Is it really MY fault?

[Evil_Conservative]

Good gosh, woman!  Good for you leaving an abusive relationship, but that was seven years ago.  It's time to put on your big girl panties and support your family yourself.  Move to someplace cheaper.  I have never heard of a law or "rule" that said opposite sex children cannot share a room.

If I were to get pregnant and have a boy, our daughter and new baby would be sharing a room.  We cannot afford to move to a larger place right now.  We are staying where we are because it's what fits our budget.  Sometimes you need to downgrade.  Get yourself a household budget and support your family with pride, not with taxpayer money for SEVEN YEARS! 

Stop being a victim.

[GOBUCKS]

It's time to put on your big girl panties and support your family yourself. 

If she kept them on, she wouldn't be in this predicament.

[Evil_Conservative]

If she kept them on, she wouldn't be in this predicament.

This is true.

[BEG]

When we had or first child we lived in a one bedroom apartment...and I went back to work three weeks after I had him. My husband was in collage, I was the only one working full time and I didn't get paid maternity. You do what you have to do DUmmie, if you did what you had to do years ago (and I'm talking WAY before the 7 years you have been a drain on this country) you wouldn't be in the situation you are in now.

You are a LOSER and will NEVER be anything else. You don't have it in you to be anything but what you are right now.   Everyone slips and falls at some point, people like you stay down.

[seahorse513]

A masturbating teen?? That was way too much info for me or to put in the net...

Can I dropkick her now?? 7 years?? holy crap!!

Something tells me, she doesn't want to make any sacrafices...

If some one reports her for any reason to DHS. They'll look into the situation, and they might have standards.  (That mght be something for Nadine to google for us eh?? )

[Evil_Conservative]

When we had or first child we lived in a one bedroom apartment...and I went back to work three weeks after I had him. My husband was in collage, I was the only one working full time and I didn't get paid maternity. You do what you have to do DUmmie, if you did what you had to do years ago (and I'm talking WAY before the 7 years you have been a drain on this country) you wouldn't be in the situation you are in now.

You are a LOSER and will NEVER be anything else. You don't have it in you to be anything but what you are right now.   Everyone slips and falls at some point, people like you stay down.

No maternity leave pay for me either.  We had to (GASP!!) save up enough money while I was pregnant so we could afford to have me off eight weeks before heading right back to work again.

[delilahmused]

FirstLight Donating Member (1000+ posts)  Journal Click to send private message to this author Click to view this author's profile Click to add this author to your buddy list Click to add this author to your Ignore list    Thu Jan-21-10 11:59 PM
Response to Reply #58
72. Lol, my folks are so old-school...depression-era folks
   
My dad is 78, mom is 74...He sits in front of Faux all day and is very limited in his views (and for so many years growing up he was a Dem, too.) Mom is more liberal. But I think it is a condition of their generation to be ruled by fear and anxiety.
No, they don't live there, it's never been more than a wekend thing when was a kid. Now the property is all but abandoned...with a 3 bd house too..nobody has even BEEN up there for a few years...they check on it every five years or so, just to make sure the road hasn;t washed out or the house fallen apart or the property hasn;t been taken over by the pot growers. (hehe)

But the water supply is not reliable and a MODERN well needs to be surveyed and dug... the road really does need some real grading with a dozer and maybe a layer of good gravel (or that new eco-asphalt that filters the water through to avoid erosion) to keep it stable...and I would love to retrofit the house for solar, etc...

*sigh* ...I swear, it really sux knowing it is there and I can't access it. I have been telling my whole family that I am going to LIVE there and FARM one day since I was a teen... they all think I am nuts. They Like infrastructure. wierdos.

Healdsbrg, eh? do you know Armstrong Redwoods outside of Guerneville? ya, nice area...remote and good growing season and climate...

Oh, you've GOT to be kidding! I went to Healdsburg High for a year when I lived with my dad. My stepsister lives in Guerneville, and my half sister lives in Windsor. We ran around the grape vineyards and rode our dirt bikes out there all the time. Used to party at The Woods when I was in college because it was a gay bar and you could always get into them even if you didn't have ID. This, of course, was just before I met my husband who took be away from all this debauchery!

Cindie

[Skul]

FirstLight  (1000+ posts)        Wed Aug-31-11 03:42 PM
Original message

Is it really MY fault?  

Yes. STFU

[sybilll]

Alright, this thread has been chapping my ass all day.  And Ms. FirstLight has also been kicking it all day (I'll eat my hat if she doesn't have a PayPal account, wink, wink).  Here is an exerpt from her latest whoa is me entry:  ...and yes, I am one of those who think our President and ALL of congress are bought and paid for....and the 2% will continue to squeeze us until we are dry...

Squeeze us until we are dry?  Really?  Who the f&ck do you think has given you a free ride for years?  Who?  The fatherless family living in Section 8 next door to you?  And why your masturbating son did not sleep on the couch or an air mattress is beyond me.  And, FirstLight, I noticed in your journal that you rallied your hairdresser and dog groomer to help with the BP spill.  That happened 2 years after you had been on "cash aid", and you still had a hairdresser and dog groomer?  
Beside the fact that you make me physically ill, you are either the best mole ever, demonstrating the very reason the right is uprising, or you are simply a scum sucking scourge of society.  

[Skul]

Alright, this thread has been chapping my ass all day.  And Ms. FirstLight has also been kicking it all day (I'll eat my hat if she doesn't have a PayPal account, wink, wink).  Here is an exerpt from her latest whoa is me entry:  ...and yes, I am one of those who think our President and ALL of congress are bought and paid for....and the 2% will continue to squeeze us until we are dry...

Squeeze us until we are dry?  Really?  Who the f&ck do you think has given you a free ride for years?  Who?  The fatherless family living in Section 8 next door to you?  And why your masturbating son did not sleep on the couch or an air mattress is beyond me.  And, FirstLight, I noticed in your journal that you rallied your hairdresser and dog groomer to help with the BP spill.  That happened 2 years after you had been on "cash aid", and you still had a hairdresser and dog groomer?  
Beside the fact that you make me physically ill, you are either the best mole ever, demonstrating the very reason the right is uprising, or you are simply a scum sucking scourge of society.  

Even I felt the crack of that whip.

[NHSparky]

property hasn;t been taken over by the pot growers. (hehe)

I think we've seen her plans for her parents property.

[longview]

I'm not good with words.  But, know that as a single mom who raised three children, went to school for five years, stayed off public assistance with the exception of Medicaid for the kids while in school, and has had a wonderful life... I loathe everything I have read about this rip.  What a waste.

[NHSparky]

I've got a newsflash for ya, DUmmies--when TSHTF in the not-too-distant future, you want to know who's going to be leading the charge?

Not you.  Nor will it be the rich, your convenient foil.

No, denizens and leeches of the Internet and of society, it will be guys like me.  Guys who don't have a whole lot in this life, but that which we DO have, came by it by honest hard WORK and sacrifice.  For too many years, we've seen you out there, hands out, bitching and pissing that you're not "given" enough of the fruits of MY labor so you can sit on your ass with whatever malady, infirmity, or just weak ****ing excuse you have for not contributing like the rest of us.  Here we are, busting our asses to eek out a living while you live nearly as well as we do, and in some cases better than we do, just to be told we're selfish for not giving you MORE.

**** you.  Just **** you.

I've paid nearly $30K in federal taxes each of the last two years (2009 and 2010) and on track to pay at least that much again this year.  That does NOT include the Social Security that has been raped to death which I'll be lucky if I ever see a dime of my "contributions".  Nor does it include state taxes, property taxes, or any of the other myriad of taxes and "fees" we supposedly pay for the benefit of living in a civilized society.  And what does this money go to?  "Green" companies that go tits up because their products suck.  Welfare queens.  Food stamps so people can buy steak and lobster while I eat ****ing hamburgers and hot dogs.  "Retirement" benefits to people who weren't astute enough to save themselves, or who were gullible enough to think that "da gubmint" gonna provide.

Me, I see taxes as an investment in America.  You know, kind of like a stock, bond, or mutual fund.  Only problem is this--if America were a company, would YOU invest your hard-earned money in it?  I know, hypothetical question since ya'll spend your ****ing welfare checks on bong hits and Cheetos.  Your glorious leader talks a good line about having, "skin in the game."  Well, I can see where you have some too, although on the side of the sugar tit--taking all, giving nothing, demanding more.

And I've about had it with your shit, you ****ing whiny little bitches.  Ruck the **** up and pull your own ****ing weight, or I really WON'T have a problem letting you drown in your own shit.

[BlueStateSaint]

Ruck the **** up and pull your own ****ing weight, or I really WON'T have a problem letting you drown in your own shit.

Matter of fact, I won't have any problem holding their pointy little heads under the surface of the shit.

[Texacon]

Someone offers a solution;

SheilaT  (1000+ posts)      Wed Aug-31-11 10:36 PM
Response to Reply #20

29. Her two sons could have shared a room.
 
If she was concerned about the teen's behavior, how about talking to the teen about what is and is not appropriate to do in front of younger brother?

Mom and daughter can share a room.

I do know that the employment picture is quite rough, but the hospital I work in generally has about a hundred job openings at any time. Yes, most of them are for nurses, so anyone who has a nursing degree and claims there's no work is flat-out lying. But there are ALWAYS openings in other parts of the hospital: for registration people (that department has had 75% turnover in the two years since I first started); the lab, where they will train you to draw blood; for unit secretaries; even housekeeping and food service usually have openings.

The up side of hospital employment is that it generally includes good health benefits.

"There are no jobs" if you're looking in a lot of specific fields, but ever since I moved to Santa Fe (considered a difficult place to get work even in good times) at age 60, I have had no trouble finding work. Yes, it's all entry-level, not the highest paid out there, but it pays my bills.

I did not suggest there is endless money for retraining, but my hospital will reimburse most of the cost of classes relevant to the area you're in, and I'm pretty sure will pay for most of nursing school. 
 

But that shit ain't gonna fly;

FirstLight  (1000+ posts)        Wed Aug-31-11 10:53 PM
Response to Reply #29

31. you don't get it  

it's about stability, and the teen is out of the picture now so that's a moot point to argue.(though 'talking to the teen' was never an option either) The house is someplace we have been for 4 years after moving EVERY year since we have been free from the ex...that isn't healthy for them emotionally, it has been a HUGE struggle. No, I will find a way to make another $300-500 a month to stay here, even if it means ...well, we won't go there.

Hospital Jobs: there is ONE in town and it is not hiring, it's laying off. So is the City for that matter, it ain't pretty.
ANY job I go for, even an executive secretary position...like the P/T one i have now with a prominent non profit, pays $10/hr, that's it. No more if yuou have decades of experience, or great skills... just $10...some even as low as $8.50

I went back to school already, and it didn;t help for shit, can;t even get into the field i trained in.

So I am back to doing what I know, freelancing, design, minor webwork...if i can find it. gonna beat the bushes some more.

anything i do will require more than 4 hours of work ($40) in afterschool care.

so ya, thanks but no thanks
 
 

Now she says they've moved EVERY year since fleeing the ex .... and they have been in this home for 4 years so let's look at something;

FirstLight  (1000+ posts)        Wed Aug-31-11 04:11 PM
Response to Reply #11
13. well...
 
He is an 2 time ex-felon, just out of san quentin this year, we have a restraining order on him and have changed our names to hide... He keeps asking the child support people for an extention to find a job...

besides, he is also a child-pron addict (misdemeanor, they had to examine my daughter when she was 2 to see if he hurt her, inconclusive results)
and his big bust in 06 (we bailed in 04) was for selling drugs and assault... so ya, I am afraid to touch that with a 10 foot pole

Ok, so that was less than 6 years ago and they've been in this home for 4 years yet they moved EVERY single year since fleeing the ex ...

 

Life must be horrible. 

KC

[commonguymd]

She needs a man.

[Karin]

Good catch, Texacon, but that's too much math for them. 

Reading all five pages of this...you know what?  Words are failing me. 

[shadeaux]

No man wants a lazy doped up chick.

I have always thought that Drug Testing is Unconstitutional. And yes, while it makes sense in heavy equipment operations, for admin. work, filing or answering phones...it is ridiculous to me.

So the guy who goes on a bender all weekend and whose blood or urine is clean by monday can do whatever...but if I smoke a joint it is in my body for a month and I am the one who gets penalized? bullshit!

I have recently re-connected with a temp agency I used to do work for about 10 years ago...and in their NEW! 13 page application and reference and background check, is a form about drug testing... saying that "some" places want their temps tested, and if you test positive, you will be INELIGIBLE. Not just for that particular job, but for ALL positions for 6 months!

Why can't I tell these employers that I refuse to submit to these tests?
Why don't I have the OPTION to refuse and sign a waiver or something?
where are MY rights?


oh, so sorry...I am just a Prole...I have none.

(...THIS is why I need to make my freelancing business work for ME, because this is straight up bullshit and I am NOT working for a ****ing PRISON system...)

She needs to hook up with The Straight Story.

[commonguymd]

Good catch, Texacon, but that's too much math for them. 

Reading all five pages of this...you know what?  Words are failing me. 

I think this has some bouncy feel to me.   

[Chris_]

This *thing* is nearly 50 years old and still smokes dope like a teenager?  I'm surprised her brain doesn't resemble Swiss cheese.

[Texacon]

I think this has some bouncy feel to me.   

It's looking more and more like she is looking for a hand out.  She kicked her thread twice last night for "The Night Crew".

KC

[franksolich]

This *thing* is nearly 50 years old and still smokes dope like a teenager?  I'm surprised her brain doesn't resemble Swiss cheese.

My own attitude, exactly.

I mean, come on now, we all have to grow up sooner or later.

Dope's something one does in the late teenaged, early twenties, years, and then grows out of it; if one's still doing dope by, say, the age of 23, one's a loser for life.

Geezuz, I get accused, perhaps rightfully so, of being juvenile in some things every now and then, but nobody's ever accused me of being irresponsible and deluded.

[commonguymd]

It's looking more and more like she is looking for a hand out.  She kicked her thread twice last night for "The Night Crew".

KC

The assistance I would be humbly happy to offer is a call to social services about her illegal drug use, possibly around her children.

[Celtic Rose]

Good gosh, woman!  Good for you leaving an abusive relationship, but that was seven years ago.  It's time to put on your big girl panties and support your family yourself.  Move to someplace cheaper.  I have never heard of a law or "rule" that said opposite sex children cannot share a room.

If I were to get pregnant and have a boy, our daughter and new baby would be sharing a room.  We cannot afford to move to a larger place right now.  We are staying where we are because it's what fits our budget.  Sometimes you need to downgrade.  Get yourself a household budget and support your family with pride, not with taxpayer money for SEVEN YEARS! 

Stop being a victim.

When I was twelve and my brother was 8, my cousin and his wife moved in with my parents for about a year.  My parents had a three bedroom house, so my cousin and his wife got my room, and I got moved to a bunk bed in my brother's room.  I usually did my homework at the kitchen table, I went into the backyard if I wanted to play alone, and I learned to bring my clothes into the bathroom before taking a shower.  My brother and I ended up be well adjusted adults (well, my brother is still in college, but he is getting there) despite having opposite sex children sharing a room as older children.  

I can't believe that she would even consider "masturbation" as a reason not to have same sex children sharing a room.  If her older child is enough of a perv that he can't figure out not to do that in front of a younger sibling then he has some serious mental issues.

[shadeaux]

She probably won't kick her post today.  It's the first of the month.  Time to shop and replace the weed.

That's a fine parent right there.