone who points out that, you know, you're sort of preaching to the choir, well, they MUST be guilty. Brother. I cannot wait until this mania subsides.
Gravitycollapse (6,994 posts)
72. This is sort of a litmus test.
If you think the OP is stern advice, then that is a potential indicator that it was written for you.
The point is that I'm obviously not preaching to the choir. As I said to another poster, I would not have posted this had I thought its premises were unanimously accepted amongst posters. There would be no need for a reminder if everyone already presently, clearly knew it.
Dreamer Tatum (8,428 posts)
75. Then I'm reminding you not to rape anyone.
Just don't.
OK, gravitycollapse? I'm reminding you that rape is wrong, and under no circumstances should you
rape anyone. At all. Rape is wrong. Rape is bad.
So...just don't. OK? Are we clear on that?
Ewwww.....who would want to hug a Dummy?
Ewwww.....who would want to hug a Dummy?Stevenumbers
They are starting to wear thin at the DUmp.
There are other victims of something that sense they are getting elbowed away from the head of the table.
They are starting to wear thin at the DUmp.
There are other victims of something that sense they are getting elbowed away from the head of the table.
What drives me nuts is when when women, who find me "huggable"-appearing, take the liberty of doing so.
One of my most persistent nightmares involves that of BainsBane or LynneSin or Omaha Steve hugging me, smothering me.
Brrrrr.
<<<am not a hugging sort of person, despite appearances.
<<<am willing to hug on those occasions where I know the person, the person's vital statistics, the person's family history, the person's credit report, the person's criminal record, the person's psychological make-up.
But before then, no; a simple nod of the head and a "hello, how are you?" suffices, giving me all the warmth and affection I need.
franksolich has an entire DU fan club who dream of giving him hugs.Steve wants to give him a neck beard hug!
Big, two-breasted hugs.
Or in the case of LynneSin and Omaha Steve, four-breasted hugs. Got to include that back-boob action.
Steve wants to give him a neck beard hug!
Criminalizing hugs ?
Hey, b!tches! learn these words: "Forever Alone." No one is gonna want to drag a lawyer on a date with you. Any guy worth his salt will smell the crazy b1tch scent and run away.
DU girls are pathetic.
Women on women hugs?
Just hugs, you say? :naughty: