http://www.democraticunderground.com/10021304176Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:38 PM
MJkcj (182 posts)
my heart is breaking. my daughter is turning into a republican
I was raised by a feminist and am a proud liberal. I have a low tolerance for republicans who buy into the right wing hypocritical bullshit.
I have three beautiful intelligent daughters. One of them is living with a republican. I just saw her post something on facebook that made me realize I'm losing her.
my heart is breaking. anyone else go through this. how do you deal?
IOW, your daughter actually met a man that knows how to treat women and she realized her mom and grandma are mostly just man hating shrews.
Thrill (16,498 posts)
1. Sad
Knew it must have something to do with the guy she's with
Yeah, something about opening the door for her and paying for the date.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:43 PM
benld74 (3,703 posts)
2. Heck I make jokes in the house to my daughters,,,I tell them
Marry a rich republican, don't do what mom did.
THen take him to the proverbial cleaners!!!!
I figure, holidays will be V-E-R-Y intersting to say the least,,,
Wow, just wow. Men are to be used for the money. Good job raising strong independent daughters.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:43 PM
Angry Dragon (18,809 posts)
4. intervention and have her partner arrested for abuse
other than that, I got nothing
Sit down with her and have her tell you all the facts that have caused her to change
and then go on-line together to check the facts
Yeah, 'cause she wants to be as miserable as ma is, really.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:43 PM
SheilaT (10,533 posts)
5. How much are you in contact with her these days?
I know that it is terribly common for women to alter their views and thinking to be more in line with the men in their lives (which makes me wonder what it's like for same-sex couples, but that's a different conversation).
Is she open to reason? Can you get her to understand that she really is not part of the 1% -- at least I'm guessing that she's not. Can you show her that the current Republican thinking is absolutely opposed to her human-ness?
I feel for you, even though my two adult sons have stayed true to the liberal/progressive/Democrats that their parents are.
1%, why do you have to be the 1% to want the government to leave you alone to try and succeed?
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:43 PM
Skittles (80,980 posts)
6. FIGHT, MJkcj!!!!
she's hearing too much from one side - straighten her out!!!!!!! ARM HER WITH THE FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, Yes! Pound the table! Oh, wait, that is what you do when you don't have facts.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:45 PM
handmade34 (8,767 posts)
9. it will be ok
I too have a daughter who tends to date Republicans and is often taken in... I just keep talking to her and I know she hears... keep the lines of communication open with your daughter; you will not lose her forever
IOW, you are more than happy to sabotage your daughters relationships until you get a son-in-law that mooches off of her and doesn't like to work. Then you will be happy.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:45 PM
gateley (58,419 posts)
10. ...
I've lost a few friends who were influenced by the man in their lives, and I'm a little concerned about my niece. I don't know what you can do to change their minds except don't discuss politics. And maybe not read their Facebook page? It's so painful to see someone you love become something you hate.
Hate? You idiots hate everything. You hate each other. There is no becoming something you hate, you hate them already. It may be only because you hate your neice because of her youth, none the less...
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 09:55 PM
Zorra (16,656 posts)
17. OMG, I'm so sorry - what a nightmare! I'd be crushed, too.
I actually told my boys that if they ever became republicans it would totally break my heart, and I would consider myself a failure as a parent.
Anyway, look at the bright side - the guy is a republican, so he must be a total schmuck. Hopefully they'll break up soon, the spell will be broken, and she'll come back to sanity.
Now boys, you must never ever think for yourselves or you will break mommies heart. In fact I think it would be better if you just stayed in the basement with videogames, porn ,and cheetoes.
30. She wants the top rate of tax to be 3.6% below where you want it to be?
She's not comfortable with the Individual Mandate for health insurance?
Her views on gay marriage are the the same as what Obama's views were a few weeks ago prior to him evolving on the issue?
I think love should conquer pretty much most of these differences of opinion. If it bothers you that much, just don't talk about politics.
A voice of sanity.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 10:41 PM
appleannie1 (2,189 posts)
33. We rarely see one of our daughters and her ultra Christian neocon husband. It keeps peace in the
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family. He isn't even from this country yet knows all about what our forefather's wishes were. You just have to figure out a way to work with it and not let it totally tear the family apart.
That's because unlike you, he had to learn about our founding fathers and documents in enough detail to pass an exam for his citizenship. He couldn't just smoke pot and sleep through civics in high school.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 10:42 PM
DrewFlorida (229 posts)
34. I post replies to all republican lies I see on FaceBook, as a way to educate my adult sons!
By refuting all of the right-wing misinformation, my two adult sons have an opportunity to see the flip side of the important issues and therefore those lies left unanswered don't become known as facts. My sons read everything I post although they are not always pleased that I post so much politics on FaceBook, I consider it collateral damage, I would rather have them annoyed with me than ignorant of the facts of life!
And your adult sons laugh at your posts and go on with their day.
35. Yes, I have a son who's starting a new business and has been feeling the ReThugs
can be better for his business. He announced 2 weeks ago he'll be voting ReThug. However after the Dem convention...I think he's reconsidered. I do hope and pray he'll vote Democratic. He's always been a Dem but his help are all those stupid to white men and he gets to listen to a fair share of Obama bashing. I can't believe they vote against their own interests. He watches Matthews and he's helped to prevent him from really going off the deep end. I'm going to throw him all the life lines I can muster. What I really need is some talking points on how Obama will be good for really small business. Sorry can't type now...watching the end of Saving Private Ryan.
So you're going to rant at your adult son for the next eight weeks. I bet he quits answering your phone calls.
Response to MJkcj (Original post)
Sat Sep 8, 2012, 10:48 PM
ann--- (156 posts)
38. I know how you feel
One of my sons who was a staunch "no party affiliation" kind of guy is buying into his wife's politics. Very sad. I love him so much but refuse to talk about the election - or any political issue - with him and his wife.
I'm not registered to any party but I have never, ever voted for a Republican in a presidential or Congressional race and I NEVER WILL.
So you're son found a woman that opens the door for and pays for the dates? Or is it that he likes that he doesn't have to worry what disease he is going to catch hanging around her?
42. my sister's boyfriend is turning her into one too
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She was a liberal democrat but he is a conservative republican and has influenced her so much that she now posts republican talking points on facebook and so on. So I'm familiar with the situation, it is just something you have to deal with, and I don't let politics get in the way of family relationships.
Another for conservative men. Ya'll should be wondering what it is that they have that liberal men are lacking.
It goes on and on with quite a few low post count posters building cred. I don't just wonder how they get along with family, I wonder how they get along with anybody.