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The Bar => Introductions & Subsequent Welcomes => Topic started by: Zafod on May 18, 2009, 02:44:25 PM
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how the hell is everyone?
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Did you forget your password? :tongue:
I'm as okay as I'm going to get unless I win the lottery.
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Hey, Zaf! Welcome to CC!! :-)
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I'm as fine as the lips of a Rhode Island Red. How's your wishbone breakin'?
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Welcome! :cheersmate: Again.
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Well hot damn look what the cat dragged in!!! Welcome!! So good to see you!
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Howdy, sir. Welcome back.
How ya been?
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Hey Zaf....things are just ducky in my neck of the woods...and you missed the usual threads of the sex and booze crowd, but that's about it! :cheersmate:
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Hi Zaf; not anything Earth-shaking going on, Frank has taken the time to regale us with tales of his youthful wanderings, good read that.
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well the divorce is done. Spent over 9k to get 50% custody and no child support. Oh and I let her have everything except half the equity in the house.
Cost me 9k because she demanded 100% custody and child support even though she was the one who had the affair. I found out and confronted her to which she freaked out and demanded a divorce. I moved out for over a month begging her to go to a marriage counselor and she refused. I served her with a petition for divorce and thats when she went off the deep end and started to fight me over the kid. She even went to the extent of lying and saying I hit her and crap..... I held my ground and demanded 50% custody of Tyler and no child support and she finally settled out of court 1 week from the trial date.
Oh and in the middle of all of this I had a pretty bad car wreck. Had to have shoulder surgery to fix a problem from that. Gained a shit ton of weight. Lost my job and have been out of work for almost 4 months.
But other then that I still have my boy in my life and thats all that counts.
Lost over 3/4ths the weight already.
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Wow. Zafod "the survivor"! High five for that.
Congrats on the custody and fighting for your rights. Good luck moving forward and welcome welcome welcome. :cheersmate:
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well the divorce is done. Spent over 9k to get 50% custody and no child support. Oh and I let her have everything except half the equity in the house.
Cost me 9k because she demanded 100% custody and child support even though she was the one who had the affair. I found out and confronted her to which she freaked out and demanded a divorce. I moved out for over a month begging her to go to a marriage counselor and she refused. I served her with a petition for divorce and thats when she went off the deep end and started to fight me over the kid. She even went to the extent of lying and saying I hit her and crap..... I held my ground and demanded 50% custody of Tyler and no child support and she finally settled out of court 1 week from the trial date.
Oh and in the middle of all of this I had a pretty bad car wreck. Had to have shoulder surgery to fix a problem from that. Gained a shit ton of weight. Lost my job and have been out of work for almost 4 months.
But other then that I still have my boy in my life and thats all that counts.
Lost over 3/4ths the weight already.
That's right, he comes first. With your attitude, you'll pull out of your difficulties quickly. Blessings to you and Tyler.
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People are like tea bags...
We never really know what's on the inside until we find ourselves in hot water.
:cheersmate:
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Zafod - it speaks volumes about your character that you:
a. tried to work things out and did everything to make a horrible situation better
b. put your kid first
c. have a positive attitude about things despite what's happened
d. are moving forward and taking responsibility for what you can control
That my friend is the mark of a real man. DUmmies should take note.
Hat is off to you buddy.
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Thanks Dix.
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Welcome Zaf. Glad to have you here
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Did you prove the adultery in court? Seems like that would have made a big difference with the judge. On the other hand, courts like to give custody to the mom.
Sorry about your problems, though. Glad you are back.
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Hey Zaf. Welcome back! Sorry to hear about your problems.
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Did you prove the adultery in court? Seems like that would have made a big difference with the judge. On the other hand, courts like to give custody to the mom.
Sorry about your problems, though. Glad you are back.
No the courts couldnt give two shits about adultery when dealing with custody. Its whats best for the child is all they care about.
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No the courts couldnt give two shits about adultery when dealing with custody. Its whats best for the child is all they care about.
You'd think that breaking marriage vows would have some weight in deciding which parent is "best for the child," wouldn't you? Adultery is now so common that judges don't even see it as a negative mark on a mother's character.
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well the divorce is done. Spent over 9k to get 50% custody and no child support. Oh and I let her have everything except half the equity in the house.
Cost me 9k because she demanded 100% custody and child support even though she was the one who had the affair. I found out and confronted her to which she freaked out and demanded a divorce. I moved out for over a month begging her to go to a marriage counselor and she refused. I served her with a petition for divorce and thats when she went off the deep end and started to fight me over the kid. She even went to the extent of lying and saying I hit her and crap..... I held my ground and demanded 50% custody of Tyler and no child support and she finally settled out of court 1 week from the trial date.
Oh and in the middle of all of this I had a pretty bad car wreck. Had to have shoulder surgery to fix a problem from that. Gained a shit ton of weight. Lost my job and have been out of work for almost 4 months.
But other then that I still have my boy in my life and thats all that counts.
Lost over 3/4ths the weight already.
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry. I know how much you love that little boy and how proud you are of him. I'm sorry for the divorce. I'm glad you still have the kid half the time though.
I'm sorry about your job as well. Maybe Joblink or a really good job agency could help you out? I'm thinking you're qualified for a lot of stuff due to your past experience.
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You'd think that breaking marriage vows would have some weight in deciding which parent is "best for the child," wouldn't you? Adultery is now so common that judges don't even see it as a negative mark on a mother's character.
If he lives in a no-fault state it doesn't make a damn bit of difference.