Teri I do understand.
Worse yet are the folks that physically back you into a corner on line no problem but when running into zealots in person, this can scare the pants off someone.
First time was when the kids were small and we moved into a new home. Knock came on the door about the time I was putting the kids to bed. Pastor came, a Methodist I believe and I still wonder if he had been drinking. He told us we were invited to services, OK but when the kids all piled into the room to see who had come to call, this Pastor of a church with 300 members turned to the kids and told them that if I or their father died and we had all not been saved we would all go to Hell. Kids father and I were speechless, so bad we had no idea what to do or say. I have no idea how we got this Pastor out the door but two days later we enrolled the kids in a Catholic school.
Flash to 30 years later, I had had a OSHA accident at work. The woman in charge of my case came into the doctors office while I was getting dressed and noticed my tattoo. This woman who could have held up my claim approached me and told me she wandered about the meaning of my tat. I told her it was a symbol of my faith and out of the blue she asked if I had been saved in Jesus, she became quite strident and then began to call me by my full name. I recognised this as a method to call off evil people by calling the Evil by their full name. Darn it gave me the creeps, this woman turned her back to me and finished paper work refusing to look at me. Damn she was a nut case.
Worse next was at a family wedding the brides father approached me and with a friendly look asked me if I had been saved. I took the bull by the horns and asked why he wanted to know. Here I was at the wedding of a family member and the brides father had me in a corner. Mother came to my rescue, she got between us and he made the mistake of asking a old lady if she had been saved. She told him that with all respect it was none of his business. He got all huffy and went off to fight the good fight with others he did not know.
At no time in my life have I had a NUN or Priest ask me that question or even ask me what my faith is, or not except me be I a Budest or any faith. Same as a Jewish Temple, I would escort some elderly to services and at no time was I questioned , just welcomed.
BTW, on high Holy days in the Jewish Temples were my favorite times, the ancient ceremony's those the Jesus went to in his time, unforgettable. A gate way into the past as Jesus knew, WOW.