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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: Dori on January 26, 2014, 07:02:39 PM
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dawg (6,239 posts)
Sorry to be a downer, but damn, I am a broken man!
It all started around four years ago when I found out my wife was cheating. She had been my dream, my best friend, and the sexiest woman I could even imagine.
I was devastated, but not entirely surprised.
She had been leading up to this for several years. Excessive flirtations, dodgy internet activity, "phone" buddies - that sort of thing. We even went to couples therapy over it. (I want my money back )
So the actual real-world cheating was a deal-breaker for me. I moved out. I threatened divorce, but I never really followed through on the legal paper work. There was always an excuse to put it off a few months.
Reconciling with her is not an option and never really was. She'd just do it again. Nothing in her has changed.
I guess a part of me was hoping that she would realize what she had "lost" one day and start at least trying to make amends. But no. I don't think she feels like she has "lost" anything.
And why not? What is so unattractive and/or unsexy about me as to render my love "disposable"? Well, I know that I'm a depressed, whining little shell of a man now, but I wasn't that way when she started all of this.
Well sorry for the pathetic rant. I hope no one replies and it sinks like a stone. I just don't seem to have the ability to get past this thing that has happened in my life. I want to find love again, but I'm shy and I don't have a large social network and I'm afraid there is something profoundly undesirable and unlovable about me that I'm just too dumb to see anyway.
Sigh.
Now, off to listen to the Joy Division album again.
"Got tears in my ears, from lying on my back, crying over you blues"
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dawg (6,239 posts)
Sorry to be a downer, but damn, I am a broken man!
DUmmy, you are a disgrace to canines everywhere.
Man up.
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dawg (6,239 posts)
Sorry to be a downer, but damn, I am a broken man!
It all started around four years ago when I found out my wife was cheating. She had been my dream, my best friend, and the sexiest woman I could even imagine.
I was devastated, but not entirely surprised.
She had been leading up to this for several years. Excessive flirtations, dodgy internet activity, "phone" buddies - that sort of thing. We even went to couples therapy over it. (I want my money back )
So the actual real-world cheating was a deal-breaker for me. I moved out. I threatened divorce, but I never really followed through on the legal paper work. There was always an excuse to put it off a few months.
Reconciling with her is not an option and never really was. She'd just do it again. Nothing in her has changed.
I guess a part of me was hoping that she would realize what she had "lost" one day and start at least trying to make amends. But no. I don't think she feels like she has "lost" anything.
And why not? What is so unattractive and/or unsexy about me as to render my love "disposable"? Well, I know that I'm a depressed, whining little shell of a man now, but I wasn't that way when she started all of this.
Well sorry for the pathetic rant. I hope no one replies and it sinks like a stone. I just don't seem to have the ability to get past this thing that has happened in my life. I want to find love again, but I'm shy and I don't have a large social network and I'm afraid there is something profoundly undesirable and unlovable about me that I'm just too dumb to see anyway.
Sigh.
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt dummie.
Now dummie... let me ask a few things.
1. Do you have a job?
2. Do you bathe regularly?
3. Do you act like a man?
If the answer is yes to all three questions, then you just got burned dummie. Yes it happens. It has happened to me.
Now you said she feels like she hasn't lost anything. Your words. Hmmmm.... food for thought. Perhaps you spent too much time on DU? Perhaps you didn't pay enough attention to her? The only person that knows the answer to that is her... and perhaps you.
The best thing you can do is cut your loss and move on. Perhaps you are wiser now, perhaps not. Do not spend your days pining for a woman that obviously has lost interest in you. Move on. Find another female dummie to take up with and take care of her. They are plentiful. Might I suggest Lady Freedom Returns or UnderGround Panther?
5 cents please.
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What is so unattractive and/or unsexy about me as to render my love "disposable"?
Your participation at DU.
The very fact you are a liberal not only makes your love disposable, it makes you disposable.
You will die alone: naked, unloved, unwanted and stupid.
So cheer up!
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This guy needs to send a PM to Sarah Imaboobi.
She's always searching for a man.
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I think dawg is looking for an excuse to go full homo
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That was just a magnificent story. Thank you AYKWIM.
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What is so unattractive and/or unsexy about me as to render my love "disposable"?
I just love that line.
H5 for the headline, Dori.
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Somebody should ask him for his ex's contact info. maybe she's still looking...
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Somebody should ask him for his ex's contact info. maybe she's still looking...
Stevenumbers might!
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Liberal wymins are greedy. They've had many men before marriage and want even more after marriage. Once they have a suckers name on the dotted line for child support it's off to the races. They're looking for a meal ticket....even if it's a low paying DUmmie man.
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dawg (6,239 posts)
I want to find love again, but I'm shy and I don't have a large social network and I'm afraid there is something profoundly undesirable and unlovable about me that I'm just too dumb to see anyway.
Sigh.
Let me help you, DUmmie:
I threatened... but I never really followed through....
There was always an excuse...
I know that I'm a depressed, whining little shell of a man...
In your own words, as in your life, this is your problem. You're a doormat of a pathetic, little man who has emasculated himself into the image of the ideal male, crafted by women who don't like men to begin with. You tried to be her gay friend and got dumped for someone who wasn't.
Want some wisdom? Nut up, understand she's never coming back to wipe her feet on you again, and get the Hell away from the DUmp.
Don't thank me, just pay it forward...
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Let me help you, DUmmie:
In your own words, as in your life, this is your problem. You're a doormat of a pathetic, little man who has emasculated himself into the image of the ideal male, crafted by women who don't like men to begin with. You tried to be her gay friend and got dumped for someone who wasn't.
Want some wisdom? Nut up, understand she's never coming back to wipe her feet on you again, and get the Hell away from the DUmp.
Don't thank me, just pay it forward...
I wonder if there's more to that. My FIL is constantly being told what, when, where and how to do something by his latest. As he's taken quite the submissive roll in the relationship and has little control over what he does, the female has taken on weight training, has toned to the point of vein-y and overdone it. He has remained quite hefty and soft. What an interesting concept, may have to run the idea of their reversed roles across my wife and explore the theory... they both are extremely liberal so this may be an up and coming thing for people of that persuasion.
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Let me help you, DUmmie:
In your own words, as in your life, this is your problem. You're a doormat of a pathetic, little man who has emasculated himself into the image of the ideal male, crafted by women who don't like men to begin with. You tried to be her gay friend and got dumped for someone who wasn't.
Want some wisdom? Nut up, understand she's never coming back to wipe her feet on you again, and get the Hell away from the DUmp.
Don't thank me, just pay it forward...
Maybe the dude was a cuckold....the kind that got his kicks thru her cheating. She found something better and moved on.
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Response to dawg (Original post)
Sun Jan 26, 2014, 09:44 PM
MrMickeysMom (12,075 posts)
18. Let me tell you about my brother, dawg... ...blah, blah, blah....You can and will again. Your rant wasn't pathetic. It was cathartic.
No, on second thought, it was pathetic
Response to dawg (Original post)
Mon Jan 27, 2014, 09:49 AM
Puzzledtraveller (3,796 posts)
22. Gird yourself
Thumper....
Response to dawg (Original post)
Mon Jan 27, 2014, 09:58 AM
Filmore (2 posts)
23. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. We've all been there. Believe in yourself.
Filmore (2 posts) darling, welcome to the nuthouse. Great advice, but try sending out some useful vibes. And the "Believe in yourself" meme, nice touch!
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Does he chortle? I get grossed out when a man chortles.