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The Bar => The Lounge => Topic started by: seahorse513 on July 12, 2011, 01:37:12 PM
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What is your best advice for a shy woman who wants to ask or talk about as a introductory convo. I like this guy. I just want some pointers...suggestions and advice....What topics to avoid.....thanx Tania
ps ladies you are definitely invited to join in the convo...
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I never went wrong talking about beer. :cheersmate:
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I don't beer..
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Well, is this someone you work with? Or live near?
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What is your best advice for a shy woman who wants to ask or talk about as a introductory convo. I like this guy. I just want some pointers...suggestions and advice....What topics to avoid.....thanx Tania
ps ladies you are definitely invited to join in the convo...
What topics to avoid - sex and politics. ya can't go wrong
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Well, is this someone you work with? Or live near?
He lives in the upstairs apartment, he is moving to the next town over ,next month. He is a hottie!!!
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What is your best advice for a shy woman who wants to ask or talk about as a introductory convo. I like this guy. I just want some pointers...suggestions and advice....What topics to avoid.....thanx Tania
ps ladies you are definitely invited to join in the convo...
No expert here but if there is anything you already know he likes start there. Be it sports, food or any shared interest you guys have. (??) Once you un-wallflower I'm sure he will be chasing you in no time.
This is not "PC" but IMHO nature created men to chase women, and made men faster than women to boot. :-) This is as likely a reason as I can figure as to why nature gave us the short end of the stick on brains. :(
However, the above depends on him seeing you (oh shy one) and knowing your available. I can say that in my case (and we are the same age) that I've always liked a woman making the "first move". I've always found it flattering and endearing. My advise, make him chase you until you catch him.
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He lives in the upstairs apartment, he is moving to the next town over ,next month. He is a hottie!!!
Casually meet him somewhere - anywhere - and ask why he's moving.
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Do you perchance have any mutual friends/acquaintances you could go through to set you up?
If not, why not take the plunge and invite him out on a date? Since he's moving, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I haven't EVER been bashful so if you are shy not sure what to advise. Maybe Gina or mamacags could help out cuz I have observed how shy and retiring they both are. :tongue: :-)
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Do you perchance have any mutual friends/acquaintances you could go through to set you up?
If not, why not take the plunge and invite him out on a date? Since he's moving, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I haven't EVER been bashful so if you are shy not sure what to advise. Maybe Gina or mamacags could help out cuz I have observed how shy and retiring they both are. :tongue: :-)
I did that once. wound up with a nympho. that baby could suck a golf ball thru a garden hose !!!!
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I did that once. wound up with a nympho. that baby could suck a golf ball thru a garden hose !!!!
And yet you're still breathing!! :lmao:
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Well my friend and I were making smores out on the barbie, and I made two for him. She went inside while I delivered, anyway we(Jim and i) both ended up outside because his dog needed to go and started talking about the movie Pirahna. About what he was doing tomorrow. Going up to Sunday River to deliver stuff. I think that was a good icebreaker. :yahoo: cross your fingers for me.......
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Once I was at a bar, playing darts with a friend of mine that got real drunk. The guys playing at the board next to us started up a chat. I chatted back, and bet them we could beat them, my buddy couldn't even walk. I won. :-) They couldn't play. One guy gave me his number. I thought he was cute, and I lived close to the bar, I called him as soon as I got home, thinking I would leave a cute message, and he was already home, he lived even closer! I broke all the rules, and we ended up dating for 3 years. This was many years ago, and my current boyfriend, of over 9 years still says he was the coolest guy I ever dated. LOL!
Just follow your guts, show a little moxie. What is there to lose? Absotively nothing. Ask him to dinner before he moves. Why not?
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Go for it.
Time will tell weather it's a romantic comedy sketch, harlequin romance or love love love love crazy love.
And all three are fun. :whistling:
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Well my friend and I were making smores out on the barbie, and I made two for him. She went inside while I delivered, anyway we(Jim and i) both ended up outside because his dog needed to go and started talking about the movie Pirahna. About what he was doing tomorrow. Going up to Sunday River to deliver stuff. I think that was a good icebreaker. :yahoo: cross your fingers for me.......
Oh, wow, crossed fingers, toes and eyes for you, seahorse.
Now, you say he has a dog. Heh, if you don't have a dog, mention you're thinking about adopting a pound puppy and solicit his opinion on what type of mutt he'd recommend.
IF he has a purebred pooch, don't rail about how everyone should adopt from a shelter.
If he's got a mutt ask where the dog was adopted from, etc.
Oh woman, there's a world of convo right there.
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And yet you're still breathing!! :lmao:
man she had me on life support back then
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Once I was at a bar, playing darts with a friend of mine that got real drunk. The guys playing at the board next to us started up a chat. I chatted back, and bet them we could beat them, my buddy couldn't even walk. I won. :-) They couldn't play. One guy gave me his number. I thought he was cute, and I lived close to the bar, I called him as soon as I got home, thinking I would leave a cute message, and he was already home, he lived even closer! I broke all the rules, and we ended up dating for 3 years. This was many years ago, and my current boyfriend, of over 9 years still says he was the coolest guy I ever dated. LOL!
Just follow your guts, show a little moxie. What is there to lose? Absotively nothing. Ask him to dinner before he moves. Why not?
our scam was to buy you gals your booze. then out on the dance floor. hot and sweaty with those uh, you know bouncin' up and down. 3am breakfast then hit the sack
ah so many women so little time
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You know, I have always had my best luck by just going ballsout and asking them what I wanted to ask them. Most men appreciate a woman that is not going to stand by meekly.
I met my hubby in a bar. I asked him to buy me a drink and he said no. No one had ever told me no so he had me :lmao:
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Just ask him to go out for icecream.
Talk about anything you want.
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Show him your goods.
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Show him your goods.
I didn't know she sold stuff! flea markets or what?
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I don't beer..
Help!!!! A Brit by birth that does not lift a pint now and then in a PUB ??????
Blasphemy I say, utter nonsense, Do the Finns drink milk, do the Irish drink[most anything]
Do Yankees drink RUM, never met an Italian that did not do wine.
Shocking I say, close to scandalous.
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Help!!!! A Brit by birth that does not lift a pint now and then in a PUB ??????
Blasphemy I say, utter nonsense, Do the Finns drink milk, do the Irish drink[most anything]
Do Yankees drink RUM, never met an Italian that did not do wine.
Shocking I say, close to scandalous.
I don't drink any alcohol, due to the problems with my ears...i get terrible earaches
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I don't drink any alcohol, due to the problems with my ears...i get terrible earaches
Suggestion - don't talk about any physical woes, no matter how "promising" things look.
I remember a Date from Hell. I met this critter through match.com back in its early days. I had had reservations from the start, but agreed to meet her in a public place because I just didn't trust the situation/her. We met at a Steak 'n Shake for lunch.
That critter ran her mouth from beginning to end about every disease known to man that she had had or continued to have; explained how she was orphaned at the age of 6 and sold into slavery, on and on and on and on.
She actually called me and wondered when we'd connect again. I told her it just wasn't in the cards.
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Oh god I would never do that!!!He has met my mother and she is only 5 ft. He would narrow it down to genetics. Nobody likes woe is me convos, or ex's convos either.
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Suggestion - don't talk about any physical woes, no matter how "promising" things look.
I remember a Date from Hell. I met this critter through match.com back in its early days. I had had reservations from the start, but agreed to meet her in a public place because I just didn't trust the situation/her. We met at a Steak 'n Shake for lunch.
That critter ran her mouth from beginning to end about every disease known to man that she had had or continued to have; explained how she was orphaned at the age of 6 and sold into slavery, on and on and on and on.
She actually called me and wondered when we'd connect again. I told her it just wasn't in the cards.
Indeed. I would add to not speak of any past relationships either. Especially the really bad ones. I had a similar experience, but it was a blind date. This man couldn't shut up about every girl that did him wrong. GEEZ. I ended up telling him this wasn't going to work as a date, and then we shared war stories. He ended up being a pretty good friend. HA!
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Show him your goods.
I've got to say, Jess--I expected that out of Gina, not you. :tongue: :naughty:
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Oh god I would never do that!!!He has met my mother and she is only 5 ft. He would narrow it down to genetics. Nobody likes woe is me convos, or ex's convos either.
I had a couple of semi-blind dates .... all I heard about were the ex wives and all their issues. ::) I was really glad I had driven myself to the dates. Made it so much easier to leave!
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I had a couple of semi-blind dates .... all I heard about were the ex wives and all their issues. ::) I was really glad I had driven myself to the dates. Made it so much easier to leave!
As a general rule, I don't discuss exes until after the first couple dates or so. Once you have become more acquainted with one another, it's fine to bitch & compare notes.
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As a general rule, I don't discuss exes until after the first couple dates or so. Once you have become more acquainted with one another, it's fine to bitch & compare notes.
Exactly...but never on the first meeting.
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What is your best advice for a shy woman who wants to ask or talk about as a introductory convo.
"Is that a pistol in your pocket, or are you glad to see me?"
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Eupher, what you describe sounds like something we'd find at the DUmp.
I had a blind date with a guy long time ago, and he told me, over dinner, a long involved story about how he couldn't find a bathroom once, and he had to take a dump real bad.
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Eupher, what you describe sounds like something we'd find at the DUmp.
I had a blind date with a guy long time ago, and he told me, over dinner, a long involved story about how he couldn't find a bathroom once, and he had to take a dump real bad.
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:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
Someone should start a bad date thread...I could contribute a few.
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I met my wife on a blind date.
That was it. Done dating others for both of us.
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Eupher, what you describe sounds like something we'd find at the DUmp.
I had a blind date with a guy long time ago, and he told me, over dinner, a long involved story about how he couldn't find a bathroom once, and he had to take a dump real bad.
Well, Karin, I guess it's a good thing I don't hang out at the DUmp!
Maybe this gal I've been talking about is really the Subway Cat( :???: - I ain't too sure about names...)
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my future wife back in the late 80's. we married in 92. met her in a bar. been going strong ever since. we talked more about each other than the weather. no dancing on egg shells for us :-)
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Eupher, what you describe sounds like something we'd find at the DUmp.
I had a blind date with a guy long time ago, and he told me, over dinner, a long involved story about how he couldn't find a bathroom once, and he had to take a dump real bad.
Karin, that dude's most likely posting at the DUmp. :lmao: