Fri Jun 27, 2014, 08:58 PMhttp://www.democraticunderground.com/10025161483
Drunken Irishman (26,300 posts)
I had the most humiliating experience of my life today at work.
It sucked. I'm sure this isn't the right place for this, but I need to vent. I don't know if it'll help with what I felt, but eh...
So, I was actually doing well. I felt well. It was Friday. Work had just ended. I couldn't be more happier. I'm walking with this guy I work with, who's a couple years younger than me, and a pretty decent looking dude. I can say it - I know it - he's not a bad looking guy at all. Anywhoo, we're walking down the hall, laughing about something, when I drop my badge. These girls, who were attractive as well, walk by, grab the badge and ask if anyone lost their badge. So, we both turn around, and he starts walking toward 'em, with me tailing a bit behind. She then flips the badge over, looks at the photo, looks at my coworker, and says, "this is definitely not yours" - with an exaggerated definitely. She then laughs and gives off a total repulsive look until she realizes that, no, it wasn't him - it was me.
I felt so low. I never thought I was an Adonis. But I never thought I was repulsive looking. I know I've HATED my work photo because, when I got it, I was heavier than I am now (and somehow, I look gigantic in the photo, which I never really was), and I feel I've certainly lost weight since then (especially in the face, which is only visible), but it crushed me. I wanted to die. I've never been so humiliated in my life. The look she gave me was of complete repulsion - like I was some hideous troll.
Needless to say, I've lost any confidence I found going to the gym nearly every day. My hope, and it's a small bit of it, is that I look hardly anything like my photo.
Anyway, sorry to vent. I just hit rock bottom on something that maybe you'll all find trivial, but really wrecked my self-esteem.
Fri Jun 27, 2014, 09:13 PM
Star Member cali (93,795 posts)
17. Please, please, please don't perserverate over this. She's not worth it.
You must not loose self-confidence over this casual cruelty.
This "special flower" could give loconuts a run for his money. And, what's this crap about "I'm sure I have lost weight", I'm betting that gym he attends every day has a set of scales.
Looks aside, I'm SURE ( - with an exaggerated SURE) that working with this DUmmy is nothing but pure joy.
I'm walking with this guy I work with, who's a couple years younger than me, and a pretty decent looking dude. I can say it - I know it - he's not a bad looking guy at all.
C'mon, Timmy. 'Fess up. Your co-worker makes you feel funny in your pants, doesn't he?
I'm walking with this guy I work with, who's a couple years younger than me, and a pretty decent looking dude. I can say it - I know it - he's not a bad looking guy at all.
I think it moved.
-George Costanza
So, "I'm sure I have lost weight," is pretty silly. Either he isn't paying attention to his clothes and/or strength, or he hasn't.
Drunken Irishman (26,301 posts)
I had the most humiliating experience of my life today at work.
It sucked. I'm sure this isn't the right place for this, but I need to vent. I don't know if it'll help with what I felt, but eh...
So, I was actually doing well. I felt well. It was Friday. Work had just ended. I couldn't be more happier. I'm walking with this guy I work with, who's a couple years younger than me, and a pretty decent looking dude. I can say it - I know it - he's not a bad looking guy at all. Anywhoo, we're walking down the hall, laughing about something, when I drop my badge. These girls, who were attractive as well, walk by, grab the badge and ask if anyone lost their badge. So, we both turn around, and he starts walking toward 'em, with me tailing a bit behind. She then flips the badge over, looks at the photo, looks at my coworker, and says, "this is definitely not yours" - with an exaggerated definitely. She then laughs and gives off a total repulsive look until she realizes that, no, it wasn't him - it was me.
I felt so low. I never thought I was an Adonis. But I never thought I was repulsive looking. I know I've HATED my work photo because, when I got it, I was heavier than I am now (and somehow, I look gigantic in the photo, which I never really was), and I feel I've certainly lost weight since then (especially in the face, which is only visible), but it crushed me. I wanted to die. I've never been so humiliated in my life. The look she gave me was of complete repulsion - like I was some hideous troll.
Needless to say, I've lost any confidence I found going to the gym nearly every day. My hope, and it's a small bit of it, is that I look hardly anything like my photo.
Anyway, sorry to vent. I just hit rock bottom on something that maybe you'll all find trivial, but really wrecked my self-esteem.
MoonRiver (19,219 posts)
4. So sorry you had that terrible experience, but it is more about "her" than you.
Right now I have the driver's license picture from hell, but I would never in a million years think any halfway decent person would make fun of me for it. YOU don't have a problem. SHE does.
CaliforniaPeggy (109,349 posts)
5. She was so wrong to do that to you.
And how wrong she was. I don't think it's trivial at all, either.
You were having a great day, and then this person sees fit to degrade you. Who wouldn't be upset? I know I would be.
You will recover from this. I'd suggest continuing to go to the gym and take care of yourself.
I'm sorry this happened...
A Little Weird (688 posts)
6. I'm so sorry to hear that
I've been made to feel that kind of humiliation before too and I sympathize. People can be such assholes.
Sheldon Cooper (2,818 posts)
7. Oh, **** her and the horse she rode in on.
Seriously. She means nothing in the grand scheme. Hold your head up and move on.
Ken Burch (33,563 posts)
108. I'm thinking the horse would be a better lover, though.
Horses are generally gentle and sensitive creatures.
(not that I'd test this theory personally, of course, but still...)
Kaleva (13,125 posts)
8. I accepted long ago that true beauty is below the surface.
I can't compete in the looks department against most anyone and back in high school and in the following years that played a major role in my low self esteem but then I got the attitude that I'm as happy and content with life as I myself decide to be. My looks haven't improved expect though people now make comments about my smile, my laugh and the sparkle in my eyes.
Cali_Democrat (20,831 posts)
9. You're over thinking this
How do you know for sure she was repulsed by your photo? Maybe she said its definitely not him because it looked nothing like your co-worker. Maybe it had nothing to do with how attractive you looked in the photo.
woolldog (7,237 posts)
31. He said she looked repulsed at the photo while she was looking at it.
And before she realized the man in the photo was him.
He's not over thinking it. The OP just needs to try not to care what some random woman thinks of an old photo he took that doesn't even look like him now. Some people just dont take good photos.
JI7 (46,678 posts)
10. she was exaggerating as a way to compliment or come on to your friend
i have an idea of the situation but she most likely didn't even see your pic that much. just enough to see that it wasn't your friend.
also you should not stop going to the gym or whatever you do to try to stay healthy and in good shape. but you should take a look at why you do it and how it should not matter what people like this say or think.
i know emotionally it's not as easy to deal with this but as you get older these things will not matter as much as they seem to right now.
winter is coming (6,292 posts)
13. Sounds like she was trying to flirt with your coworker, in a clumsy and thoughtless way.
You appear to think she didn't recognize you at first because you were tailing your coworker, but perhaps she didn't make the connection because your badge picture doesn't look like you. Either way, it was a shallow thing for her to have said and I'm sorry it spoiled your day.
Not one of you has awarded any bongs.
Ken Burch (33,563 posts)
108. I'm thinking the horse would be a better lover, though.
Horses are generally gentle and sensitive creatures.
(not that I'd test this theory personally, of course, but still...)
Fri Jun 27, 2014, 08:58 PM
Drunken Irishman (26,300 posts)
I had the most humiliating experience of my life today at work.
Most people, normal folks that is, upon being humiliated at work, run home and post all about it on the interwebs? Is this normal?Of course. The lib ulterior motive angle. I should have guessed as much. Libs almost always have an ulterior motive for anything that seems genuine.
Thus I conclude that this post is perhaps an ill-advised and failed attempt to start a pitty boucy. Get all the fat/ugly/drunk available female DUmmietts to offer to console his sorry butt. Perhaps hook-up with one.
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You sure do Google some strange shit :lmao:
Aww man - I was really hoping that the title of this thread was literal. :dozer:
I don't think I'd said that. :lmao:
If someone hasn't been called ugly, fat, or stupid at least once in their life, I'd like to know what planet they live on.
Aww man - I was really hoping that the title of this thread was literal. :dozer:
It is assumed I am stupid before I open my mouth.
Un-possible