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Current Events => The DUmpster => Topic started by: CC27 on August 15, 2016, 04:49:08 PM
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left-of-center2012 (3,548 posts)
The cost of being a loner
After a divorce 25 years ago; after three different friends over time borrowed several hundred dollars and none of them attempted to repay me; I just withdrew into myself.
Thinking I’m going to end up getting hurt or used, so why extend the effort to form friendships, relationships.
And I became a recluse, hermit, loner.
I live in a one bedroom apartment, in the city. I pretty much stay home except to go grocery shopping; and increasingly to the doctors and pharmacies.
I’m 70 now. Disabled. Walk short distances with a cane. Use Uber to get about.
Haven’t needed, wanted friends. No one close.
And now my doctor wants me to have a medical exam where I’ll be sedated for about three hours.
I must have someone drive me to the exam; wait for me; and drive me home.
I have no one who(m) I can ask to drive me and wait.
I can’t arrive in a cab, or Uber, or bus. The doc insists on me having someone drive me, and who will wait. Fo insurance reasons, they can’t risk me trying to get home alone in a cab, etc and possibly falling, etc as I’ll be recovering from the anesthesia.
I’ve asked a couple people I don’t really know if they would do it for money;
and hopefully one will do it for $50.
The cost of being a ‘loner’.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10028098271
What a weird story.
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The cost of being a miserable asshole is the reality of the situation.
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B-b-b-b-but, cities are the epicenter of all the joy on earf.
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Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)
Sun Aug 14, 2016, 08:36 PM
mrmpa (3,417 posts)
8. ...
If there is a church or synagogue you attend give them a call, someone might be available to volunteer
Once again, after bashing Christianity ad nauseum, they turn to a church when it's convenient.
Then there's this:
Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)
Mon Aug 15, 2016, 06:47 AM
jcboon (179 posts)
62. Churches and religious organizations
Pick one that doesn't seem obnoxious an attend regularly.
Once a month will do.
You can get to know people in a comfortably distant way.
Our church people will give rides and leave you alone when you want them to.
You don't have to be a believer to use the services.
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Yeah, Simon & Garfunkel didn't know what they were talking about:
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKlSVNxLB-A[/youtube]
Or maybe satiric. My Dad reached that lonely stage, but for a different reason. He was in his late 80s, and almost all of the people with whom he had grown up had predeceased him (and the very few who had not were unable to get around).
I wonder whether l-o-c2012 may have, partly, been trying to gently warn other DU-folk against cutting off family and friends too lightly.
And, yeah, Karin, that is one of the strange yet consistent paradoxes of DU. They trash Christians, yet when some sort of personal trouble comes, guess who they advise each other to turn to. Even secular (not religious or irreligious) food banks here in Silicon Valley partner with churches either as independent but cooperative food banks or as distribution points. It takes a special kind of willful blindness not to see the direct and indirect ties between humanitarian charities in Western culture and Christianity.
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A primitive of no prominence
You don't have to be a believer to use the services.
And he does mean use.
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Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)
Sun Aug 14, 2016, 08:39 PM
Star Member Skittles (108,197 posts)
9. hey
I hear you on being a loner - I very much keep to myself and have only a few close friends who aren't alwasy available (no family nearby)....but while I am comfortable being alone, you sound depressed and would probably benefit from some counseling
someone is always here on DU for you, left-of-center201
That is just what they need,a legion of you dark,ugly souls all wailing about how you can`t get on with others.
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That is just what they need,a legion of you dark,ugly souls all wailing about how you can`t get on with others.
AKA 'The Near-Suicide Squad'.
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AKA 'The Near-Suicide Squad'.
They need to forget about the "near" part. :-)
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I'm a compassionate soul so for a mere five dollars I will send the DUche two single edged razor blades and instructions to go down the lane.
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I'm a compassionate soul so for a mere five dollars I will send the DUche two single edged razor blades and instructions to go down the lane.
I'll pay you the five bucks. :hyper: