You know, this is where they truly aren't grown ups. The first guy/girl I commend for taking the parents in where their savings could afford, but if they were able to move them cross country and set them up then it really makes you wonder as to the credibility of the story of those other two brothers since I have a hard time seeing someone who was so set on putting ma in an upscale home all of a sudden ditching that to allow the other two siblings to set her up in 'what she can afford', but who knows.
As to the grown up comment, someone has to deal with the arrangements when death is immenent. The dummie sitting by the bed should be grateful her two other siblings sounded ready and willing to handle the difficult part while dealing wiht their own grief. My estranged spouse and his siblings are facing this now since their stepfather is dying of cancer and their mother is progressing in alzheimers. Thankfully, every one of them understand there are things that need to be done to prepare for those inevitable events. It's not cold, it just is what it is. Death, like life, takes preparation, especially if you want your loved ones last wishes carried out as they request.
