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I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« on: March 04, 2012, 05:29:19 PM »
Maybe she's telling the truth or maybe she's not...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1002381972

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I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"

SUN MAR 04, 2012 AT 06:30 AM PST
I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
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................. We sat down on the couch and she just cried for what seemed like forever. I held her and cried with her and said more things that I just can't remember now! Finally I got her calmed down enough to tell me the story from the beginning. The note was in her locker when she opened it before her first class. She was so upset that she went to her teacher in first period and asked to be excused to go to the bathroom. She said for first and second period she tried not to be too upset- she cried a little bit but was just trying to figure out who would leave such a piece of trash in her locker. By third period, she had shown the note to a couple of her friends and they were so helpful, trying to play detective and at the same time telling her she should just ignore the stupid people! She managed to get through a math quiz and Spanish test and headed off to lunch in a pretty solid frame of mind. And that's when it really fell apart; apparently, the girls from the day before were the authors of the note. They lined up behind my daughter to get their lunch tray and started in on her. "Birth control whore", "I told my mom you were on the pill and she said you were nothing but a little tramp" "My mom said some guy she listens to on the radio was just talking about girls like you- he even said you were a slut!" "Yeah, my mom said the same thing, said it's about time people spoke up and weren't afraid to tell the truth"! They laughed, they harassed, they said so many things my daughter couldn't begin to remember it all- she walked back to her table without food and told her friends what was going on. She cried through lunch and through the rest of the day. She said she almost went to the office to call me to come get her but she was trying to be strong and not let them win! The last class of the day, however, was the final straw- it's her history class and 2 of these little monsters are in the class with her. They start the class off by talking about current events. One of the little witches brought up Rush Limbaugh and the (male) teacher said that he was an American Icon- sometimes he says things that can be construed as insensitive but overall, he was one of the few people left in today's media who was not afraid to speak the truth! The girls began to laugh and the conversation apparently changed. I don't think the teacher had any clue as to what was going on. My daughter said the rest of the class was just a blur- when the bell rang, she ran to her locker and down to the bathroom.

I asked my daughter how these girls found out about her being on birth control. It had to have come from someone on the trip, but we have no idea who. It doesn't matter, really, I just would like to know. My daughter looked at me so innocent, so very sad and asked me "Am I a slut because I take a prescription birth control pill? I don't take it because I am having sex, I take it to help my periods- am I a bad person, Mom?"

AM I A BAD PERSON? My 16 year old daughter asked me if she was a bad person because she is on the pill! Who are we? What century do we live in? Who in the hell has the right to say these things? Who does Rush Limbaugh think he is? Why is he allowed to say these things and hurt people? Why have I spent the last 2 days trying to convince my 16 year old that she is not a slut?

On Monday, I am going to my child's high school and meeting with her counselor and principal. I don't yet know what I am going to say but I know this- nothing is going to take away the pain my daughter felt, the humiliation she felt, the indignation she felt. Nothing will make this all O.K., nothing will take us back to before this all happened. As a parent, you want to protect your child from hurt and pain. I didn't protect my child from this- I can only try to make sure that she suffers no more at the hands of these little witches. Or ignorant assholes like Rush Limbaugh.

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2. Many teenage girls ...

... take birth control pills to alleviate severe acne.

The level of ignorance and hate that Limbaugh has engendered this time with his reckless language is beyond the pale.

Furthermore, it is so depressing that there are people out there who will defend him who don't even know what they are talking about ... it's just a kind of political tribalism run amuck.

Frankly, I don't think this Limbaugh/contraception debate is just a minor, radio personality controversy -- there are some real fundamental American principles and values under siege here. If Limbaugh somehow gets away with this, then I predict that the viciousness and hate from the right-wing, Tea Party faction will escalate into even more serious actions and behaviors.   

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3. so what "religion" do all these little perps belong to? nt   


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4. You made me cry.

I have a 13-year old. She would have stuck up for your daughter if she had been there. Hell, my 15-year-old son would have too. My greatest anger goes to the teacher who is telling these kids that Limbaugh is a reasonable person to listen to.

I would have some choice words for the admins at that school. And my daughter would have a few mental-health days coming at the movies with me, eating popcorn and forgetting about ugly people.

I just don't understand why people must teach their children to be such loathsome, insecure, petty people.

Hugs to you and your daughter. She is a VERY brave person for trying to handle it on her own. I only wish she hadn't needed to.     

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6. This really drives the point home.

Limbaugh's destabilizing campaign is working. I hope the barrage of criticism against him continues.   

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7. This story is horrific.

I just read the entire article and am quite dismayed.

It is solid evidence of what can happen in real life to innocents subjected to bullying due to the rants of ignorant assholes like Limbaugh and the just as complicit mothers of those girls who did the bullying.

When I have the time I plan to read all the comments and suggestions made below the article.

Thank you for posting it, kpete.     

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8. That's a school with a serious bullying problem

The 16 year-old needs to tell the bullies that they will be hypocrites if they use novocain next time they have their teeth cleaned. They will be interrupting another god-given function of the body - pain!     


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10. And Republicans take offense to the term hate radio. nt             

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13. A Limbaugh fan, and FB friend reiterated Rush's diatribe against women on my page.

This person is a pastor's wife, and a school teacher.

Americans have given Rush his microphone on our public airwaves. He's abused his privileges by spewing filth, and indecency. He's solicited pornography over our airwaves. Howard Stern had to move to XM radio in order to say things that are outside the bounds of common decency, Rush should have to do the same.     

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18. So true, and Stern wasn't in as many markets as Rush is in. In MANY of the markets that carry

the Limbaugh show, there really is little or no competition. Certainly, there's not competition from talk radio. It's either country music, religious programming, and right-wing hate radio. And we wonder why whole populations subjected to that kind of propaganda for 20+ years has been consistently voting for right-wing extremist.       

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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2012, 05:32:36 PM »
I didn't even have to read it to say, you are a liar kpete.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #2 on: March 04, 2012, 05:34:07 PM »
TLDR.  Zero bongs, bouncies shouldn't be about family unless they are evil rethuglican relatives.  Besides, the DUmmiesalways try and make their bouncies relevant to the current news cycle.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #3 on: March 04, 2012, 05:39:29 PM »
DUchebags, start your bouncy engines!
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #4 on: March 04, 2012, 05:40:12 PM »
:bs: on your story!

BTW, me and a friend were talking to a couple of girls a few years ago, they were from South America and both supported Obama (yes we had a discussion with them around the election), my friend and I are in the same age group and grew up kind of sheltered, so we asked them about kids today, thinks like "is sex rampant" in the schools, you know what they said? they said the white girls were whores, would sleep with anyone just to show they were cool. That was interesting and eye opening to say the least.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #5 on: March 04, 2012, 05:42:06 PM »
Ok I actually read the drivel. It's a "story" from dailykos. Still a bunch of BS.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #6 on: March 04, 2012, 05:43:00 PM »
I have never heard that birth control pills were efficacious for acne. My wife, who is a Nurse, says she thinks it does, but I can't imagine it's an FDA approved use for the drug. But, as always, I could be wrong.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #7 on: March 04, 2012, 05:43:38 PM »
update from the person who wrote the article at the Daily Kook:

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Update #2 I have been asked to update my post with this link to the petition to remove Rush Limbaugh from the Armed Forces Radio Network. Please, if you haven't done so, go sign this petition! We need to fight back- we need this idiot removed from the airways.

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Update #3 I forgot to say "thank you" for sending this to the top of the Rec List! I am so very grateful to all of you for your kind words and great advice! I need to take a little break- my family is going to take an afternoon trip together. Just get out of the house, and maybe go to a movie or shopping. I will be back later to comment and interact with all of you! BTW, I also wanted to say, I am not handling this all by myself- Beantown dad is very much involved! However, I cannot print anything he has to say on this matter right now :-)  He is beginning to calm down but this has devastated him as much (if not more) than it has me. His baby is being attacked and he just wants to mangle everyone involved! So, a break will do us all good I imagine! I will be back...
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2012, 05:46:38 PM »
Zero bongs due too the bouncy not being an original work by the gated primitive.

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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2012, 05:51:38 PM »
Go read her updated version at the link.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2012, 06:08:33 PM »
If the pill or other contraceptives are needed for some legitimate health reason other than contraception, then I would not have a problem with it being covered.  Unfortunately, that is a matter for the FDA to take up.  Insurance companies often refuse to cover prescription medicine if they are not being used for their FDA approved purposes.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #11 on: March 04, 2012, 06:12:15 PM »
Call Nancy P. at once so the 16 year old can testify before congress....and let the world know that she might be a slut....are at least a safe lay.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #12 on: March 04, 2012, 06:20:11 PM »
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I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"

Maybe she really is, but you really should find out first before shooting off your mouth.  Parenting like yours, always assuming your little hellion is an angel instead of examining the facts before attacking everyone else, is why this place is so ****ed already.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #13 on: March 04, 2012, 06:25:06 PM »
If a girl wonders whether she's a slut, she probably is.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #14 on: March 04, 2012, 06:37:27 PM »
Okay, trying to not judge here but why would she be on birth control if she is not sexually active?  I keep open an honest comunication with my daughter for this reason. I was pregnant at 15 with the same man I am with today,( but was unable to support a child) hate that I had to decide but did decide on an abortion. I wouldn't just tell my daughter she has to be protected from my choices in life and put her on bc because of it. Now if its because of a history of female problems, ie, irregular periods ect. I would think that would have been part of your original post. But at that age, girls brag, and I can assure you she most have told so called friends or this would not even be an issue worth posting.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #15 on: March 04, 2012, 06:42:11 PM »
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4. You made me cry.
Kag was actually moved to tears over this laughable bouncy?  How big of a sucker would you have to be?  I know that the DUmmies are stupid, but they can't expect us to believe that they're this stupid.  I didn't see a single skeptical comment.  I guess if you can believe that Sandra Fluke is a naive coed, you'll believe just about anything.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #16 on: March 04, 2012, 06:51:23 PM »
Quote from: GOBUCKS on March 04, 2012, 06:25:06 PM
If a girl wonders whether she's a slut, she probably is.

This. Hi-5.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #17 on: March 04, 2012, 06:55:54 PM »
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... take birth control pills to alleviate severe acne.

That's the excuse my next door neighbor (when still living in WI) always said when she put her 14 year old on BC.  Truth was, she was sleeping with EVERYONE who would get in bed with her.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #18 on: March 04, 2012, 06:58:21 PM »
Bull.  Complete total fabrication.  This is not the way teenagers speak to each other.  This is adult trying to sound like what they think teenagers would say and failing.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #19 on: March 04, 2012, 06:59:56 PM »
Quote from: sondrab on March 04, 2012, 06:37:27 PM
Okay, trying to not judge here but why would she be on birth control if she is not sexually active?  I keep open an honest comunication with my daughter for this reason. I was pregnant at 15 with the same man I am with today,( but was unable to support a child) hate that I had to decide but did decide on an abortion. I wouldn't just tell my daughter she has to be protected from my choices in life and put her on bc because of it. Now if its because of a history of female problems, ie, irregular periods ect. I would think that would have been part of your original post. But at that age, girls brag, and I can assure you she most have told so called friends or this would not even be an issue worth posting.

I remember having real painful periods. My doctor told me that if the medicine he gave me did not work, that birth control pills would be an option.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #20 on: March 04, 2012, 07:03:21 PM »
Some oral contraceptives can be effective against acne.  Some can be effective against debilitating cramps. 

This isn't the fault of Republicans.  Blame the Democrats who tried to muddy a discussion about the First Amendment by throwing in that chica and her birth control rant.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #21 on: March 04, 2012, 07:07:18 PM »
Quote from: longview on March 04, 2012, 07:03:21 PM
Some oral contraceptives can be effective against acne.  Some can be effective against debilitating cramps. 

This isn't the fault of Republicans.  Blame the Democrats who tried to muddy a discussion about the First Amendment by throwing in that chica and her birth control rant.

Which as I said, I'd have no problem with a doctor prescribing them for those reasons, but many insurance companies might not cover it since they are not FDA approved for those purposes.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #22 on: March 04, 2012, 07:10:32 PM »
Quote from: sondrab on March 04, 2012, 06:37:27 PM
Okay, trying to not judge here but why would she be on birth control if she is not sexually active?  I keep open an honest comunication with my daughter for this reason. I was pregnant at 15 with the same man I am with today,( but was unable to support a child) hate that I had to decide but did decide on an abortion. I wouldn't just tell my daughter she has to be protected from my choices in life and put her on bc because of it. Now if its because of a history of female problems, ie, irregular periods ect. I would think that would have been part of your original post. But at that age, girls brag, and I can assure you she most have told so called friends or this would not even be an issue worth posting.

There are some medical reasons why girls/women are put on birth control pills, but the majority of the time it's for birth control.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #23 on: March 04, 2012, 07:13:29 PM »
Quote from: thundley4 on March 04, 2012, 07:07:18 PM
Which as I said, I'd have no problem with a doctor prescribing them for those reasons, but many insurance companies might not cover it since they are not FDA approved for those purposes.

I would think that with medical advances since I was a teen (25 or so years ago) that there would be other alternatives now for those problems....but I'm not sure. I DO think that those reasons for birth control pills are a very small minority.
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Re: I've spent the past 2 days trying to convince my 16 y/o she is not a "slut"
« Reply #24 on: March 04, 2012, 07:16:13 PM »
Quote from: Ballygrl on March 04, 2012, 07:10:32 PM
There are some medical reasons why girls/women are put on birth control pills, but the majority of the time it's for birth control.


Agreed but being a newbie didn't want to be a total bitch that said outright, yeah she's a slut if she's out bragging about being on bc so she can sleep with more guys and not worry about it.
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