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Major crush on someone 12 years younger than me-Is it wrong?
So I met someone special at the gym back a week ago. We've really hit it off and connect like basically on every level. I'm 30 and it just seems like dating a 18-year-old (Mar. 20, 1995) would be weird? Both my dad and I have this thing where we look like 15 years younger than our age. So, I don't even really look 18 let alone 30! We're also at pretty similar stages in life. I haven't moved out yet since my Mom advised me not to move out until you find someone special and have something better to go to so we both live at home. We both go to the gym each day. We're both in super good shape and dare I say gorgeous. We're both fanatical about our NHL Canucks and President Obama... Oh yeah, we always have to be the last one to message each other on FB and get into silly games to see who says the last word(http://www.conservativecave.com/emoticons/happy.gif) We are already super good friends after just a week.
Is it wrong anyway to consider dating??!! Should I drop this? Also, there is a double-header NHL game on Saturday night. Would it be cool to ask to hang out? We can have pizza and then watch the double header in which our Canucks are participating!
I will say that I'm so happy this came along to deflect me off that jerk who didn't invite me to his wedding and didn't make an effort to be friends with me whatsoever! I was devastated. Also, he never texted back. It was 1 text and done! Oh yeah and in 2012, I had another person who I thought was a friend who was always dismissive of me. I guess its like they say - its always darkest before the dawn. So nice to finally meet someone who doesn't dismiss me!
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You have to be careful. 18 might really be 17.
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If you were 20 and she was 8 it would be a problem.
Fall in love and have some fun.
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Go for it matey!
This post is 5x more trustworthy because the title ends with "matey."
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No.
Before I married my husband...
I dated a guy that was 14 years younger.
After him, I dated a guy that was 23 years younger (4 years younger than my son).
My husband is 7 years older.
Like you, I look a lot younger than my age. The two guys I dated looked older. The (at the time) 21 year old looked to be in his 30s. On two occasions I was asked for ID at a bar and he wasn't. Pissed him off.
Both were mature for their ages. The 21 year old more than the 31 year old. I'm still friends with the younger one. The other died of a drug overdose 2 years ago. We had kept in contact, for the most part. But, it was getting harder to do so because of his addiction. I just couldn't save him.
I know plenty of people older than myself that don't have the maturity of a 16 year old. As long as you go into the relationship with knowledge of the reality of the situation, there's nothing wrong with it. You're only 30 years old. The most difficult part of a relationship with someone younger is their friends. Your 'interest' may be more mature, but that doesn't mean his friends are.
Take it slow and try the relationship out as friends, first.
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No
Sometimes we can't control who we have a crush on.
This person is legal, so I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Society has drawn the line at 18, and you're on the legal side of that line.
If it feels right, do it.
If it feels wrong, don't.
And that's about as much advice as you should take from an anonymous message board on the internet.
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How do you feel about it and how does she feel about it
I won't lie, 18 is young. But then again, so is 30 (so get off my lawn, you young whippersnapper!!)
I know for myself, I could never date someone who was not from around the same generational culture as I. My wife is my age, and women I've been attracted to have always been within 5 years of my age.
BUT if it works, it works. If you both feel that way then go for it.
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Nothing wrong with it.
I dated an 18-year-old guy when I was 30. I always looked a lot younger. But it was pretty much platonic. I couldn't really connect with his young friends.
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Dooood, taking dating advise from ppl on an anonymous thread...
...is like taking relationship advise from a guy that hangs out at a bar. Good luck with that. (http://www.conservativecave.com/emoticons/beer.gif)
Guys, the dude is gay. I did not see a reference to the 18 yr olds sex and the post just screams :gay2:Catcher might get a surprise when the intended "pitcher", beans him. :whatever:
Guys, the dude is gay. I did not see a reference to the 18 yr olds sex and the post just screams :gay2:
In that case, the 18-year-old is probably a serial killer preying on near-middle-aged gays, so I say GO FOR IT!!!:-) :-)
:-)
Guys, the dude is gay. I did not see a reference to the 18 yr olds sex and the post just screams :gay2:
Yep. The guy is a pedo. Its just screaming all over the OP.
Response to NewsCenter28 (Original post)Fri Sep 20, 2013, 11:55 AM
Wait Wut (7,082 posts)
7. No.
Before I married my husband...
I dated a guy that was 14 years younger.
After him, I dated a guy that was 23 years younger (4 years younger than my son).
My husband is 7 years older.
Like you, I look a lot younger than my age. The two guys I dated looked older. The (at the time) 21 year old looked to be in his 30s. On two occasions I was asked for ID at a bar and he wasn't. Pissed him off.
Both were mature for their ages. The 21 year old more than the 31 year old. I'm still friends with the younger one. The other died of a drug overdose 2 years ago. We had kept in contact, for the most part. But, it was getting harder to do so because of his addiction. I just couldn't save him.
I know plenty of people older than myself that don't have the maturity of a 16 year old. As long as you go into the relationship with knowledge of the reality of the situation, there's nothing wrong with it. You're only 30 years old. The most difficult part of a relationship with someone younger is their friends. Your 'interest' may be more mature, but that doesn't mean his friends are.
Take it slow and try the relationship out as friends, first.
I dated a divorced woman 13 years older than me for 4 years. It started when I was 29.
She was a barmaid. I got all of my scotch and beers for nothing. :cheersmate:
(Original post)Fri Sep 20, 2013, 11:55 AM
Wait Wut (7,082 posts)
7. No.
Before I married my husband...
I dated a guy that was 14 years younger.
After him, I dated a guy that was 23 years younger (4 years younger than my son).
...
And I guess I AM a bit fuddy duddy; I didn't even think that the 18 year old would be a guy. To be blunt, the last text competition part didn't jive with that of a gay 18 year old male as it would with an 18 year old girl, and that part solidified the girl part. Nonetheless, without regard to sex, the age dynamic still holds.
What I find particularly funny is the primitives in that thread gushing about how they look "young for their age".
Is that why in the picture threads they post photos taken twenty or thirty years ago, before the ravages of their lifestyle choices destroyed what God gave them?
Indeed - most of the pictures they post come from their younger days - other than CalPeg, who I suppose is the exception that proves the rule.
Supposedly when you overuse any and all substances, you stop growing mentally. You would age chronologically however. After 30 years of heavy substance abuse, as DUmmies are want to do, they would still be a middle teenager emotionally and mentally.So the 18 year old would be the mature one in the relationship.
It's who they are.
So the 18 year old would be the mature one in the relationship.
Yeah.
Look at Doug Bulna. He still insults posters that disagree with him the same way a 12 year old would. The DUmp is full of over aged posters who lack the maturity of a emotionally healthy adult. Many times, I'm shocked to learn that a DUmbass reveals their age to be 60+ when I have em pegged as a teenager. It's the same with comment sections on columns in newspapers. Liberals offer nothing but personal attacks and insults. Sometimes it's like arguing with a 2 YO.
Strange situation, so many red flags are a flying, if this grown man is heterosexual, I do not think his Mother would allow her son to ever find a female that could compete with her. If he is Gay, much of the same-----Poor guy-----
That's exactly what I was thinking, vesta. I know a guy who is in this exact situation- he's in his mid-thirties, weighs about 500 pounds (I wish I were joking), and yet no woman out there is good enough for him. When he's probed further, momma is definitely pulling the strings. It's sad.