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The Bar => The Lounge => Topic started by: Hawkgirl on December 07, 2009, 09:43:30 AM
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....from family to live in a nicer state?
As you all know, I live in South Florida and I pretty much hate it. I actually LOVED it when I first moved here 8 years ago from NY. I was in love with the ocean and lived on the beach, literally.
As time has passed, the novelty of the ocean has somewhat dissipated as I don't have much time to actually go...especially now with a young baby. The summers are horrible with no relief from the heat 24/7. Our "winters" are better, but we still get mid 80's in December and January. :whatever:
My parents and brother and his wife live within 15 minutes from me and my parents are my babysitters. We get together on the weekend often and my baby loves it. I also have a good paying job that allows me to afford nice things.
Here is my dilemma....I have a huge, beautiful house in NE Georgia, close to the mountains in Dawsonville, GA. It's a new home that I purchased 3 years ago and kept it as a second home. I took frequent trips up there and explored the trail of the Appalachian mountains, and wineyards, and waterfalls and all the beauty of nature Georgia has to offer. I LOVED IT. My house is a 4/2 with real hardwood floors everywhere, a huge master bedroom, a beautiful backyard (with room for a pool) and a great brick fireplace, a southern style porch, big beautiful windows ( I will post pics later).
So...I bought the house with the intention of moving there...but with the job situation, and a new daughter...it's not so easy to just pick up and leave...especially since my family is in Florda now. I would like to make a plan to move there 5 years from now..but I would know NO ONE. It's a scary thought...
WWYD??
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Yes. Family can be overrated. :-)
Plus I've done it before.
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I would do what is best for MY family. I would go for moving to Georgia but check out the employment in that area first. It is only a state away, not that far away. My family lives in VA and I am in CA so that is hard, especially at this time of the year. :( Pray about it and let God lead you where you are supposed to do. Good luck!
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Yes. Family can be overrated. :-)
Plus I've done it before.
+1.
The reason I have such a good relationship with my family is that I moved bet. 1,200 and 1,600 miles away from them. If they want to annoy me - or vice versa - they really have to mean it now.
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Yes. Especially since I spent a few years in South Florida, as a child, and my parents as well as my cousin's parents moved away due to a lack luster school system. Not to mention, Hurricanes, crappy weather, etc.
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In a heartbeat. I would love nothing more than to move back to Washington. Hopefully 2011...
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Hawkgirl - Boy does your story sound like mine. I moved from Michigan to the West Palm area in 1985 and thought 'I'd died and gone to heaven', golf, fishing year round, life doesn't get any better. By about 1995, reality set in, and each passing year I liked it less and less there. Yep, I had my own business, making good money, and at age 55 was 'semi-retired' [only worked 3 half days a week], put still was tired of traffic, increasing taxes and insurance, the influx of people from the islands etc.. Anyway I knew it was time to leave, I didn't have much family there any longer plus alot of close friends had moved. Daughter was here in Alabama, so we started looking, but nothing happened to speed a move until 2002 when I had a serious operation. Figured if anything happened to me, at least wife would be near our daughter, so in 2003 we moved.
Best thing that could happen.
Bottom line - NE Georgia is close, probably only 1 day drive and even though your family is there, if you aren't happy -- move. Life is to short to be miserable. [Wouldn't surprise me if some in your family would like to leave also].
My 2 cents
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I moved to Texas with my 2 youngest kids, left the 2 older ones behind. Now they're all here, and they brought 8 more with 'em! I keep threatening to buy an RV so they can't find me; they threaten to microchip me. :-)
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Yes. Family can be overrated. :-)
Plus I've done it before.
For me, moving out of SE Michigan, away from family, was a REQUIREMENT.
I have no problems with my family, but I had major problems with that sucking chest wound known as the greater metro Detroit area.
They fully understood and supported my decision. In fact, I did all that twice - once upon enlistment in the Army and second, following retirement and my return to MI (to get my feet on the ground). Both times I RAN, not walked, to escape the horrors of SE Michigan.
The big deal should be the job angle, seems to me. It's kinda hard to afford a mortgage unless you're Tiger Woods or Britney Spears.
Good luck, HG!
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Would, and have. I have also moved far away for the mid-term in order to move back closer in the longer term.
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Being USN most of my life, I've always lived away from family (they were in Texas or MN). I've missed out on a few things, but I don't feel that it made my life any worse. I've always liked having my family out of reach. If they wanted to come visit, they did. I've also come home to visit many times. When one moves to a new area, they can always make new friends, find baby sitters, etc.
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Views of the mountains from my porch
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Part of my kitchen, eating area
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Kitchen, mom is in the pic
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Part of the backyard, my dad
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Top of the Amicola Falls...a 10 minute drive from the house
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Part of my backyard..
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Pics from one of my outings...(I wouldn't go on the swinging bridge...)
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my porch
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my house
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WTF is wrong with you? MOVE! That is a beautiful home with great views!
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I understand your hesitation, but if you can find a good job, I'd move in a heartbeat.
We left ALL our family in Colorado and moved, and it has been an adventure.
Losing the babysitter would be tough, but in 5 yrs she'll be in school anyway, and just need a little bit of afterschool care.
And you wouldn't be TOO far away from the folks.
Who knows...you might meets some studly Georgia outdoorsy type if you move!
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My life right now too.
I hate NY with a passion...the cold almost year around,the taxes just name it.
Mom is in a nursing home and when she went in a year and a half ago thought it was finally my chance to escape from the hell hole as I no longer had to take care of her.
Leaving her to die there has so far proven to be something I can`t bring myself to do.
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Oh lordy. Yeah, I would move there. Oh yeah.
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Do a positive/negative list....writing it down on paper helps.
It's hard to be away from family for major events.....in my case it was the birth of my children and my divorce. I would have loved to have had some close by family support...not necessarily my family ::) but you make a family with close friends when you move away from family.
To me....the most important issue to deal with first ....is can you find a job at a salary you can be happy with, and a job that's at least as secure as the one you have.
The next one would be child care if your daughter gets sick or you have to go out of town.
Can you even sell your existing house and get your investment back?
Pretty much everything else will just fall into place.
Beautiful home in GA!!!
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+1.
The reason I have such a good relationship with my family is that I moved bet. 1,200 and 1,600 miles away from them. If they want to annoy me - or vice versa - they really have to mean it now.
I hear ya...I moved to Florida away from NY...but they followed me here...lol. My dad loves Georgia, I wouldn't be surprised if he convinces my mom to move up there...but my mom loves Florida... :mental:
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Yes. due to a lack luster school system. Not to mention, Hurricanes, crappy weather, etc.
Yes, the school system here is the shitters....When I talk to some of the "kids" here, I'm just in awe of how little they know. Say what you will about NY...but I did have a good education there...and not only that..but in NY..the kids are motivated to excel. The teachers here are part of the problem.
In GA, the schools are better, I looked into the schools in my district and they are do well in the FCATS...good sports programs too...and when she gets older...she has UGA and Georgia Tech in the area....I think my daughter would be a better, well-rounded child/adult if she grew up in Georgia.
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I'd move to the Emerald Coast (Pensacola to Mexico Beach/Port St. Joe) in a New York second. SE Florida? Nope.
As for moving away, my decision wasn't too hard about where I was not going back after ETSing. I'm from Jackson, Mississippi. Hence why I live in Evans, Ga (Augusta).
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I would move. I love to move though. We have settled here for a while but I am sure we will be moving again some day.
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If the job market will support the move, do it!!!
Love the house by the way...
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I would not voluntarily move away from my Mom again. I did not move to a better state (CA from TX) and I didn't do it by choice but I also didn't realize how much I would miss my Mom until I no longer had her around. It has become abundantly clear how much she helped me out when I had issues like this eye thing going on. I also feel so lucky that my Mom was around when my kids were little. For my son she wasn't around until he was about 6 so I didn't know what I was missing...now I know what I'm missing. :(
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....from family to live in a nicer state?
In a heart beat. Wouldn't think twice.
Here is my dilemma....I have a huge, beautiful house in NE Georgia, close to the mountains in Dawsonville, GA. It's a new home that I purchased 3 years ago and kept it as a second home. I took frequent trips up there and explored the trail of the Appalachian mountains, and wineyards, and waterfalls and all the beauty of nature Georgia has to offer. I LOVED IT. My house is a 4/2 with real hardwood floors everywhere, a huge master bedroom, a beautiful backyard (with room for a pool) and a great brick fireplace, a southern style porch, big beautiful windows ( I will post pics later).
So...I bought the house with the intention of moving there...but with the job situation, and a new daughter...it's not so easy to just pick up and leave...especially since my family is in Florda now. I would like to make a plan to move there 5 years from now..but I would know NO ONE. It's a scary thought...
WWYD??
Happy to house site for you if I can get a job transfer. :-) :-)
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I would move. I love to move though. We have settled here for a while but I am sure we will be moving again some day.
Love to move? Wow, wait till you have to start sorting through the stuff that you've accumulated! :-)
In the past 10+ years, I've lived in five different states. Bought four homes, sold three.
I am SICK of moving. But I think we'll move one more time -- back to Jackson, TN. :bawl: :banghead:
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Have I got a deal for you :-)
How about a compromise?
I have a nice little house up near the Space Center with good schools (except the HS, it blows. There are good alternatives though.) We get more colder stuff during the winter and you get to watch Top Secret NASA launches whenever they happen. Family is a bit farther away. My folks used to live in Boca and that worked out awesomely :-)
I'll sacrifice and take that little cabin in the mountains off your hands to solve the dilemma you face. I am a nice guy, I know. :rotf:
I'd kill to live in the Clayton/Tallulah Falls area of N Ga. and with luck one day I will.
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I would not voluntarily move away from my Mom again. I did not move to a better state (CA from TX) and I didn't do it by choice but I also didn't realize how much I would miss my Mom until I no longer had her around. It has become abundantly clear how much she helped me out when I had issues like this eye thing going on. I also feel so lucky that my Mom was around when my kids were little. For my son she wasn't around until he was about 6 so I didn't know what I was missing...now I know what I'm missing. :(
I rely on my mom a lot too...and I sort of feel guilty just thinking about taking their only grand daughter away...and also feel guilty taking my daughter's grandparents away...It's a difficult decision....but I have 5 years to think about it.
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Who knows...you might meets some studly Georgia outdoorsy type if you move!
Hmmmm..... :-)
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Yup. Moved away from family a long time ago. Now live 600 miles from my folks and 400 from the in laws. It's been great! The biggest draw back when you have little ones is how hard it is to find someone, anyone who will watch them so you can get some time away. We were pretty much tied to our kids for 12 - 13 years ... until we felt comfortable leaving them for a few hours while we went out. Now they are old enough we can take overnight trips without too much worry.
Everything else has been good to go!
KC
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A lot can change in 5 years. Revisit the issue every year. What makes sense now, might not in 5 years.
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My life right now too.
I hate NY with a passion...the cold almost year around,the taxes just name it.
Mom is in a nursing home and when she went in a year and a half ago thought it was finally my chance to escape from the hell hole as I no longer had to take care of her.
Leaving her to die there has so far proven to be something I can`t bring myself to do.
I hear ya,,,my parents are getting up there too...
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I can't understand the attachment to one's parents. My mom passed away some 34½ years ago and she had made sure that the apron strings were cut well before that. I was pretty much ready to be on my own when I was 16. My step dad, well, he was a step dad. Never got to know my real father very well until I was 28. Didn't miss much. Perhaps that's why I've never been totally comfortable in one place. A few years here or there and it's time to move on as long as the income allows it, once when it didn't. (Most recently)
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I can't understand the attachment to one's parents. My mom passed away some 34½ years ago and she had made sure that the apron strings were cut well before that. I was pretty much ready to be on my own when I was 16. My step dad, well, he was a step dad. Never got to know my real father very well until I was 28. Didn't miss much. Perhaps that's why I've never been totally comfortable in one place. A few years here or there and it's time to move on as long as the income allows it, once when it didn't. (Most recently)
I have a pretty strong attachment to both of my parents. But I wouldn't stay someplace that I hated just cuz they were close geographically, nor would they expect me to.
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I grew up an AF brat. My parents divorced when I was in first grade. Needless to say, there wasn't much routine in our life. Holidays were spent with whoever had custody. Shoot. I didn't even attend a school for more than 2 years until I was in 7th grade. It never mattered where we were, we were fortunate to be loved wherever we were. I never felt left out. Hell, my brother and I qualified for frequent flyer miles with all the flying we did, alone, to see grandparents or parents. We were bred to be independent. Shoot. Although my father and grandparents don't walk this world anymore, I see my Mom more than my brother, and we live 20 miles apart. The mother is 6 hours away. At any rate, my point is, as long as the kiddos know they are loved, distance doesn't matter as much, actually, I probably wouldn't have been as close to my family if they hadn't lived so far away.
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Probation ends 11/27/10.
Move from Oregon date 11/28/10
This place really is "where every prospect pleases, but gd the politicians are vile."
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Would I? Yep--and done it too.