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Oh my.
winyanstaz (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 02:07 AM
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I had to watch this health mess we have further destroy my youngest son's life today...
He is a good man. He worked hard but was downsized.
He has sold almost everything he owns to keep up his DOUBLE child support payments..on his child whom he was never told about until after she was almost nine years old..and so he had to make double payments.
He made the payments but the family had to step in to give him a place to live so he could make such big payments (he no longer had that high paying job by then).....and the mom took his daughter so far away to live before he had a chance to stop her that he cannot even see her.
He was happy to have a daughter. He wept with joy when he found out he had a child and he tried hard to be all he could for her.
The state is also now after his driver's license because he can no longer keep up his child support.
He has a chance to get it lowered a little but not for another 6 months.
Who the hell came up with that idea should be beaten twice a day in the town square.
How can parents find jobs or get to work if they take their driver's licenses? Doesn't that make it even harder in an already tough time?
Now today he got a bill from the hospital emergency ward. A week or so ago he was in major pain so I took him to the emergency ward..he was passing out from the shock of the pain when we got there in the nick of time..but todays bill almost made him pass out again.
$4,000.00 for a scan, some glucose and a prescription. The doctor was with him for less than ten minutes.
He had a large kidney stone passing...and two more that could pass at any time..(or not..is a wait and see thing).
He is doing everything he should be doing.
Looking for work every day...there are no jobs here. Still he is pounding the pavement, selling everything he owns.
Decent and law abiding Americans that work hard and try to do the right thing shouldn't be kicked in the teeth over and over again by this system we have.
I had to turn away because I couldn't bear to see the look on his face or feel his pain and despair. I am keeping a close eye on him..I hope he doesnt do anything desperate. He just seemed so broken and I have never seen him like this.
It's just not right for someone as decent as he is and who tries so damned hard to do the right thing to have to go through this.
Where the hell are the jobs?
Where the hell is a decent health care for Americans?
I cannot help him on my widow's pension...this breaks my heart.
Well, those seem like good questions to ask il Duce Bo; where's the jobs?
il Duce Bo's been around for a while, and should've taken care of it by now.
CaliforniaPeggy (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 02:10 AM
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1. I wish I had some good words of comfort, or advice...
How horrifying.
All my best to him, and you, during this time of trial...
How about instead of nice words, opening up the checkbook, C-Peg?
Goldstein1984 (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 02:25 AM
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4. I've watched similar suffering with one of my sons when he was outside of Alaska in Seattle.
Here's the irony. My son is 1/4 Alaska Native (Inupiat/Inuit). In Seattle he is uninsured like everybody else in his financial situation. Inside Alaska, all his medical coverage is free--all of it--from band-aid to heart surgery--free.
We have socialized medicine in this country. It works well. But it only goes to a select few.
My wife, who is 1/2 Inupiat, makes all of her medical decisions based on her health. When I make a medical decision, there is a huge economic component. We both have bronchitis and pneumonia right now--latent effects of bouts with H1N1. She is on antibiotics and an inhaler, because her care is free. My doctor charges $300 for an office visit, so I'm just taking over-the-counter medications.
I hope your son makes it through this mess. I hope the nation makes it through this mess.
We got three more years to go, before making it through this mess.
proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 03:09 AM
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12. Sucks about his kids.
Woman doesn't tell him about the kid until she needs money. I bet it happens all the time.
The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 03:12 AM
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13. You have to understand... he's a man, and therefore already guilty.
The system is calibrated to always treat the woman like his victim. No matter what, no matter who he is, no matter how good a father he is, no matter how hard he tries... he WILL be punished for the crime of having a child by a woman that wants nothing to do with him.
Can you tell I've seen this first-hand?
The injustice that good men suffer at the hands of pernicious females wielding the court system is unbelievable... but it happens every day.
Here's the good news (for your son); Women like that seldom have good relationships with their children. As the children grow up, the inherent selfishness of such women becomes anathema to them. Eventually, they seek out their other parent.
I have been through similar things, and am going through such a hell right now, but I have a great deal of understanding and I know how things will likely turn out if I merely focus on keeping my feet below me. Eventually, the children, as with my older son, will wind up living with me.
The same will happen with your son.
Meanwhile, If she is collecting support, he gets access, and in most states, one parent cannot remove the child from the state without the other parent's or the court's permission.
He should go straight to family court in his county and file a pettition. Consult an attorney as well.
shadowknows69 (1000+ posts) Fri Jan-08-10 09:20 AM
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24. Your story echoes so many these days. Bless you for sharing.
And best of luck to your son. I've been effectively unemployed for five years, and am apparently unemployable in my city at the age of forty. If it is so hard for a young, motivated person I don't hold much hope for myself. This is what is becoming of our disposable people society. Corporate bottom lines have no feelings or scruples and apparently major stock holders don't either.
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