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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: Tucker on December 25, 2009, 03:20:31 PM
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 10:32 AM
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My 15 year old son opened his present. It is a netbook. Unbeknownst to me, I grabbed a pink one.
His face is the picture of ambivalence.
However, I do not think this is the time to discuss gender sterotypes with him.
mnhtnbb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 11:11 AM
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7. At least he opened his present. My 23 year old son walked out on Christmas
last night (we open presents Christmas eve for his convenience since he lives 30 minutes away)
after dinner, claiming he had told us that he didn't want to participate. I had no idea that
meant he wouldn't accept gifts from us. When he sat down, after dinner, notebook on his lap
and we asked him to put it aside, he said "no", he was only here because we had requested his presence
and he had no wish for any gifts.
So, now I'm faced with returning most things, but one very expensive alpaca sweater I bought for him
when we were in Peru in November I obviously can't return.
I am so incredibly sad. Your son will have to wait one more day to play with his new laptop, but
at least he's willing to accept your gift.
What a sad state his family is in.
clear eye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 11:53 AM
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11. That clearly means he feels the gifts come w/ unacceptable strings attached.
Edited on Fri Dec-25-09 11:54 AM by clear eye
I have no desire to get involved in the details. For your sake I hope you are at least trying to think what you could do on your side to make your relationship w/ him less threatening to his autonomy. He is a grown man, not an adolescent, and since you are sad about the estrangement, your happiness is affected by whether or not your actions toward him reflect that. Not incidentally, although he is taking steps to protect his sense of self, your behavior can still hamper his feelings of self-empowerment in the world. In other words, whether or not either you or he likes it, you have the power to make him feel small. No guidance, no matter how righteous, is worth exacting such a price. The most constructive thing you can do is to take a step back and see him anew for the adult he is (even if it means accepting he is not what you hoped he'd become). The flip side of your power is that parental love, when it's unconditional, can be an enormous source of strength for a young adult. He won't trust you at first, but if you sincerely have a different outlook (not just a new set of expectations), he will eventually recognize it.
What a bunch of pycho babble.
clear eye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 12:36 PM
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35. I think it was pretty telling that his mom kept comparing him
to the OPer's 15 yo son. As though a kid that age has the same choices her 23 yo does. If they had a good relationship and he just wanted to work on making it alone, they would have talked about it, and she wouldn't have been taken by surprise.
The only other possibility I can think of is that she might be remarried and he has serious issues w/ his step-dad. But her post makes me pretty sure that she hasn't internalized that he's grown up.
dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 01:08 PM
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41. i'd say that it clearly means that he's an immature little prick.
hopefully, he'll grow up and out of it someday.
:lmao:
Back to the notebook
Call Me Wesley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 11:53 AM
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12. Tell your son, it's a beauty.
Because I said so. I live in a world of pink. Believe me, and Zombies hate pink.
rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 11:55 AM
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14. I think I will. Merry Christmas to you and Heidi.
Trying to make her son a future butt plugger.
david13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 11:59 AM
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17. You are going to give the boy a complex he will carry for the rest
of his life. You must inform him in no uncertain terms that you didn't realize the color, and that it can be exchanged for any color he likes.
He is definitely going to wonder why you would get him pink.
Anyway, it just shows why gifts can be dangerous.
dc
rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 12:02 PM
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19. I think he already has a complex.
His sister flunked her first driving test because she bumped into one of those orange cones while trying to park. We all showed up for her next test wearing little orange cones on our heads and waving.
He has grown up wary
No kidding. With a moonbat for a mother.
Not every kid is a future fairy queen. Exchange it.
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 10:32 AM
Original message
My 15 year old son opened his present. It is a netbook. Unbeknownst to me, I grabbed a pink one.
His face is the picture of ambivalence.
However, I do not think this is the time to discuss gender sterotypes with him.
Jesus. He's 15. He KNOWS what gender he is you asshole. Pink is for girls. God help this poor kid.
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 12:02 PM
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19. His sister flunked her first driving test because she bumped into one of those orange cones while trying to park. We all showed up for her next test wearing little orange cones on our heads and waving.
Good God, they're idiots.
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YCMTSU!
:lmao:
I guess disfunctional liberal families pass from generation to generation. Nobody's family is perfect, but these people are loons. And I feel especially sorry for the kid with a pink laptop. His friends will mock him endlessly.
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list Fri Dec-25-09 10:32 AM
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My 15 year old son opened his present. It is a netbook. Unbeknownst to me, I grabbed a pink one.
I'm surprised DUmmie rug didn't blast the store employee that got it the pink laptop. I don't know about where it shops, but at Walmart, laptops are kept under lock and key, and the color of the machine is written on the same label that has the serial and model barcodes on it.
More than likely, DUmmie rug got son the pink laptop, on purpose.... :loser:
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Good God, they're idiots.
I was speechless until I saw your post and knew that really is the only way to put it.
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I don't know why but those stories are exactly what I expected to hear from DUmmie families.
Morons...
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A 15 year old boy don't want a pink laptop!? Imagine that! :whatever:
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I don't know why but those stories are exactly what I expected to hear from DUmmie families.
Morons...
Look at it this way--they didn't disappoint you. :fuelfire:
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I'm surprised DUmmie rug didn't blast the store employee that got it the pink laptop.
That would not be possible for someone who wants to maintain DUmp cred. Complaining about a pink laptop would be a clear admission of the DUmp sin of "homophobia". DUmpmonkeys are required to embrace and encourage anything that implies the queer lifestyle.
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This is an example of a parent who has no respect for his/her children... at all... Pathetic.
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I'd disassemble the pink lap top sand it down, prime it and repaint it. I'd rather have a crappy paint job on it than it be pink.
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They just want the kid to appreciate broadway musicals, Streisand and Judy Garland.
(http://ihatesnaps.files.wordpress.com/2007/01/ruby_slippers.jpg)
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This is an example of a parent who has no respect for his/her children... at all... Pathetic.
and the kids learned to have no respect for their parents too
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Christmas in DUmmieland,
Alpaca sweaters, rendered ducks and pink laptops for boys.... and meds.
yep
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Good God, they're idiots.
And just when we think they can't demonstrate that any more clearly...
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Jeebus...and people wonder why the day AFTER X-Mas is the second-busiest shopping day of the year.
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Jeebus...and people wonder why the day AFTER X-Mas is the second-busiest shopping day of the year.
Fry's is having a 1-day sale. Netbooks as low ar $250 and notebooks as little as $300. I think I might try to start a tradition of making Chrsitmas about family and doing the gifts on Boxing Day.