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Title: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: ConservativeMobster on July 20, 2011, 01:38:42 PM
I posted this elsewhere and would appreciate your help.

"ok group. I have a young friend that is dealing with some issues and I need some advice. he's a sweet kid, or was until he did his tour in the ME and brought home wounds, inside and out. he's out of control, depressed and angry. claims the VA just pushes drugs and he's done with it all....what to do for him?"

This young man is 30 years old and has been discharged for a few years.  I don't know all of his details except that he's a friend of my daughter, he lives in TN and just friended me on Facebook.


Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: IassaFTots on July 20, 2011, 01:46:34 PM
Sounds just like Nathan, boo.    :bawl:  Whatever you can do, encourage him to take his meds as prescribed, and not try to just quit them without medical management.     
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: FreeBorn on July 20, 2011, 01:52:54 PM
Quickest and easiest way to piss him right off is to bring about anything he would see as an "intervention".

He will only relate to his peers. That can't be overstated or underestimated. Know any combat vets from previous conflicts, Viet Nam, Korea, WWII? Talk to those guys. Let them talk to him. They will take it from there.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: ConservativeMobster on July 20, 2011, 02:01:05 PM
Iassa, Nathan is exactly the one I'm thinking of  :bawl:

Freeborn, I don't know any vets personally and I'm not sure how to find anyone that he can talk to.  Is it possible to contact some agency in his locale?  How can I find a "peer"?
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: Karin on July 20, 2011, 02:30:52 PM
How about the local American Legion?  Each one has a chaplain I think, maybe they could help. 
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: FreeBorn on July 20, 2011, 02:42:45 PM
Iassa, Nathan is exactly the one I'm thinking of  :bawl:

Freeborn, I don't know any vets personally and I'm not sure how to find anyone that he can talk to.  Is it possible to contact some agency in his locale?  How can I find a "peer"?
What Karin said. Check out your local V.F.W., American Legion or contact the Marine Corps League if he is USMC. Everyone is different but it has been my experience that lots of vets prefer to avoid the V.A.
One of my cousins is the Commander of a Legion Post in my area. He is a Gulf War vet and is constantly working with veterans in innumerable capacities. If you would like you may P.M. me an email addy that I can forward to him. He has a lot of experience, knows an awful lot of people in veterans circles and most definitely could answer a lot of your questions personally, so if you think you may like to exchange emails with him I can arrange that for you.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: Tucker on July 20, 2011, 03:08:37 PM
Quickest and easiest way to piss him right off is to bring about anything he would see as an "intervention".

He will only relate to his peers. That can't be overstated or underestimated. Know any combat vets from previous conflicts, Viet Nam, Korea, WWII? Talk to those guys. Let them talk to him. They will take it from there.

This and only this. Preferably someone from the same conflict.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: IassaFTots on July 20, 2011, 03:09:19 PM
That is a fantastic idea Karin.  Absolutely! 
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: CG6468 on July 20, 2011, 03:53:33 PM
The local VFW may be able to help, also.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: namvet on July 20, 2011, 04:17:09 PM
its the one's that don't talk at all to worry about
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: IassaFTots on July 20, 2011, 07:11:51 PM
its the one's that don't talk at all to worry about

Yes it is NV, yes it is. 
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: RightCoast on July 20, 2011, 08:20:44 PM
You can check with the local VA for the contact info of out-patient workers.  These guys will come to the vet and are much easier to deal with then the paper-pushers inside the hospital.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: Delmar on July 20, 2011, 08:30:28 PM
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The Defense Department has established a "one stop" place to go whenever service members or family members need assistance with any kind of problem

militaryonesource.com  1-800-342-9647  Might be of help but I think you have to be a member or immediate family.
Title: Re: Can some of you military veterans help me?
Post by: ConservativeMobster on July 21, 2011, 07:52:41 AM
Thank you all so much.  I'm contacting his local VFW to ask what resources might be available.  He is talking so I think that's a good thing. He's refused any help from his family and they are somewhat shocked by recent events.

Without appearing to be interferring, I hope to makes contacts and let his parents step in on his behalf.

Freeborn, will likely contact you later today after I get more info, and ty.