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Title: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: bkg on December 20, 2009, 11:17:37 AM
Ex-gf is frustrated with me for not having empathy. She's a therapist and was talking how she scored very high on an exam recently for having empathy and an ability to see uniqueness in each individual.

My comment that not everyone is special or unique didn't go over well. So I asked her what better helped bond a society together - common language, culture and focusing on our similaritiies... or focusing on our differences, which I believe breads self-segregation, anxiety and racial/cultural tensions. She thinks I'm FOS, so I called her a lib.

She flipped me off.  :rotf: :rotf:

I admit, I have little empathy - I think we've twisted the idea of empathy into meaning agreement, endorsement and victimhood. I don't believe everyone is unique or special - I sure as hell am not (just don't tell Hawkgirl), so WTF does everyone think they have to be called out as special?

:shrug:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: SVPete on December 20, 2009, 12:01:23 PM
Well, everyone is a little different, unique, etc., on some level, but geez la-weez, 15 minutes of fame is excessive and too many are demanding it without reason for that fame. I'm content to be "invisible" and try to be a decent human being (an endangered species these days, IMO).
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: SVPete on December 20, 2009, 12:03:19 PM
But I definitely agree that trying to build a cohesive society based on differences is self-defeating from the outset. Cohesion is based on common concerns and ideas, not divergent concerns and ideas.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Hawkgirl on December 20, 2009, 04:17:44 PM
I'd agree with you bkg....I think humans are a lot alike...most actions will yield the same re actions on most people. 

Unless you're a lib...then you have to use reverse psychology... :evillaugh:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Wayne on December 20, 2009, 05:06:12 PM
  Thats why You tube was invented. So people could show off their uniqueness . Or was that pron that does that?
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Aaron Burr on December 20, 2009, 05:28:14 PM
Whoa, whoa, whoa. This is an EX girl friend? A therapist that flips you off if she doesn't like what you say?

Sweet Jesus man, get a dog.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Chris on December 20, 2009, 05:33:55 PM
I get the same load from my aunt and my sister.  Apparently, the men in our family don't "share" enough, or some such bullshit.  Good grief.

Whoa, whoa, whoa. This is an EX girl friend? A therapist that flips you off if she doesn't like what you say?

Sweet Jesus man, get a dog.

:rofl:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: bkg on December 20, 2009, 06:04:34 PM
Whoa, whoa, whoa. This is an EX girl friend? A therapist that flips you off if she doesn't like what you say?

Sweet Jesus man, get a dog.

Don't get riled over it. We're great friends. Her flipping me off was mostly in jest and quite entertaining (hence the  :rotf: :rotf:)
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Airwolf on December 20, 2009, 06:29:11 PM
I didn't know it was National Empathy Day and if it was I still wouldn't give a ****. Your not required to have a certain amount of it so I fail to see why the Ex is being a bitch about it. People are different no matter what DUmmies tell everyone.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: BadCat on December 20, 2009, 07:22:55 PM
Meh.

I have no empathy, I have no sympathy either.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: crockspot on December 20, 2009, 11:20:11 PM
It seems appropriate to break out a quote from Fight Club here:

You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. We are the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.

:cheersmate:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Oceander on December 20, 2009, 11:56:09 PM
Ex-gf is frustrated with me for not having empathy. She's a therapist and was talking how she scored very high on an exam recently for having empathy and an ability to see uniqueness in each individual.

My comment that not everyone is special or unique didn't go over well. So I asked her what better helped bond a society together - common language, culture and focusing on our similaritiies... or focusing on our differences, which I believe breads self-segregation, anxiety and racial/cultural tensions. She thinks I'm FOS, so I called her a lib.

She flipped me off.  :rotf: :rotf:

I admit, I have little empathy - I think we've twisted the idea of empathy into meaning agreement, endorsement and victimhood. I don't believe everyone is unique or special - I sure as hell am not (just don't tell Hawkgirl), so WTF does everyone think they have to be called out as special?

:shrug:

Doesn't sound like the two of you ever really got to the subject of empathy in the first place.  That being said, trying to "talk" with your girlfriend (or, worse yet, your wife) on subjects like that - and particularly anything that is near and dear to her heart - is simply a nonstarter - don't do it; if you want her to stick around, you need to start practicing this "yes, Dear."
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: bkg on December 21, 2009, 08:52:40 AM
You guys are taking this way to friggen seriously. I thought it was funny. It was an entertaining exchange. The last thing I would ever do is walk away any serious discussion with someone I care about, and with whom I have a very strong, honest relationship. - yes Dear? Never gonna happen.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: DefiantSix on December 21, 2009, 09:00:57 AM
If you want to really get her riled BKG, just tell her, "yup, you're unique; just like everybody else". :evillaugh:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: bkg on December 21, 2009, 09:05:12 AM
If you want to really get her riled BKG, just tell her, "yup, you're unique; just like everybody else". :evillaugh:

no desire to get her riled. Why would I?
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: DefiantSix on December 21, 2009, 09:12:07 AM
no desire to get her riled. Why would I?

We're guys; it's what we do.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: IassaFTots on December 21, 2009, 09:52:10 AM
We're guys; it's what we do.


WHY???????????


 :rotf: :rotf:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: DefiantSix on December 21, 2009, 09:54:55 AM

WHY???????????


 :rotf: :rotf:

That's like asking why the sun rises in the East, or why men pee standing up.  It just happens.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: SSG Snuggle Bunny on December 21, 2009, 11:02:00 AM
She should have more appreciation for why you see the world the way you do.

Until then her "empathy" is just so much self-congratulating nonsense.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: NHSparky on December 21, 2009, 11:06:23 AM

WHY???????????


 :rotf: :rotf:

Why does a dog lick its balls?

And yeah, empathy is understanding of one's issues.  But when people revel in our DIFFERENCES, that's when all the bullshit hits the fan.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Ree on December 21, 2009, 11:37:17 AM
Empathy? who needs it? It's just a bunch of made up touchy feely crap...
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Chump on December 21, 2009, 11:52:42 AM
Empathy is fine and dandy.  It's when we start basing political and economic policy on "feeling bad" for people that everything goes all to hell.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Aaron Burr on December 21, 2009, 12:17:17 PM
This is ridiculous. Just roll up a newspaper and swat her on the nose.

It's a respect issue. No way would I take that kind of disrespect from a skirt...or even my dog. Fortunately, the same training methods work for both species.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: DumbAss Tanker on December 21, 2009, 02:01:28 PM
Meh.

I have no empathy, I have no sympathy either.

Werd.  They're lucky I give them 'Forbearance.'
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: rich_t on December 21, 2009, 04:34:00 PM
Empathy is over rate and for pussies.

Screw everyone I say.


 :fuelfire:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Hawkgirl on December 21, 2009, 04:44:51 PM
This is ridiculous. Just roll up a newspaper and swat her on the nose.

It's a respect issue. No way would I take that kind of disrespect from a skirt...or even my dog. Fortunately, the same training methods work for both species.

 :hammer:  With that line of thinking, you must be quite the casanova... :fuelfire:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: rich_t on December 21, 2009, 04:55:02 PM
:hammer:  With that line of thinking, you must be quite the casanova... :fuelfire:

Rumor has it that casanova used a whip and not a rolled up newspaper.

 :fuelfire:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Aaron Burr on December 21, 2009, 08:28:23 PM
I can't be bothered with the irrelevant, raving opinions of yet another emotionally unstable skirt. This is about BurgerKingGuys Ex girlfriend who seems to be failing miserably in making BKG....um...miserable. No word as to whether she's been house broken yet.

But yeah, I'm likely the most repellent, misogynistic, anti-social biker you'll ever come across.... Unless you visit San Quentin.

Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: IassaFTots on December 21, 2009, 09:15:05 PM
I can't be bothered with the irrelevant, raving opinions of yet another emotionally unstable skirt. This is about BurgerKingGuys Ex girlfriend who seems to be failing miserably in making BKG....um...miserable. No word as to whether she's been house broken yet.

But yeah, I'm likely the most repellent, misogynistic, anti-social biker you'll ever come across.... Unless you visit San Quentin.



Well, that may be true, but you also like good food, and wine, and beer and stuff, so you are ok in my book.  Misogyny and all... :-)
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: bkg on December 21, 2009, 09:29:22 PM
I can't be bothered with the irrelevant, raving opinions of yet another emotionally unstable skirt. This is about BurgerKingGuys Ex girlfriend who seems to be failing miserably in making BKG....um...miserable. No word as to whether she's been house broken yet.

But yeah, I'm likely the most repellent, misogynistic, anti-social biker you'll ever come across.... Unless you visit San Quentin.



She's very cool and we are great firends. While our opinions differ, I don't hold any of this against her at all. And I don't take it as seriously as y'all are.  :-)
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Aaron Burr on December 21, 2009, 09:34:15 PM
If anybody takes anything written in this thread seriously, I demand a drinking match. Someone that gullible deserves to be taken advantage of whilst drunk.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Hawkgirl on December 21, 2009, 11:36:53 PM


But yeah, I'm likely the most repellent, misogynistic, anti-social biker you'll ever come across.... Unless you visit San Quentin.



 :bs:

I bet you're a real *****cat.... :-)
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: IassaFTots on December 22, 2009, 07:50:18 AM
:bs:

I bet you're a real *****cat.... :-)


pssssstttt....my thoughts exactly.   :hyper:
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Chump on December 22, 2009, 07:52:55 AM
If anybody takes anything written in this thread seriously, I demand a drinking match. Someone that gullible deserves to be taken advantage of whilst drunk.

Whilst??  Would you like a lime in your Zima?
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: IassaFTots on December 22, 2009, 07:56:55 AM
Whilst??  Would you like a lime in your Zima?

I thought one put that red stuff, grenadine or something like that in Zima?
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Eupher on December 22, 2009, 08:13:17 AM
I thought one put that red stuff, grenadine or something like that in Zima?

Kool-Aid with a twist.
Title: Re: Apparently, I lack empathy.
Post by: Aaron Burr on December 22, 2009, 03:44:47 PM
This is beyond the pale. Here I am humbly offering domestic pet training tips to my friend BKG and instead of gratitude and sexually suggestive responses, I'm being pelted with insults by nickle shavers, frog stompers and/or assorted chicken spankers. It would be enough to drive a lesser man to drink...more.

Fortunately, I'm impervious to the outrageous slings and arrows of insults, jibes, barbs, innuendo, accuspicion and the occasional court summons. A result no doubt, of clean livin' and gettin right with Jesus. Or graft. But for legal purposes I'm goin' with Jesus.

The point is, this is BKG's thread and it's about wimmin, not about the venomous bile that flows through my veins as a result of years of horrific abuse at the hands of the testosterone challenged. So it is possible that my perception of wimmins is slightly askew. It just sounds implausible.

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