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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: GOBUCKS on February 13, 2010, 09:05:23 PM
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Until very recently I did not know, and am still sort of surprised, that grownups actually use "Facebook" or "MySpace". I honestly thought they were something that would interest only teenage girls. DUmmy Writer, who is a reliable and consistent lunatic, in a way confirms what I thought:
Writer (1000+ posts) Sat Feb-13-10 08:08 PM
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Wisdom needed.
Hey.
Last fall, my sister got very ugly with me on Facebook (note: She's 46, and I'm 34). She became sarcastic and ridiculing because of something I had posted. Instead of confronting her, I decided simply to delete her postings, which made her even uglier. My husband even posted something in my defense that wasn't very confrontational, but explanatory. It didn't help. I finally told her that her behavior wasn't acceptable, in so many words, and that it was in my right to delete ugly messages to me. She de-friended both my husband and myself. It was extremely petty and rude. And, quite frankly, childish for a 46 year-old woman.
The only real wise head in my family is my dad, so I spoke to him for a while about the situation, and asked him advice on how to handle my sister. He revealed to me some thoughts he had about her temperament, which I shouldn't repeat to other members of my family. In a nutshell, he said that she can be quite mean at times, but suggested that I try to play her off "lightly" by writing her a friendly, sort of jocular note, asking her "Did you really kick your li'l sis off Facebook?" and so forth. I did so, and she responded by literally telling me to "go **** yourself," and to stop emailing her.
So... that was some months ago. Not a word for months... not even an apology or at least an acknowledgment of how terrible the interaction was. I did leave Christmas presents for her at my mom's house when I visited my mom (my sister and her family were out of town), and she had left gifts for me. A few weeks ago, I was sitting in my office at school, and I got a text message from her, thanking me for Christmas gifts - the wrong gifts, I might add - but to be honest, I really didn't know how to talk to her. I never sent her a text message back.
As I always tell folks, I'm busy busy busy during the school year, but I wonder if I should ever confront my sister. Seriously - she was awful to me, but why de-friend my husband? What exactly did HE do wrong? And without any word from her on this situation, it's very difficult for me to consider writing her a note. Yes, there's a lot of history here with her being ugly, but her taking this out on my husband really crossed a line for me.
Honestly, I wonder if this is all up to her. She told me not to email her again after her despicable behavior. She also seems unapologetic. To be honest, I just don't have time in my life for this kind of negativity, and I would never ask my dad to get in between a fight between his daughters. That doesn't seem right to me. However, now and then I do remember what happened, and how she behaved, and realized that another month has gone by without a word of acknowledgment from her. What gives? And should I do anything at all?
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Another tempest in a.....thimble.
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The drama... it sucks.
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The drama... it sucks.
The most pathetic was when the Good Samaritan primitive, the "Mari333" primitive, who's in her early 60s, whined about fighting with her older brother on facebook.....and then went to her ancient mother to whine even more, after which her mother cut her off.
A bunch of old people.
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I like Facebook. I think it serves a good purpose. It is what it is, and the trouble starts when those who think it is more than it is do not get from of the experience what they are expecting.
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This is the most pathetic soap opera ever.
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The only real wise head in my family is my dad, so I spoke to him for a while about the situation, and asked him advice on how to handle my sister. He revealed to me some thoughts he had about her temperament, which I shouldn't repeat to other members of my family. In a nutshell, he said that she can be quite mean at times, but suggested that I try to play her off "lightly" by writing her a friendly, sort of jocular note, asking her "Did you really kick your li'l sis off Facebook?" and so forth. I did so, and she responded by literally telling me to "go **** yourself," and to stop emailing her.
But please, by all means, feel free to post about it on DU. :thatsright:
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Writer
She became sarcastic and ridiculing because of something I had posted.
Easy solution. Quit posting things that are in any way supportive of liberalism in general and/or the Democrat Party. No one wants to listen to the lies anyway, and you should quit believing them for your own sake.
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Defriended on Facebook?? The horror!