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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: franksolich on August 21, 2009, 07:09:37 AM
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Oh my.
laylah (1000+ posts) Fri Aug-21-09 06:40 AM
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I feel my job is being threatened by those that don't understand mental illness.
Like an idiot, I self-disclosed my bi-polar diagnosis at work so as to give my co-workers a heads up when I need a little help. I am a social worker currently pretending to be a food server at a local casino.
It went well for a brief period of time; however, now they (fellow servers) dog my heels if I am not at a table pronto when the guest is seated, even if I am with another guest, they run to management at my slightest mistake, speak horribly disrespectful to me, etc. I need this job but dread going in more each day, which adds A LOT to my anxiety.
I was sent home yesterday because I had a minor meltdown (crying) because one of the wenches, who I had asked for help two days ago so she goes to management about THAT, went to management yesterday because I DIDN'T ask for help.
My head hurts from the mixed messages I am getting.
Brand new bonfire; no primitives at it yet, but it bears watching.
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Good God is there a one of them that doesn`t claim to be mental? :mental:
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Good God is there a one of them that doesn`t claim to be mental? :mental:
Good question. I think that's a no. It's in their mindset. It's why all of the morons want cradle to grave everything. They're selfish pricks who want to be waited on hand and foot.
The country would be a better place without them.
BTW, I'd love to see a screen-capped suicide run on that very question posted at the DUmp.
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WHY is it the responsibility of every other waitress there to tend to the needs of a mental patient? They've got drinks to fetch and hash to sling and a hundred things to keep straight in their heads. WTF? I hope she loses this job, because it's not a good match and it's going to make the other waitresses quit. To be a waitress, you've got to have your head screwed on good and straight.
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WHY is it the responsibility of every other waitress there to tend to the needs of a mental patient? They've got drinks to fetch and hash to sling and a hundred things to keep straight in their heads. WTF? I hope she loses this job, because it's not a good match and it's going to make the other waitresses quit. To be a waitress, you've got to have your head screwed on good and straight.
Bingo.
The social working primitive should maybe switch occupations.
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Bingo.
The social working primitive should maybe switch occupations.
The last time I heard of a mentally imbalanced social worker doing another job, it was my Congrescritter. God, I am SO screwed.
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Bingo.
The social working primitive should maybe switch occupations.
Indeed, she would be far better-suited to be a bartender in a small, not-too-busy place and a stable clientele with her point of view. A waitress in a casino has no time to play at social working, no wonder she is in a jam.
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laylah (1000+ posts) Fri Aug-21-09 06:40 AM
Original message
I feel my job is being threatened by those that don't understand mental illness.
Like an idiot, I self-disclosed my bi-polar diagnosis at work so as to give my co-workers a heads up when I need a little help. I am a social worker currently pretending to be a food server at a local casino.
It went well for a brief period of time; however, now they (fellow servers) dog my heels if I am not at a table pronto when the guest is seated, even if I am with another guest, they run to management at my slightest mistake, speak horribly disrespectful to me, etc. I need this job but dread going in more each day, which adds A LOT to my anxiety.
I was sent home yesterday because I had a minor meltdown (crying) because one of the wenches, who I had asked for help two days ago so she goes to management about THAT, went to management yesterday because I DIDN'T ask for help.
My head hurts from the mixed messages I am getting.
The bolded part shows that she clearly doesn't take the job seriously in the first place. I would bet that she is giving off the attitude that she is too good for waitressing, and her co-workers are noticing it, and they probably figure that her bi-polar explanation is a flimsy excuse for why they need to cover her butt.
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As with all primitives, we aren't getting the full story here.
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As with all primitives, we aren't getting the full story here.
I think what CR said is probably closer to the truth. She let out her mental health condition because she was not meeting job expectations. She did it in the hope it would take some heat off of her back. It, apparently, didn't work.
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Yep! now it's backfiring. I truly feel sorry for anyone with a diagnosed mental illness but the majority of bi-polars dont function without meds and therapy. it's not something mild that comes and goes.
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Yep! now it's backfiring. I truly feel sorry for anyone with a diagnosed mental illness but the majority of bi-polars dont function without meds and therapy. it's not something mild that comes and goes.
You know what's crappy? She may very well have it under control, but is using it as an excuse for poor work performance. A get out of jail free card if you will. Don't put it past primitives.
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Yep! now it's backfiring. I truly feel sorry for anyone with a diagnosed mental illness but the majority of bi-polars dont function without meds and therapy. it's not something mild that comes and goes.
Some of us do function w/o meds(alot of the "side-effects" are worse than the cycling)
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As with all primitives, we aren't getting the full story here.
After 21 years at the same job the senior workers have it figured out when new temps arrive.
We never know what or who we will get, a person on work release, a crazy person or in one case a murderer that was to go on to kill again.
Good signs are new workers that want to know how everything works,keeps their mouth shut for the first 18 months about everything from coworkers to the job itself. Be a team worker and not expect to get any applause when they do a good job.
They remember the names of your SO. and kids, the month of your birthday and speak well of others to everyone. Most important is to speak well of someone who helped you out in a difficult job in front of boss and others.
They keep their personal problems to themselves be it divorce, or medical problem.
Those first 18 months are critical to show and convince the boss and coworkers you are serious about your job, strong and competent.
Listen to all the gossip you can get but never pass it on, or comment on it to the person giving you the "News".
Develope a shell as hard as rock. Look at yourself as others see you and keep a sense of humor.
How to loose a job, be late every day, First week there tell everyone that the procedures were differently at last job.
Set up a story to cover any failures you may have, I am ill, broke, come up with 100 reasons why you may need others to help you do your job.
Find someone that is said to be lazy or perhaps gross and make sure to disparage them in front of others .
Show disrespect for managers that don't quite trust you yet, spend the lunch and break time to let everyone know what a Dufus the manager is who has held their job for 18 years.
Show no empathy for others, you are important they are just meat. When a coworker leaves for another job tell everyone they were fired for incompetence. Make sure you jump on the failures of coworkers and remind everyone that you would have never done THAT.
The only way to work at the same job for 20+ years is to boost other workers up the ladder so they will reach down and pull you up along with them.
Theres allot of capable people out there that get trampled in the herd of idiots, if you can find a few, bring then to the attention of the high ups-----You don't have to be social Buddy's with them, better not to associate with coworkers outside work.
Rant over------
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The majority of them acknowledge having mental illness of some form or another. Yet everyone around them are the ones with the wrong ideas.
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Yep! now it's backfiring. I truly feel sorry for anyone with a diagnosed mental illness but the majority of bi-polars dont function without meds and therapy. it's not something mild that comes and goes.
Oh they function Dixie.....Just not how you and I would. Ree would probably tell you that you have to have a way to channel your manic cycle into something constructive otherwise some of them {because of their lack of impulse control} would be either screwing everyone in sight,spending money uncontrollably and not sleeping for days on end. My soon to be ex-wife has a problem with two of the above. It is a terrible thing to have to not have your brain shut off ever!
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Not all people with a mental illness are DUmmies
But all DUmmies have a mental illness...
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laylah
... my bi-polar diagnosis..... I am a social worker currently pretending to be a food server at a local casino.
Where can a moonbat bi-polar do the most damage, as a social worker or as a food server? :clueless:
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Oh they function Dixie.....Just not how you and I would. Ree would probably tell you that you have to have a way to channel your manic cycle into something constructive otherwise some of them {because of their lack of impulse control} would be either screwing everyone in sight,spending money uncontrollably and not sleeping for days on end. My soon to be ex-wife has a problem with two of the above. It is a terrible thing to have to not have your brain shut off ever!
I would kill to know what it's like to have my brain shut off....
I have no concept of what it's like to just sit and think nothing...
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I would kill to know what it's like to have my brain shut off....
I have no concept of what it's like to just sit and think nothing...
Read a few more DU threads. That should give you a pretty good idea.
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Where can a moonbat bi-polar do the most damage, as a social worker or as a food server? :clueless:
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Social worker....
I'm bi-polar and I was a waitress/server for years....The worse thing ya can do is mess up someones food/drink
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I would kill to know what it's like to have my brain shut off....
I have no concept of what it's like to just sit and think nothing...
I know hon! I have seen my wife in tears for days because she hasn't slept which in turn causes her to cycle even faster.Which in turn makes her even moodier and unpredictable. God Bless you Ree!
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Social worker....
I'm bi-polar and I was a waitress/server for years....The worse thing ya can do is mess up someones food/drink
I would have to agree Ree. My wife has done that for years as well and is actually pretty damn good at it! I think it's because the restaurant business really plays to her manic cycle! :cheersmate:
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After 21 years at the same job the senior workers have it figured out when new temps arrive.
They remember the names of your SO. and kids, the month of your birthday and speak well of others to everyone. Most important is to speak well of someone who helped you out in a difficult job in front of boss and others.
You're kidding, right?
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I would kill to know what it's like to have my brain shut off....
I have no concept of what it's like to just sit and think nothing...
The grass is always greener, Ree...I never get the manic side of things, the closest I get is OCD and anxiety that feels manic sometimes. The pathetic thing about DUmmies is that the purposely let their illness beat them instead of working to beat it. Everybody has a story and every single person in this world has things large and small to overcome. Something that would cause a meltdown in one person is shrugged off by another. It's all relative and I don't think God ever gives us more than we can handle.
Cindie
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This person expects the fellow waitstaff to be her mental health care professional?
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I am a social worker currently pretending to be a food server at a local casino.
HUH???? A bi-polar SOCIAL WORKER? Anyone else think this is a disaster waiting to happen, or the reason it is no longer a social worker?
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I hope no-one is planning a garage sale:
http://www.mcclatchydc.com/226/story/74102.html
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It's all relative and I don't think God ever gives us more than we can handle.
Cindie
I dunno, there are times when it looks like he picked someone to be the example for a "There but for the grace of God go I" comparison...
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The grass is always greener, Ree...I never get the manic side of things, the closest I get is OCD and anxiety that feels manic sometimes. The pathetic thing about DUmmies is that the purposely let their illness beat them instead of working to beat it. Everybody has a story and every single person in this world has things large and small to overcome. Something that would cause a meltdown in one person is shrugged off by another. It's all relative and I don't think God ever gives us more than we can handle.
Cindie
I have good days and not so good days...To me it's not an excuse for anything..it's just the way I am...
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Update from the bonfire:
First up to bat, the mopinko primitive, who has NOT donated to Skins's island:
mopinko (1000+ posts) Fri Aug-21-09 10:27 AM
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1. have you talked to your boss?
sounds a little like you freaked them out, and now they don't know what to do. seems like management needs to hear directly from you at this point. is this a big company? do they have an HR person? it would help if they were big enough to have a written policy on this sort of thing. i would think that a casino gets all kinds of people working for them, so there might be some precedent.
The david primitive, who has NOT donated to Skins's island:
david13 (486 posts) Fri Aug-21-09 12:09 PM
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2. This sounds the same as just about every job I have ever been on, and I disclose nothing.
I think it is common on any job to get flak from all sides.
Any job requires a very thick skin. Meltdown won't help. The only thing you can do is smile and agree.
It seems or sounds phony but it's phony anyway, in that you are a social worker, but now acting as food server.
It's a paycheck. And I know it's the same with the customers at the table. They will be very rude, change their mind, complain, etc. And you just have to smile and say, oh, we will fix it for you.
It's merely a temporary inconvenience. Bear with it, til you can get back on a better job.