They were raised by doting parents who told them they are special, played in little leagues with no winners or losers, or all winners. They are laden with trophies just for participating....
Where, exactly, did these idiots come from? I am 41, and my parents were, I think, at the very end of the last generation that produced sensible parents. They spanked me when I was little and did it right - which means, they doled out the spankings when I was old enough to handle them, but young enough to need them. Once I hit about 8 or 9, I was never spanked again... because I never needed one again. I just don't get someone who believes that "spanking is hitting and it teaches the child that violence is the way to resolve conflict". If that's true, this country would be full of violent a-holes and the prisons would be overflowing.
The fact is that kids from my generation were almost all spanked - all my friends were - and we were FAR more obedient and respectful to adults than kids are today. We were also "forced" to actually compete at sports! Oh noes! And our parents lectured us sternly if we had a tantrum over a loss. And if the loss was heartbreaking, we got a matter-of-fact explanation of the difference between winning and losing. They told us to try harder; they didn't hire a lawyer to secure the win for us.
And even though my husband and I are striving to raise the kind of kids we were and grew up with, society is making it really difficult.. If one of them needs a swat in public to refocus their behavior, too bad. I'm not risking a visit from CPS. And most recently our daycare, in an effort to become accredited, removed the behavior chart from my sons's classroom. It consisted of stars with each kid's name on a board with an area titled "I had a great day!" and another labeled "I need to try harder", and was a way to quickly assess how the kid was all day. If I saw his star on the wrong side of the line, I'd find his teacher and find out what he did and then discuss it and possibly punish him. One day the chart went "poof". The explanation? The accreditation guidelines prohibit the technique because it:
is negative feedback
and
it violates the child's privacy
Negative feedback? What the hell do they think negative behavior deserves??? And the privacy bit - what a laugh. Personally, I think they need to bring back the dunce cap and standing in the corner. Ridicule by one's peers is a powerful deterrent.
Truly frightening generation on the horizon.