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Title: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: franksolich on December 17, 2013, 06:32:44 PM
http://www.democraticunderground.com/11514828

Oh my.

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Locut0s (4,590 posts)       Mon Dec 16, 2013, 07:39 PM

Have you ever lived as a shut-in?

I'm in a rather unusual position here. I have never been in a position where I HAD to live life or starve, or be on the street. For most people it's not a choice to work or not to, if you want food in your mouth or want to stay off the street you work!
 
My parents have long been huge enablers. We are by no means wealthy but we have always been financially stable enough to allow for such a situation to develop. When I would have my periodic mental breakdowns, 4 or 5 or more of them now, they would always allow me to live at home no questions asked like a parasite. I would do nothing but eat and sleep, and browse the web for months on end. I was lucky if I were to get out for long enough to even walk around the block. They never forced me to get a job, or socialize, or asked me to pay rent or even carry my own weight around the house.

I say they never forced me, but they definitely did "nudge" me. Which isn't to use them as an excuse for where I am, despite of all this I always knew the steps I needed to take and the things I "should" have been doing. I just never took the steps required out of fear, depression, and the good old "better the devil you know". Now at 31 I find myself STILL in this same situation like a 12 year old.

I HAVE made some steps in recent months that I have not made in the past, like opening up to my psych. In more resent weeks I've submitted a number of resumes online despite every fiber in my being resisting it, I know in the past I would not have submitted them in this state. I've also been looking into doing volunteer work soon, probably in Jan if I don't hear from employers. So I suppose there is some potential light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Then again I've been back to square one so many times it's hard to tell what is light and what may be a "light echo" from the past.
 
I figure now that over the years I've spent 2 years or more living as a shut-in like this. They have been spread out over the past decade or more, usually in periods lasting 2-6 months after a breakdown.
 
I've always felt like a complete freak and loser living like this. To my surprise in resent years I've learned through other online communities that there actually are others out there in my situation and, surprisingly, some worse off. I've talked to some in their mid 30s who haven't left their house in years. This isn't something to aspire to whatsoever and I don't bring it up for that reason, but it was somewhat comforting to find others out there.
 
Has anyone here had any experience with living as a shut-in. Perhaps not with your parents, perhaps on your own? Those with agoraphobia often go through periods where they can't leave their house.

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HereSince1628 (27,854 posts)    Tue Dec 17, 2013, 08:18 AM

1. In the interest of informing yourself, you might consider reading about a thing called "learned helplessness", if you haven't read about it already.

Martin Seligman is the guy who invented the term for this several decades ago. He and others have written many books on the topic. Self-defeating personality is another name under which the topic has been discussed...
 
It's been discussed as a psychological syndrome, but it seems to me more a category/label for conversations about how some people react to and work around the dysfunction that comes with depression.
 
One of the features of depression is indeed lack of motivation. Learned helpless is basically about the phenomenon of surrendering/giving in to the illness and learning to live/'get by'.
 
I don't advise such reading as a hunt for a self-help guide to happiness, but rather a way to broaden your awareness of a thing related to what you seem to be talking around.
 
Enhanced awareness might support conversations with your therapist.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: dutch508 on December 17, 2013, 06:47:02 PM
What a worthless piece of shit.

Loco is basicly saying that no one has made him do anything with his life, and he is too lazy to force himself to do it either. When he has tried there is always a happy easy excuse to run home and hide in the basement.

This **** should be taken out and shot. We should not allow his DNA to spred to a new generation.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: landofconfusion80 on December 17, 2013, 06:49:01 PM
He should've offed himself 10 years ago.  He knows he's a complete waste to humanity, he's ruining his parents' golden years and is contributing nothing to society. I would prescribe a bottle of sleeping pills and some rubbing alcohol.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: diesel driver on December 17, 2013, 06:50:14 PM
Face it, loconumbnuts, you're a complete loser.  You are worse than a leech, because leeches can serve a useful purpose, you have none.

Do your parents, the Canadian taxpayers, and the entire world a huge ass favor, and kill yourself already!   :argh:
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: BlueStateSaint on December 17, 2013, 06:57:05 PM
What a worthless piece of shit.

Loco is basicly saying that no one has made him do anything with his life, and he is too lazy to force himself to do it either. When he has tried there is always a happy easy excuse to run home and hide in the basement.

This **** should be taken out and shot. We should not allow his DNA to spred to a new generation.

Waste of a good round, Dutch.  There's less wasteful ways of dealing with it.  A 'flying lesson' over the open ocean, for example.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Dori on December 17, 2013, 07:01:36 PM
He sounds coherent.  I bet if he just got out in the sun and did some physical work, like did the yard work, or worked a garden, that might help him get over himself.

Losing some weight, a hair cut and ditching the Berni unibrow wouldn't hurt either. 











 
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: landofconfusion80 on December 17, 2013, 07:03:02 PM
Waste of a good round, Dutch.  There's less wasteful ways of dealing with it.  A 'flying lesson' over the open ocean, for example.

that would work until he has a panic attack on the runway, tears off across the field and ends up curled up rocking in a ball back in his childhood bedroom.  Best to drop him in the middle of Detroit at 2 in the morning and let nature take it's course.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: diesel driver on December 17, 2013, 07:16:00 PM
that would work until he has a panic attack on the runway, tears off across the field and ends up curled up rocking in a ball back in his childhood bedroom.  Best to drop him in the middle of Detroit at 2 in the morning and let nature take it's course.

No, man, leave him in Shitcago.

Better odds (for us), because of the higher population of obamasons.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: landofconfusion80 on December 17, 2013, 07:26:41 PM
No, man, leave him in Shitcago.

Better odds (for us), because of the higher population of obamasons.

That's true... bad bad Leroy brown would do great work on him.  Although seeing a news article of him frozen in a pool of his own tears in a Detroit elevator shaft has it's good points too.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: GOBUCKS on December 17, 2013, 08:13:43 PM
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I've always felt like a complete freak and loser living like this.

It's amazing that a lunatic like LocoNuts can describe himself so accurately.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: 98ZJUSMC on December 17, 2013, 08:30:53 PM
What a worthless piece of shit.

Loco is basicly saying that no one has made him do anything with his life, and he is too lazy to force himself to do it either. When he has tried there is always a happy easy excuse to run home and hide in the basement.

This **** should be taken out and shot. We should not allow his DNA to spred to a new generation.

Pretty pathetic, even by his subterranean standards.

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"learned helplessness"

AKA LIbEralism.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: SarasotaRepub on December 17, 2013, 08:31:21 PM
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My parents have long been huge enablers.



What a typical Libtard Loser. Although this POS is a complete waste, there
is always someone else to blame.

Your parents should kick your worthless ass out the front door and into the night.

Pathetic.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Freeper on December 17, 2013, 08:34:12 PM
He has a valid point about his parents enabling his lazy ass, however he could choose at any moment to grow the hell up and get off his lazy ass and do something about it.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Dori on December 17, 2013, 08:38:02 PM
He has a valid point about his parents enabling his lazy ass, however he could choose at any moment to grow the hell up and get off his lazy ass and do something about it.

I think he has been reading CC's threads on him.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: BattleHymn on December 17, 2013, 09:41:58 PM
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if I don't hear from employers.

If?  IF???   :rotf: :rotf: :rotf:
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: GOBUCKS on December 17, 2013, 10:33:54 PM
LocoNuts couldn't get a job if he had rsmithnumbers write his resume.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Bad Dog on December 17, 2013, 11:45:49 PM
For some reason I'm getting a bad feeling about Loconuts.  I see long suffering Dad going to the bedroom closet and getting out the trusty 12 ga.   I then see him coming slowly down the basement steps shoulders slumped and approaching his son from behind.  Then Loconuts will speak his last words, "Mom did you bring my Cheetos?".
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: landofconfusion80 on December 18, 2013, 05:28:49 AM
For some reason I'm getting a bad feeling about Loconuts.  I see long suffering Dad going to the bedroom closet and getting out the trusty 12 ga.   I then see him coming slowly down the basement steps shoulders slumped and approaching his son from behind.  Then Loconuts will speak his last words, "Mom did you bring my Cheetos?".

As a big fan of dark comedy, that's an awesome visual. A big Hi5 to you sir!
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: EagleKeeper on December 18, 2013, 05:36:00 AM
Somebody should alert the CDC, It seems that teh Affluenza is spreading.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: dane on December 18, 2013, 05:50:04 AM
This loser DUmmy posts the same theme time after time, and every time the DUmmies respond with pseudo support involving assertions of 'you can do this', 'you've shown great improvement', folded hands, good vibes, white lights and so on - but never the same advice that he gets over here (and we know he reads this) of 'move out and get a job'.

When his parents finally expire, he will either die or live as a parasite on the governement, and thank goodness the Canadians will be feeding/medicating him and not us.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Tucker on December 18, 2013, 05:59:18 AM
This loser DUmmy posts the same theme time after time, and every time the DUmmies respond with pseudo support involving assertions of 'you can do this', 'you've shown great improvement', folded hands, good vibes, white lights and so on - but never the same advice that he gets over here (and we know he reads this) of 'move out and get a job'.

When his parents finally expire, he will either die or live as a parasite on the governement, and thank goodness the Canadians will be feeding/medicating him and not us.

They'll just stick him in a group home. It will have one shared computer and it will have a filter on it. No DU.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Linda on December 18, 2013, 07:28:41 AM
This guy is such a miserable failure in every aspect of his life and he repeats the same mistakes over and over again. He never ever learns from his mistakes and his parents encourage him in his failures. I personally thinks he should take up bomb making as a hobby. He may actually learn something, or he could be a miserable failure at that too. Only time will tell.
(He could possibly take his enabling parents with him when he fails, would hate to separate such a loving caring family.)
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: dixierose on December 18, 2013, 09:39:04 AM
What a worthless piece of shit.

Loco is basicly saying that no one has made him do anything with his life, and he is too lazy to force himself to do it either. When he has tried there is always a happy easy excuse to run home and hide in the basement.

This **** should be taken out and shot. We should not allow his DNA to spred to a new generation.

Do you really think we need to worry about that?
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Alpha Mare on December 18, 2013, 09:49:36 AM



What a typical Libtard Loser. Although this POS is a complete waste, there
is always someone else to blame.

Your parents should kick your worthless ass out the front door and into the night.

Pathetic.

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1H-Y7MAASkg[/youtube]
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: DefiantSix on December 18, 2013, 09:59:48 AM
Do you really think we need to worry about that?

You never know. Stevenumbers might hit it. Better to be safe than sorry.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: dixierose on December 18, 2013, 10:01:49 AM
You never know. Stevenumbers might hit it. Better to be safe than sorry.

Okay...that made me laugh. :rofl:
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Ptarmigan on December 18, 2013, 11:01:40 AM
What a trainwreck!  :mental:
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Tucker on December 18, 2013, 11:05:18 AM
Do you really think we need to worry about that?

Yes. Knowing how liberal women are.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: DefiantSix on December 18, 2013, 11:28:52 AM
Yes. Knowing how liberal women are.

One of 'em might impregnate an effeminate DUmmy male, and then the world is ****ed.


(http://www.filmsquish.com/guts/files/images/Alien-The_Facehugger.png)
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: GOBUCKS on December 18, 2013, 01:53:07 PM
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When his parents finally expire, he will either die or live as a parasite on the governement, and thank goodness the Canadians will be feeding/medicating him and not us.

No, Canada has full-blown socialized medicine.

As soon as his parents pass away, the Canuck death panels will draw a bead on LocoNuts.

He won't last long.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: BannedFromDU on December 18, 2013, 02:15:06 PM
He sounds coherent.  I bet if he just got out in the sun and did some physical work, like did the yard work, or worked a garden, that might help him get over himself.


     Where I come from, they call this removing the sugar from your britches.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Gern on December 18, 2013, 04:40:50 PM
What was once pathetically funny is now just...well....pathetic.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: USA4ME on December 18, 2013, 05:15:07 PM
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Locut0s


My parents ... would always allow me to live at home no questions asked like a parasite. I would do nothing but eat and sleep, and browse the web for months on end. I was lucky if I were to get out for long enough to even walk around the block. They never forced me to get a job, or socialize, or asked me to pay rent or even carry my own weight around the house.

This guy is the envy of every liberal that's ever existed.

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Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: JLO on December 18, 2013, 09:10:23 PM
What was once pathetically funny is now just...well....pathetic.

That's what I'm thinking, too.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: GOBUCKS on December 18, 2013, 10:00:58 PM
What was once pathetically funny is now just...well....pathetic.

No way. The crazier LocoNuts gets and the more he writes about it, the funnier he becomes.

If he keeps it up and if he doesn't commit suicide, two really big ifs, he could contend for Top DUmmy some day.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: chitownchica on December 18, 2013, 10:16:46 PM
Locust - you have to fight it.  I deal with horrible panic attacks and know how it is to want to just stay home and give in.  It's not a good place to be and I refuse to become homebound.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: GOBUCKS on December 18, 2013, 10:27:55 PM
Locust - you have to fight it.  I deal with horrible panic attacks and know how it is to want to just stay home and give in.  It's not a good place to be and I refuse to become homebound.
And you're a decent, civilized person. Half of you is worth more than a hundred of LocoNuts.

Another reason he's a laugh riot.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: chitownchica on December 18, 2013, 10:29:00 PM
And you're a decent, civilized person. Half of you is worth more than a hundred of LocoNuts.

Another reason he's a laugh riot.

Thanks. I have a great job I plan to keep so I don't have the learned helplessness or whatever he called it.

Loco needs to fight it and get out. He'll feel much better.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Chris_ on December 18, 2013, 10:39:57 PM
Locust - you have to fight it.  I deal with horrible panic attacks and know how it is to want to just stay home and give in.  It's not a good place to be and I refuse to become homebound.
His parents need to do what mine did.  Divorce, sell the house, and tell him he's on his own.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: chitownchica on December 18, 2013, 10:57:09 PM
His parents need to do what mine did.  Divorce, sell the house, and tell him he's on his own.

Agree.  It's amazing what happens when a person is forced to do something. 
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Chris_ on December 18, 2013, 10:59:36 PM
Agree.  It's amazing what happens when a person is forced to do something. 
Yep.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Chris_ on December 18, 2013, 11:14:53 PM
440 lb virgin sends lover to ER during his first time (http://nypost.com/2013/12/18/virgin-ends-up-in-er-during-his-first-time/)


Nah.  Too much work for LocoNuts.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: Tucker on December 19, 2013, 06:08:20 AM
440 lb virgin sends lover to ER during his first time (http://nypost.com/2013/12/18/virgin-ends-up-in-er-during-his-first-time/)


Nah.  Too much work for LocoNuts.

Funny link.

Thing is, for most DUmmies, they won't need an ER Dr., they'll need a bicycle inner tube repair kit and an air pump.
Title: Re: locust primitive lives as a shut-in
Post by: SSG Snuggle Bunny on December 19, 2013, 09:10:57 AM
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My parents have long been huge enablers. We are by no means wealthy but we have always been financially stable enough to allow for such a situation to develop. When I would have my periodic mental breakdowns, 4 or 5 or more of them now, they would always allow me to live at home no questions asked like a parasite. I would do nothing but eat and sleep, and browse the web for months on end. I was lucky if I were to get out for long enough to even walk around the block. They never forced me to get a job, or socialize, or asked me to pay rent or even carry my own weight around the house.

IOW: if your parents had been conservatives instead of liberals you wouldn't be the pseudo-masculine gelatinous freak show you are today.