Good grief....she wants the man dead.
And on a side note, if something happened to Mr Flame, I'd be fine. Ditto if something happened to me.
At least finacially. Emotionally, I'm not so sure.
despite our issues here, we also have had an emergency financial plan for many years now. It would allow me to complete school while remaining focused on the kids here for a few years and manage anything that would come after. By the same token, my other half, while not having as much on me, would still have plenty to at least pay the car off and a respectable portion of the mortgage, making new found childcare duties an easier expense on him and making his lifestyle and the children's, at least financially, pretty stable.
Why greenbrier would choose this as the time to discuss something like this given her multiple threads on how unhappy she is with the man is what is perplexing. I actually think I might 'get' her. I think she's grateful to the husband on a financial level and knows he is a good provider, but is very unhappy with the emotional aspect of the marriage. If that's all it is, then I get her. What I don't get though is that she has the power to leave financially...she is a teacher and has an individual income. What she seems to bemoan is the fact that he will take his income with him if they divorce. A lot of women would wish for the flexibility of a stable career that would allow them the oppurtunity to start over on their own time frame and could care less if that start is in an apartment on a tight budget with no lavish vacations or rings, as long as they are out of the bad marriage. She really should be ashamed of the things she writes. She has the flexibility to leave, but doesn't want to the take the hit of losing the things she's grown accustomed to. That's really at the heart of it. I guess she has a choice to make then doesn't she? Sleep with the husband a couple times a week and keep all her pretty things, or give up the pretty things and have life on her own terms without having to compromise with a partner...wonder which she values more?
