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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: asdf2231 on February 16, 2009, 01:50:12 PM
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Sat Feb-14-09 09:20 AM
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How to be an Ally to Sex Workers
Advertisements [?]I'm not a sex worker myself, but I support the sex workers' rights movement. I found this, and I think everyone should read it:
“How to Be an Ally to Sex Workers†by SWOP-Chicago
1) Don’t Assume. Don’t assume you know why a person is in the sex industry. We’re not all trafficked or victims of abuse. Some people make a choice to enter this industry because they enjoy it, others may be struggling for money and have less of a choice.
2) Be Discreet and respect personal boundaries. If you know a sex worker, it’s OK to engage in conversation in dialogue with them in private, but respect their privacy surrounding their work in public settings. Don’t ask personal questions such as “does your family know what you do?†If a sex worker is not “out†to their friends, family, or co-workers, it’s not your place to tell everyone what they do.
3) Don’t Judge. Know your own prejudices and realize that not everyone shares the same opinions as you. Whether you think sex work is a dangerous and exploitative profession or not is irrelevant compared to the actual experiences of the person who works in the industry. It’s not your place to pass judgment on how another person earns the money they need to survive.
4) Watch You Language. Cracking jokes or using derogatory terms such as “hookerâ€, “whoreâ€, “slutâ€, or “ho†is not acceptable. While some sex workers have “taken back†these words and use them among themselves, they are usually used to demean sex workers when spoken by outsiders.
5) Address Your Bias Against Sex Workers. If you have a underlying fear that all sex workers are bad people and full of diseases, then perhaps these are issues within yourself that you need to address. In fact, the majority of sex workers practice safer sex than their peers and get tested regularly.
More tips at http://deepthroated.wordpress.com/2009/02/08/how-to-be-... /
Seriously, read it. It's important.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x5051376
NashVegas (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 11:25 AM
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7. I Interviewed One of NY's Finest
Who was, for a while, rated the #1 call girl in the city. There were two things of importance she had to say, IMO.
#1. Sex work divided her from her family, because it was something she was ashamed to speak about with them.
#2. There aren't enough support organizations that help sex workers get out of the business and transition to a "normal" lifestyle, whatever that is. When she got out of jail, she had no idea where to turn for help making that transition.
I support sex workers' rights, including the right to not be manipulated by moneyed interests who would love to see prostitution legalized so they can get into the business without fear of arrest.
Just sayin' ....
FreakinDJ (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 11:27 AM
Response to Reply #7
8. Its a choice some make because they "Prefer it"
so I don't buy into the whole "They all need to be saved from Satan"
14. Who Said Anything About Satan?
Unless, by "satan," you mean, "Economic venturers who, themselves, don't go out on calls or offer lap dances."
It's worth noting the full blog post of the OP doesn't think offering support to someone who wants to get out of the business rates a mention as something you could do to be a sex worker's friend.
TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 11:30 AM
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9. Um...really. Do I need to act as if this is a respectable profession now?
What sheepdip.
cliffordu (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 11:51 AM
Response to Reply #9
11. Perhaps more respectable than anything you've done. Are you a lawyer?
TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 01:07 PM
Response to Reply #11
23. No--I'm a registered nurse.
lildreamer316 (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 12:11 PM
Response to Reply #9
15. 'Respectable' ..hmmmm.
I'm a stripper, have been since 1994. Sometimes in our internal dialog between ourselves in this profession, we are not sure we want to be known as 'respectable'; since that tends to make it more mainstream and therefore not as forbidden; equaling loss of revenue. However, it is a profession, and should be regarded as one - completely.
Heidi (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 12:16 PM
Response to Reply #15
17. I respect you.
1. I use my hands to make a living (for the most part), and I see this no differently from using one's mind or boobs or whole body or any combination of all of what you have to make a living.
2. I respect that you put up with bullshit judgment so graciously. I've seen you do it countless times and I admire you for it.
TMI...
Chock full o' nutty goodness.
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The best thing you can do for these people is to offer them a choice of getting out of the business.
For the hooker who does not want it 'mainstream' you already lost. Even the Disney Company/ABC programs push the enverlope younger and younger for making sex okay.
for the OP. You are a moron
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lildreamer316 (1000+ posts) Mon Feb-16-09 12:11 PM
Response to Reply #9
15. 'Respectable' ..hmmmm.
I'm a stripper, have been since 1994. Sometimes in our internal dialog between ourselves in this profession, we are not sure we want to be known as 'respectable'; since that tends to make it more mainstream and therefore not as forbidden; equaling loss of revenue. However, it is a profession, and should be regarded as one - completely.
Where does she work, the Cougar Club?
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Strip clubs haven't been exotic for decades, especially in Dallas where they are on every block
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2) Be Discreet and respect personal boundaries. If you know a sex worker, it’s OK to engage in conversation in dialogue with them in private, but respect their privacy surrounding their work in public settings. Don’t ask personal questions such as “does your family know what you do?†If a sex worker is not “out†to their friends, family, or co-workers, it’s not your place to tell everyone what they do.
The only conversation I can think of to have with a "sex worker" (love the new title, BTW) is , "How much for a blowjob?" Other than that, I see no real reason to engage in a conversation with a skank ho.
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be discreet and respect personal boundaries
ok.... we're talking about whores? sluts? prostitutes? the ever-bent over women?
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big damn whore thread might be the best thread name yet! lol :-)
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it had a list of names we can't use anymore, although we will, how about 'ever bent'??
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Well, Oh my.........
:-)
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it had a list of names we can't use anymore, although we will, how about 'ever bent'??
[DU Mode=]
Be nice.
Even sperm belching, sore ridden, retarded drug addicts have a right to be treated like they are as important as you and me. [/DU Mode]
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So, "Sex Work" is now an industry......probably the only industry in the U.S. that's going in the hole everyday but isn't laying off workers.
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So, "Sex Work" is now an industry......probably the only industry in the U.S. that's going in the hole everyday but isn't laying off workers.
If I could invest in a poontang hedge fund I would.
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So, "Sex Work" is now an industry......probably the only industry in the U.S. that's going in the hole everyday but isn't laying off workers.
Isn't whorin' around the "world's oldest profession" anyways?! Talk about job security!! lol :-)
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So, "Sex Work" is now an industry......probably the only industry in the U.S. that's going in the hole everyday but isn't laying off workers.
laying off workers... :lmao:
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If "Sex Work" is an industry, when's the gummint gonna bring some regulations to it?. I for one would like a smaller, more compact model that's cheaper to operate.
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If "Sex Work" is an industry, when's the gummint gonna bring some regulations to it?. I for one would like a smaller, more compact model that's cheaper to operate.
check the Dallas Observer singles on their website or Craigs List..... cheaper usually means more of a risk of some type of infection
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I can't believe that this O* economy is so bad that women are resorting to becoming sex workers! Shame on the Obama family evil empire.
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I can't believe that this O* economy is so bad that women are resorting to becoming sex workers! Shame on the Obama family evil empire.
H5 for the OFEE!
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That woman has been a stripper for 14-15 years? Isn't she getting a little old for that?
These sex worker sorts pop up on TV every now and then. They make no sense on camera, either.