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Star Member Locut0s (4,228 posts) Sat Nov 16, 2013, 07:56 PM
I'm a 31 year old manchild who has refused to grow up...
I've come to this conclusion before and from an outside observer perhaps it's the obvious one but I've never felt as strongly or as badly about it as presently. I'm not childish in my day to day behaviour and in fact if you were yo meet me it's likely you would come away with the impression that I'm wiser than my age. But when it comes to life choices I've made I'm a huge cluster ****.
I do have other issues such as bad social anxiety, depression and perfectionism, but when it comes down to it the real problem is I'm terrified of life and would rather hide away here at home and just sleep all the time. Sadly my parents have enabled me to do so for a long time. When it comes time to face life and make hard choices I run away, drink alcohol, and or burn my bridges and let someone else deal with it. I've rarely managed to accomplish anything as a result.
It's time this changed but I don't really know how. It's a painful and embarrassing realization that you are a 12 year old 30 year old who just wants to run and hide all the time but it's largely the truth. The current psychiatrist I'm seeing seems to be more on the tough love side of things which is probably what I need right now to some extent. I'm not sure what my next step should be though. I've burned so many bridges and quit school so many times that it's difficult to know where to begin or get motivated enough to even want to try. It will take a year or two no mater what I do before I break new ground, I've been back to square one too many times. Anyone have any suggestions?
Sorry for the rant.
Sorry LocoNuts, but you've already trod this ground before. You're going to have to come up with something more creative if you want to be more in the running for a DOTY.
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nomorenomore08 (6,201 posts) Sat Nov 16, 2013, 08:55 PM
1. Up until age 22/23 I was pretty much on the right track. Earned my degree and everything.
Since then, other than my writing - now working on my third novel - I haven't done a whole lot, mostly living off my family even when I didn't live with them. Then again, this whole time I've seen most of my friends work menial jobs, feel frustrated and stuck, and other than my (not quite complete) lack of relationships with the opposite sex, they haven't done a whole lot better in life than I have.
So here I am, a (just turned) 29-year-old man - somewhat stunted perhaps but not exactly a manchild - pissed off and scared, trying not to let my misanthropic tendencies overwhelm me. Hoping that the things I have done, and will do, will someday be worth something.
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I can't believe these losers are in my generation.
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Star Member Locut0s (4,228 posts) Sat Nov 16, 2013, 07:56 PM
I'm a 31 year old manchild who has refused to grow up... Identifying the problem is the first step to overcoming it.
I've come to this conclusion before and still you can't figure out the problem?and from an outside observer perhaps it's the obvious one but I've never felt as strongly or as badly about it as presently. I'm not childish in my day to day behaviour and in fact if you were yo meet me it's likely you would come away with the impression that I'm wiser than my age. horse shit But when it comes to life choices I've made I'm a huge cluster ****. No argument here, loser!!
I do have other issues such as bad social anxiety, depression and perfectionism, What are you trying to perfect? Being a loser? I think you succeeded beyond your wildest dreams, loser!!! but when it comes down to it the real problem is I'm terrified of life and would rather hide away here at home and just sleep all the time. Get off yer ass and get a job!!!! Sadly my parents have enabled me to do so for a long time. They will die one day loser, then what? When it comes time to face life and make hard choices I run away, drink alcohol, and or burn my bridges and let someone else deal with it. No shit. I've rarely managed to accomplish anything as a result. I would say you have never accomplished anything but being a worthless loser.
It's time this changed but I don't really know how. Get off yer ass and get a job, loser!!!It's a painful and embarrassing realization that you are a 12 year old 30 year old who just wants to run and hide all the time but it's largely the truth. The current psychiatrist I'm seeing seems to be more on the tough love side of things which is probably what I need right now to some extent. I'm not sure what my next step should be though. I've burned so many bridges and quit school so many times that it's difficult to know where to begin or get motivated enough to even want to try. It will take a year or two no mater what I do before I break new ground, I've been back to square one too many times. Anyone have any suggestions? Get off yer ass and get a job, loser!!!
Sorry for the rant.
He must have been reading us here. He has identified the problem... he just does not want to solve it. He will when his parents die and he is sleeping on a park bench. Personally, I think he is just lazy.
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if you were (to) meet me it's likely you would come away with the impression that I'm wiser than my age.
Wrong.
I'm a huge cluster ****.
Right.
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nomorenomore08 (6,201 posts) Sat Nov 16, 2013, 08:55 PM
1. Up until age 22/23 I was pretty much on the right track. Earned my degree and everything.
Since then, other than my writing - now working on my third novel - I haven't done a whole lot, mostly living off my family even when I didn't live with them. Then again, this whole time I've seen most of my friends work menial jobs, feel frustrated and stuck, and other than my (not quite complete) lack of relationships with the opposite sex, they haven't done a whole lot better in life than I have.
So here I am, a (just turned) 29-year-old man - somewhat stunted perhaps but not exactly a manchild - pissed off and scared, trying not to let my misanthropic tendencies overwhelm me. Hoping that the things I have done, and will do, will someday be worth something.
Mythsaje?
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I've made a shit ton of mistakes in my life and I could of made much better choices, but unlike the DUmmies I don't blame everyone else for my bad choices. Instead I do what I have to do to survive and am grateful for all that I do have. Then again I'm an adult.
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These two really need to take the bull by the horns and get it over with. When their host organisms die or cut them off it will be a slow miserable death.
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Mythsaje?
At first impression, it sort of sounds like the long-gone maudlin waif, but he was a very long time ago, and is surely close to 40 years old by now. One wishes he'd come back to Skins's island. He was a victim of Pamela's plagiarism and the wrath of Ms. Ed (the "Horse With no Name" primitive), who was pissed at him for getting the then-"greenbriar" primitive banned for a few days.
As far as Ms. Ed was concerned, it doesn't matter what one does; all that matters is who one is.
For those who don't know, Mythsaje, from somewhere around Oregon, was born and raised in a hippie commune, and had aspirations of becoming a writer.
He had talent in that direction, but he misused it. The maudlin waif was good at describing his working life and the people around him, a milder style of Jimmy Breslin or Studs Terkel, but he did that so rarely, instead concentrating upon silly science fiction-fantasy stories, in which he sucked.
Unlike most of the other primitives, the maudlin waif worked for a living--he had an ex-wife and child support for two boys to pay--in the back room of Target, as a stock-boy or something. He had a motor vehicle that made the mole bobbolink's 1980s Buick seem up-to-date and in good working order.
His most touching, his most human, campfire on Skins's island involved a description of his ex-wife and him mutually buying Christmas presents for their two boys. He and his ex-wife didn't get along, loathed and detested each other, but for the sake of the two kids, bought their Christmas and birthday presents together.
If the maudlin waif would've taken franksolich's long-ago advice and counsel, he'd probably be a six-figure-a-year syndicated newspaper columnist by now.
It's very odd, how primitives who don't take franksolich's advice and counsel end up.
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On the plus side, if LocoNuts were to win a DOTY, it would be the first success in his pitiful life, and could well be the last.
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On the plus side, if LocoNuts were to win a DOTY, it would be the first success in his pitiful life, and could well be the last.
Just a reminder, folks; one week from today, the rules for nominations for the Top DUmmies of 2013 will be posted, and then three days later, on Thanksgiving Eve about supper-time, nominations will be accepted for the next ten days following.
And then voting's from Sunday evening December 8 about supper-time, until Wednesday December 18 about 10 p.m. central time. (Also, remember this year voting's by private ballot only--although during the balloting, there's no rule against any of us yakking about the primitives for whom we voted.)
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nomorenomore08 (6,201 posts) Sat Nov 16, 2013, 08:55 PM
1. Up until age 22/23 I was pretty much on the right track. Earned my degree and everything.
Since then, other than my writing - now working on my third novel - I haven't done a whole lot, mostly living off my family even when I didn't live with them.
Oh fer Pete's sake. :banghead:
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Oh Boy, Ida is going to get reemed for this. I'll lay money some of the DUmmies are going to go all "Troll, Troll" on her. Loco Nuts, listen to Ida and your therapist, do something, anything, put on your Big Boy pants. I especially like the volunteer work, go work at a homeless shelter or an old folks home. Anything to get out of the house.
Star Member IdaBriggs (7,237 posts)
15. You can't be proud of your accomplishments if you don't have any.
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Harsh Truth:
SUCK IT UP.
I was a young high school graduate (age 17) and ended up supporting myself while working for less than minimum wage at a local fast food restaurant during my self funded first year of college. I ended up getting better mediocre jobs because I learned that the electric company shuts off your electricity if you don't pay them, and gas money is a necessity if you want your car to move.
That was thirty years ago, but fortunately I was raised with a work ethic, so I was able to make it, and things have been generally good in my life.
Personally, I think your social anxiety is a learned behavior at this point, which means you need to UNLEARN it. A terrible job is a great motivation to get a better one - GO GET A JOB.
Then get all crazy, Do The Job Well.
Are people mean to you? Who cares? You can whine about it here, but you STILL DO THE JOB.
Want to quit? Find a better job first.
Personally, if I were your parents, (and you can share this with them) your room would be empty of every comfort including your bed and the weed stash that helps you "relax" so you don't feel the shame and stress of being a completely useless parasite instead of a hard working contributor to society until you started earning the privilege of having those things back via demonstrating your commitment to getting off your butt and WORKING.
I've seen your posts before - you could have been doing volunteer work for free at the local shelters (human or animal), or become a Red Cross disaster relief aid worker in a few easy classes, or been helping out elderly neighbors with yard maintenance, or learned how to do website development if you don't like being around people/want to be an online only worker.
Seriously, just DO IT.
I have, you can, and after eighteen, your problems belong to you, not your parents, so GET MOVING ALREADY.
If you want to sit around doing nothing, bored out of your mind, go commit a low level crime and go to prison so the taxpayer can foot the bill and you can quit eating into your poor parents retirement money. (Frankly, they need to boot you out.)
ON EDIT: You and I have also talked about the importance of getting your depression treated, and I still stand by this post. You *need* to get our of the basement!
Brought to you by the Tough Love Committee.
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Oh Boy, Ida is going to get reemed for this. I'll lay money some of the DUmmies are going to go all "Troll, Troll" on her. Loco Nuts, listen to Ida and your therapist, do something, anything, put on your Big Boy pants. I especially like the volunteer work, go work at a homeless shelter or an old folks home. Anything to get out of the house.
Oh geezuz.
Hell just froze over, and some pigs soared by the window.
<<<agrees with the Idiot Briggs primitive.
Damn.
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Oh geezuz.
Hell just froze over, and some pigs soared by the window.
<<<agrees with the Idiot Briggs primitive.
Damn.
That was possibly the best post I've read on DU.
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Response to Locut0s (Original post)
Sun Nov 17, 2013, 07:25 AM
Star Member B Calm (19,659 posts)
13. Never grow up is the secret to being happy!
If that were the case, why are you idiots the biggest pack of whiney beeyotches on the planet? :banghead:
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If that were the case, why are you idiots the biggest pack of whiney beeyotches on the planet? :banghead:
Whiney beeyotchiness is their form of happy. You must remember that they're backwards from everyone else.
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Holy shit! What is going on at DUmplandia?
Tobin S. (6,063 posts)
3. Start working, hoss
Just get a job. Doesn't really matter if it pays a whole lot. You're living at home after all. Get a full time job. It doesn't matter if it's your ideal gig or not. It would probably be better if it isn't.
Just get in there and get dirty and tired. Work overtime. When you get done at your job, buy a 40 of beer on the way home and drink it while you sit in your chair and feel your bones ache.
Don't even think about doing anything else or what your future plans might be. Pretend that this is all there is. Hard dirty work for 50 or 60 hours a week, and a big beer afterward while you sit in your chair and watch mindless sitcoms until you doze off.
After you have done that for a while...say a year...reflect. You'll see that your life is monotonous and tiresome. Now imagine that is all you have to look forward to until you are able to retire.
That is what life is like for a lot of people in America and I would imagine Canada, too. And we have it good by world standards.
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Sorry LocoNuts, but you've already trod this ground before. You're going to have to come up with something more creative if you want to be more in the running for a DOTY.
The Locust's quality has been declining for a while. I thought there was a chance that we'd get some splendid exploits during his time in a dorm...but he went crawling home after five minutes without mummy being their to pat him on the head.
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Holy shit! What is going on at DUmplandia?
Holy God I am pretty sure we are witnessing the third seal being opened. Next up famine, disease, and food shortages.
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Here's some great advice for the little slug:
Response to Locut0s (Original post)
Generic Brad (7,567 posts) Sun Nov 17, 2013, 07:48 AM
20. Watch the "Magnum, P.I." series
If Magnum can do it, so can you. By the end of the series he had completely changed his ways. Hopefully you will not have to endure four or five near death experiences for it to take root like it did with him.
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Good Grief! 31, lives at home, doesn't have a full driver license, doesn't work, has failed multiple times at the 'school' effort, and is now considering yet another 4 year training course.
Failure, thy name is LocoNuts.
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I've made a shit ton of mistakes in my life and I could of made much better choices, but unlike the DUmmies I don't blame everyone else for my bad choices. Instead I do what I have to do to survive and am grateful for all that I do have. Then again I'm an adult.
Exactfriggintactly. I made huge bad decisions in my life. Until I had my first kid and then I knew I was responsible for a life for life. I grew up that day. I look on people that actually boast about this attitude of theirs like Obama looks on poor people.
(http://benswann.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Obama2-300x200.jpg)
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Good Grief! 31, lives at home, doesn't have a full driver license, doesn't work, has failed multiple times at the 'school' effort, and is now considering yet another 4 year training course.
Failure, thy name is LocoNuts.
No kidding. When ever I start feeling down about where my life is compared to where I would like it to be, I look at Loconuts and remind myself that it could be worse.
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No kidding. When ever I start feeling down about where my life is compared to where I would like it to be, I look at Loconuts and remind myself that it could be worse.
So, then--he does serve a useful purpose. He's a bad example.
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Because it's the holidays:
[youtube=425,350]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9fnDwemKcc[/youtube]
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I've made a shit ton of mistakes in my life and I could of made much better choices, but unlike the DUmmies I don't blame everyone else for my bad choices. Instead I do what I have to do to survive and am grateful for all that I do have. Then again I'm an adult.
When we make a mistake, we learn from it and move on. It's called maturing. When they make a mistake, they bitch about it on DU to tens of enablers and blame some right-wing conspiracy to hold them down. It's called mental illness.
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When we make a mistake, we learn from it and move on. It's called maturing. When they make a mistake, they bitch about it on DU to tens of enablers and blame some right-wing conspiracy to hold them down. It's called mental illness.
Then, they repeat the same mistake . . . :stoner:
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When we make a mistake, we learn from it and move on. It's called maturing. When they make a mistake, they bitch about it on DU to tens of enablers and blame some right-wing conspiracy to hold them down. It's called mental illness.
They demand we subsidize their bad choices.
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I can't believe these losers are in my generation.
I can't believe we let them live!
When we make a mistake, we learn from it and move on. It's called maturing. When they make a mistake, they bitch about it on DU to tens of enablers and blame some right-wing conspiracy to hold them down. It's called mental illness.
No, it's called bein' to lazy to breath without help from mummy and daddy! How in the world do these people readily admit they're worthless piles of human excrement without feeling embarrassed or guilty?
unbelievable!!!!
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No accountability !
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Star Member IdaBriggs (7,237 posts)
15. You can't be proud of your accomplishments if you don't have any.
Last edited Sun Nov 17, 2013, 08:32 AM - Edit history (1)
Harsh Truth:
SUCK IT UP.
I was a young high school graduate (age 17) and ended up supporting myself while working for less than minimum wage at a local fast food restaurant during my self funded first year of college. I ended up getting better mediocre jobs because I learned that the electric company shuts off your electricity if you don't pay them, and gas money is a necessity if you want your car to move.
That was thirty years ago, but fortunately I was raised with a work ethic, so I was able to make it, and things have been generally good in my life.
Personally, I think your social anxiety is a learned behavior at this point, which means you need to UNLEARN it. A terrible job is a great motivation to get a better one - GO GET A JOB.
Then get all crazy, Do The Job Well.
Are people mean to you? Who cares? You can whine about it here, but you STILL DO THE JOB.
Want to quit? Find a better job first.
Personally, if I were your parents, (and you can share this with them) your room would be empty of every comfort including your bed and the weed stash that helps you "relax" so you don't feel the shame and stress of being a completely useless parasite instead of a hard working contributor to society until you started earning the privilege of having those things back via demonstrating your commitment to getting off your butt and WORKING.
I've seen your posts before - you could have been doing volunteer work for free at the local shelters (human or animal), or become a Red Cross disaster relief aid worker in a few easy classes, or been helping out elderly neighbors with yard maintenance, or learned how to do website development if you don't like being around people/want to be an online only worker.
Seriously, just DO IT.
I have, you can, and after eighteen, your problems belong to you, not your parents, so GET MOVING ALREADY.
If you want to sit around doing nothing, bored out of your mind, go commit a low level crime and go to prison so the taxpayer can foot the bill and you can quit eating into your poor parents retirement money. (Frankly, they need to boot you out.)
ON EDIT: You and I have also talked about the importance of getting your depression treated, and I still stand by this post. You *need* to get our of the basement!
Brought to you by the Tough Love Committee.
Am I reading this right? I be damned this is coming from DU.
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Am I reading this right? I be damned this is coming from DU.
She's still a DUmpmonkey.
She didn't encourage suicide.
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Ida B. Drunk is only 47?
It's amazing what drugs will do to a person.
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The Locust's quality has been declining for a while. I thought there was a chance that we'd get some splendid exploits during his time in a dorm...but he went crawling home after five minutes without mummy being their to pat him on the head nurse him to sleep.
On the bright side, he's Canada's problem, not ours.
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This thread finally got me to go over and peruse the mental health forum. What a bunch mewling, puking, helpless subhumans.
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This thread finally got me to go over and peruse the mental health forum. What a bunch mewling, puking, helpless subhumans.
Yet they are smarter than us, just ask them.
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He really is giving it a go! Here's the most recent effort (hard to imagine 'effort' and LocoNuts in the same conversation.) http://www.democraticunderground.com/11514695
Locut0s (4,267 posts)
Alcohol is becoming a problem for me...
On top of everything else
This is his new topic. I cannot imagine why his enabling parents are continuing to purchase/provide his various mind-altering substances, his food, and his shelter.
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This is his new topic. I cannot imagine why his enabling parents are continuing to purchase/provide his various mind-altering substances, his food, and his shelter.
Maybe they're hoping worthless son will overdose and they will be rid of his whiny ass.